Which Parts of Our Wedding Should We Keep OFF of Social Media?

Getting engaged and planning a wedding is so exciting, how could you NOT share your enthusiasm on social media? But while some things, like ring selfies and engagement pictures, are great to share on Instagram, there are other moments you should probably keep to yourselves. Our experts rounded up a few things you really shouldn’t share about your wedding planning process.

Being engaged is all sunshine and daisies, right? Wrong. While it’s mostly full of love and excitement, planning a wedding comes with its fair share of stress, too. And it’s those stressful moments that you’ll want to think twice about before you take to Facebook. Fighting with your parents about the budget or having a disagreement with your mother-in-law about who will sit where? Keep the drama to yourself. Wedding planning or not, these moments are too personal and controversial to share with the world, and you could come across as ungrateful if the heat of the moment overwhelms your common sense. That’s not even considering the long-term impact airing this dirty laundry could have on your relationship — since you’re probably friends with half your fiancé’s family on Facebook at this point!

In fact, anything budget-related should really stay private. Sure, that awesome DIY project you completed is a great topic to share, but if the reason you learned calligraphy is because you couldn’t stomach the cost of hiring a pro, save that detail for yourself.

You should also think twice about sharing anything too intimate. Doing a boudoir shoot as a surprise for your groom? You probably don’t want pictures of you in lingerie floating around the web! And while you might be thrilled to wake up next to your brand new husband (as you should be!), skip the suggestive in-bed selfie and instead have a friend snap a pic once you’re both at your morning-after brunch and have had a little coffee — then have fun with those new Snapchat filters!

For anything you do decide to post, restraint is key. Instead of flooding friends’ feeds with a dozen posts from your tasting or your quest to find the perfect wedding shoes, edit your album down to a few select pictures that will hint at what’s to come without giving away every detail before your wedding day arrives.

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