Being part of a friend’s wedding party is a lot of work, but so is being the one wrangling the bridesmaids and groomsmen! Whether it’s taking their time ordering their bridesmaid dress or groomsman tux or (gasp!) not RSVPing on time, it can be pretty frustrating when the ones standing by your side on your wedding day are the ones giving you the hardest time. So how should you handle the non-responsive members of your wedding party? Here are some tips from our experts.

Before you jump to conclusions and decide to fire someone, get in touch with the bridesmaid or groomsman in question and let them know that you really need them to be more responsive. With your wedding date fast approaching, you have every right to say you need a quicker response time and their help getting things checked off your to-do list.

Now is also the time to enlist your maid of honor and best man for help. The best way to avoid being a bride- or groom-zilla is to let someone else be the one sending out all the emails and making all the phone calls! Ask them to do the follow-up, and encourage them to stress how helpful it will be to you, the bride, if some of these details get taken care of ASAP. No one wants to cause a bride undue stress, so some encouragement could be just what they need.

If it’s really getting out of hand, consider a friendly ultimatum. Remind them why you asked them to be a part of your wedding day, and let them know how much their involvement means to you, but emphasize the work and time you’ve put into the celebration. Sure, a groomsman in the wrong color tie won’t ruin your wedding day, but after all of your effort to this point, a little extra effort on their part is well-deserved. And of course, if it seems that they won’t be able to handle the duties after all, offer them an out, and ask them if they’d rather attend as just a guest.

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There’s little to no doubt about the level of Kate Middleton’s flawlessness. Ever since the now-Duchess of Cambridge stole the heart of our teenage heartthrob, Prince William, took the bridal world by storm with her epic wedding dress, and then subsequently had two as-close-to-perfect-as-possible children, we’ve just come to accept the fact that Kate Middleton can do no wrong. But, well, we were wrong about that.

At a charity gala this week for East Anglia’s Children’s Hospices, the mother of Prince George and Princess Charlotte revealed to a group that she, um, kind of sucks at cooking — oh, and we should mention that the group she was talking to included Michelin-starred chefs, according to Vogue. “William has to put up with my cooking most of the time,” she reportedly said. Her husband confirmed: “It’s the reason I’m so skinny,” Prince William added, jokingly. Turns out, Kate ain’t no Betty Crocker.

In the Duchess’ defense, the Prince may be no more culinary-inclined: during their recent Indian tour, she refused to even taste the dosa he’d prepared, according to People.

Regardless of their ineptitude in the kitchen, Prince William and his beloved still do their own cooking, apparently — as recently as 2015, reports speculated that the royal couple did not employ a chef — in order to preserve their privacy.

Despite this new evidence to the contrary, we still think the Duchess of Cambridge is pretty much as close to perfect as possible. Just last week she re-wore something from her wedding day — no, not the Alexander McQueen wedding dress that launched a thousand long-sleeve lace wedding gowns, but her bespoke Robinson Pelham bridal earrings — and created an Internet sensation in doing so. Besides, who cares if the Duchess of Cambridge can’t fry an egg? We think this new little tidbit of insider info just adds to her charm.

Packing for your honeymoon is all about ease. You’ve had a stressful few months of wedding planning, so avoiding packing drama is essential! And, packing your toiletries is a recipe for post-wedding stress. Months of careful skin care planning, facials, and drinking lots and lots of water have made you a glowing bride with the pictures to prove it. Don’t let your hard work go to waste and focus on packing light essentials to let your natural beauty shine through.

Here, our tips for getting that newlywed honeymoon glow, without all the junk.

Have Glow Will Travel

The wedding has come and gone, but that doesn’t mean it’s time to trade in your bridal glow for a dull complexion. Keeping up with your skincare regime on the honeymoon is the key to maintaining that glow. Choose a version of your go-to products that is easy to use and more importantly easy to pack. Obsessed with Pixi’s cult-followed Glow Tonic? Try the brand’s new Glow Tonic To-Go ($18) pre-soaked pads to keep your skin bright and hydrated when you’re sipping cocktails pool-side.

Make Sure You Multi-task

Want to avoid suitcase full of exploding lipsticks, blushes, and eye? Who doesn’t. Here’s the secret to packing makeup for your honeymoon — a product that does it all! A multibalm adds color to the cheeks, lips and eyes — but Pixi’s (Pixi MultiBalm, $12) version also hydrates with aloe vera, shea butter, and rose hip oil. Keeping your makeup routine minimal is also key to giving your skin a break after the weeks of beauty trials, and heavy photo-ready wedding day makeup.

Treat and Protect Yourself

Nothing screams for skin hydration more than a day of sitting in the sun. First, make sure you’re protecting your skin with a sunscreen with SPF 30 (at least), and at the end of the day, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate! Pixi’s H2O Skindrink ($22) will get rid of that post sun “tight” feeling, and when mixed with an oil-based serum (like Pixi’s Rose Oil Blend, $24) it makes all the difference in rescuing your skin from sun damage. Sweet almond, rosehip, jojoba, pomegranate seed, and rose geranium oils are key to locking in moisture, even after you’ve had a little too much sun exposure.

Even though Prince Harry has made it very clear that he’s not trying to settle down yet (really though, when will he stop breaking hearts all over the world?), not everyone is listening — and some are even trying to change his mind. Case in point: While attending an event in England to promote sports and well-being in children, a young fan asked him the question that many ladies around the world have been dying to ask the redheaded royal — “Will you marry me?”

This six-year-old named Lottie used her time to speak with the prince during a recent charity event and decided to lay it all out there, saying the things that most women in the world are thinking. “I want to be a princess,” she explained (yasss queen, tell it how it is!). Fortunately for the rest of us, he did turn her down, but it was not without an explanation — something every girl wants to hear when rejected, obviously. “You don’t want that — there’s too big an age gap. You’ve been reading a lot of books,” he responded, according to E! News. We’re guessing Lottie felt pretty bummed with his backhanded compliment and rejection, but hey, we can’t fault her for trying. What girl doesn’t grow up wanting to marry a real-life prince — just ask any ’90s girl about her Prince William obsession.

Among the other lucky little ladies he chatted with was a girl named Mattie — who he bonded with over their shared vibrant bright red hair. “You’re nice, very pretty. Are you having fun?” he told her. Too cute. The prince attended this charity event to interact with the children, which was hosted by RFU and StreetGames, which helps British children from low-income households get better acquainted with sports activities. The chief executive, Jane Ashworth, had nothing but nice things to say about the royal heartthrob, noting his good deeds. “It’s fantastic that Prince Harry has such a commitment to helping young people through sport. I think it’s really clear from looking at the kids that they feel validated, that what they’re doing is important. Harry coming here reinforces that commitment.” Handsome AND good with kids? Sounds like marriage material to us.

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So will Britain’s most eligible bachelor be off the market any time soon? With that charming smile and hint of bad-boy mystery (with a side of prince), only time will tell, as he’s definitely been toying with our emotions and wavering back and forth about the marriage situation. Most recently, the fourth-in-line to the throne was linked to actress/model Cressida Bonus, but the pair broke up in 2014. In 2015, the royal surprised many by saying he was all about dat (family) life and getting married, sharing with Sky News, “I would love to have kids right now. There come times when you think now is the time to settle down, or now is not, whatever way it is, but I don’t think you can force these things it will happen when it’s going to happen.” Well that sounded promising, until he revealed to the U.K.’s Sunday Times just last month that he has “massive paranoia that sits inside” of him when it comes to marriage. “If or when I do find a girlfriend, I will do my utmost…to ensure that me and her can get to the point where we’re actually comfortable with each other before the massive invasion that is inevitably going to happen into her privacy,” he said. “The other concern is that even if I talk to a girl, that person is then suddenly my wife, and people go knocking on her door.”

Fair enough, Prince Harry. At least you’re looking out for your future wife’s best interest. But just know that Lottie and the rest of the world is hoping you change your mind soon!

There’s a saying that the devil is in the details. And when it comes to wedding planning fights, that saying couldn’t be more true. “While you may argue about the big things, like the budget or venue, you’re likely going to bicker most often about the little things,” warns Amy Nichols, owner of Amy Nichols Special Events and co-founder of The Poppy Group. “Recognizing early that even the small things require cooperation and consideration will help the wedding planning process flow much more easily.”

With that in mind, here are five little things that can lead to big wedding fights, and how to solve — or better yet, avoid — each one.

1. Your partner’s attire.
We know what the bride wears on the big day is a big deal. But you may find yourself bickering if your partner wants to pair a tuxedo with his Chuck Taylor’s. “Brides and grooms often argue over the look and style that is expected of them on the wedding day,” says Nichols. “Staying as true to the actual likeness of the couple in everyday life is always the best bet. But arguing happens when couples can’t agree on what that is exactly.”

2. Your invitation wording.
You may have never imagined you’d have war or words with your significant other over your invitation wording. But, as Two Little Birds Planning owner Jaclyn Fisher explains, the order in which you list your parents on this piece of paper can be a touchy subject, especially if one set is footing the bill for your big day. Don’t let wording lead to a disagreement between you by choosing a neutral invitation phase, such as, “along with their parents,” Fisher suggests.

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3. The cost of a small item.
When you’ve already booked and paid for the big things, it can be easy to overlook that little costs can quickly add up. “Favors cost how much? It’s not uncommon for one partner to begin calculating the small things and begin getting frustrated by the total,” says Nichols. “This finds you arguing about whether the mercury glass candle holder is worth the extra $2.” Sidestep this argument by building even the smallest items into your initial budget, and being open about your spending as you plan.

4. The bachelor or bachelorette party.
Whether driven by finances for a costly out-of-town celebration or concern your partner will cross the line, couple’s often fight over these particular parties, says Fisher. “Avoid arguments by discussing your feelings, possible scenarios, and how you would both handle them if they arise,” she suggests, adding it’s best to host the parties far before the wedding, which will give everyone time to recover and recoup.

5. Your wedding flowers.
It’s tough to imagine bickering over something so beautiful. But when you ask your beau to choose between English garden or American beauty roses and get a non-committal answer, an argument can soon blossom. “It’s not the actual flowers causing the fight,” says Fisher. “It’s the groom’s lack of involvement or opinion.” So, be sure to clearly communicate to your partner how much you value and need his opinion. Or, “if it’s already an issue, don’t let it escalate,” encourages Fisher. “Let him know that you want him involved so the wedding reflects both of you.”

Rustic weddings are so last year! Now, it’s all about modern geometrics and all things eclectic. For a more detailed look at what’s hot (and what’s not so much anymore) in the wedding world, take a peek at these five wedding themes that are super on trend right now.

1. All Things Eclectic
In a continued effort to represent the bride and groom uniquely, more and more clients are asking for “eclectic but chic” designs, reveals planner Lauren Chitwood, owner and founder of Lauren Chitwood Events. “Think mismatched accessories and interesting pattern play. The goal is to have an effortless look that is flawlessly done.” Because who doesn’t love a perfectly imperfect wedding?

2. Dreamy Greenery
Greenery is back and in a big way! According to Chitwood, the days of compact floral mounds are out, as beautiful arrangements with textural greenery are all the rage now. This theme works beautifully both indoors (for example, at a hip industrial space) and out (on an urban rooftop or in the middle of the forest), with string lights or other soft lighting like candles helping set the stage for organic romance.

3. Modern Geometrics
The rustic trend is finally beginning to take a new shape, yay! Brides who still want an organic feel but without being too “country” are digging geometric accents, like flower-filled terrariums, tells Dezhda “Dee” Gaubert, owner of No Worries Event Planning. “Mixing in lush greenery and blooms with metallic and glass in bold geometrics adds a welcome modern edge to the rustic look that had started to overstay its welcome.”

See More: How to Pull Off a Themed Wedding Without Being Cheesy

4. Holiday Celebrations
‘Tis the season to throw a holiday-themed wedding! As our lives continue to get more hectic and destination weddings become commonplace, Chitwood says couples are eager to combine their celebrations with popular calendar holidays that are perfect for a party (or, you know, a mini vacation for their guests too). “Halloween, New Year’s Eve and the Fourth of July have become hot themes for festive nuptials, as these special dates naturally lend themselves to themed celebrations,” she notes.

5. Dark Colors
Bye-bye blush, hello color! As we all know, light pinks and blush have been a very dominant, go-to color theme over the past several years. “Now, many brides and grooms are starting to deepen their palette with richer hues to provide an edge to their look without losing a sense of elegance,” explains Gaubert. “Dark, rich colors bring depth and gravity to d&#233cor and work particularly well for fall and winter weddings.” Black wedding cakes are even a thing now!

What were you doing when you were 9 years old? We were busy twirling about in oversized pretend wedding dresses — not professionally photographing real-life brides in theirs. But this particularly precocious 9-year-old is doing just that! No joke — this pint-sized photographer is the wedding shutterbug of your dreams. But good luck trying to book her: The girl is in high demand!

Most nine-year-olds snag the flower girl role at weddings — not nuptial photographer! Regina Wyllie of Ayrshire, Scotland, first picked up a camera at the age of three. Now in the fifth grade, brides are already asking for her by name! And before you scoff at the idea of giving someone whose age hasn’t even hit the double digits yet the responsibility of capturing the most important day of your life, take a gander at the girl’s perfect pics. They speak for themselves.

Wyllie started by tagging along with her photographer dad, Kevin Wyllie, on his various shoots, before ditching her toy camera, grabbing her pop’s Canon G9, and taking a shot at the craft herself. At 7, one of the petite photographer’s pics from a “Trash the Dress” photoshoot she accompanied her dad on was picked up for Think Tank Photo. And if that wasn’t impressive enough, in April Wyllie shot her first official wedding — at the personal request of the bride and groom!

“I really enjoyed the wedding as I had to work quite fast, which was a challenge,” Regina told the Huffington Post. “It was great fun.” And thanks to some rave reviews, the 9-year-old (Have we mentioned that this girl is 9? NINE?!) already has another gig lined up. “[The couple] was delighted,” said her proud dad. “In fact, they told me that Regina’s shots, especially of their own children, had brought tears to their eyes.”

What’s this little one’s photo-snapping secret? Not only does she have all the technicalities down pat, Wyllie also effortlessly manages to put her subjects at ease. (And let us tell you… That’s no easy task when it comes to brides on their wedding day!) “I think that her shots have a unique style due to the fact that people relax more around a kid with a camera than an adult,” Wyllie’s dad explained to Bustle. “They don’t really expect the shots to be anything special, so they let their guard down. That’s when she captures them at their most natural.”

So what’s Regina’s favorite part of her new gig? “When someone asks to see the screen to see how the pic turned out and watching them smile.”

See More: How to Get the Wedding Photographer of Your Dreams (and Still Stay in Budget)

What is an indicator of a happy and successful relationship? Couple rings? Countless couple photos on Facebook? Family and friends who get along swimmingly?

According to science, the best way to tell if a couple is happily in love is by looking at their waistlines.

Research on the National Center for Biotechnology Information found that couples who report satisfaction in their marriage tend to GAIN weight.

For a period of four years, researchers followed 169 couples on their first marriage. They measured the couples’ weight twice a year, and asked questions about their marital life and overall satisfaction.

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The results? People in happy marriages gained a significant amount of weight.

Meanwhile, those who remained slim reported rocky marriages that eventually ended in divorce.

The researchers theorize that the phenomena has something to do with attracting mates. Happier couples no longer feel the need to attract a new mate; therefore, there’s less stress on appearance. Meanwhile, those in rocky relationships maintain their slim figure to continue attracting mates.

Although these couples don’t have to worry about their partner only loving them for their looks, that leaves the question on whether stable relationships have a negative impact on health.

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Psychologist Andrea L. Meltzer, who led the research, said that couples should pay attention when it comes to their weight gain, because it can lead to health consequences such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

“By focusing more on weight in terms of health implications as opposed to appearance implications, satisfied couples may be able to avoid potentially unhealthy weight gain over time in their marriages,” she said.

There’s nothing wrong with not paying attention to your appearance, because you’re confident that your spouse would continue to love you despite it.

However, health should not be compromised, even for love.

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This article originally appeared on YourTango.

To keep the celebrations going even after your wedding day ends, embrace the post-wedding brunch. You’ll have the chance to relive the magic of the day before with an intimate group of family and friends while enjoying some yummy bites. These six Chicago restaurants offer private rooms and delicious menus for a momentous sendoff to your honeymoon.

Atwood (Above)
Gather up to 30 people in Atwood’s private, art deco-inspired Reliance Room, just three blocks west of Millennium Park. The restaurant serves elevated American dishes featuring locally sourced and in-season ingredients alongside inventive breakfast cocktails. The jalapeño-infused, bacon-topped Bloody Mary is a surefire way to keep the party going. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Formento’s
Italian families will feel right at home at the West Loop spot, which puts Italian dishes like prosciutto eggs Benedict next to trendy eats like avocado-topped crostinis. For an intimate experience, the dishes can be served family style in the private dining room on the second floor. Airy drapes and a brick wall are ready to transport you and your guests to the Italian countryside — if only for a few hours.

Miss Ricky’s in Virgin Hotel
If your guests are staying at a downtown hotel, Miss Ricky’s offers a convenient Loop location for a day-after meet up. The menu — an inventive take on classic American diner food — impresses too. Think chicken and waffles, French toast, and chilaquiles — just what you need after a big night. For a bit more privacy, book the diner’s Casting Room. The space plays up a Hollywood vibe with spotlights and velvet banquettes. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Nico Osteria
This Gold Coast restaurant is home to modern Italian cuisine and boasts three incredible private dining spaces to host your brunch. Each space at Nico Osteri holds 20 to 25 people (and can be combined if you have a large group of out of towners and extended family) and features rich, jewel-toned décor and eye-catching light fixtures. The multi-course family-style menu is yours for the choosing. Standouts include house-made pastries, classic brunch dishes like eggs Benedict and biscuits and gravy, and Intelligensia coffee.

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bellyQ
Heading to Asia for your honeymoon? The West Loop’s bellyQ will warm up your taste buds and segue right into your first adventure as newlyweds. Dishes like sausage, egg, and cheese on steamed buns and breakfast fried rice prove this is anything but your standard brunch. You can make it even more unique by securing the restaurant’s private room for up to 40 of your loved ones.

The Bristol
West side residents may decide to choose a local restaurant for the day-after brunch to show off their regular stomping grounds. Enter: The Bristol in Bucktown. The upstairs private dining space features a cozy fireplace, private restrooms, a private bar, and plenty of room for your guests to spread out. Brunch packages start at $20 a person for one starter and one sweet or savory entrée. Read real brides’ reviews here!

For more local venues in Chicago, head to our Chicago Venues page!

While engagement rumors are swirling for Katie Holmes and newly-official beau Jamie Foxx, we’re busy getting nostalgic over the couch-jumping, cringe-inducing, Armani-clad love affair that was Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, a.k.a. TomKat. From their whirlwind romance, to an Eiffel Tower proposal, a dream Italian wedding, and a designer clad offspring, we’re looking back at all things TomKat, and we’ve gotta tell you: we missed them!

How They Met
Only a month after calling off her engagement to actor Chris Klein, Holmes was spotted in Rome hand-in-hand with her childhood crush, the one and only Tom Cruise. “When I met Tom I was completely in love and, yes, I admired him growing up — he’s Tom Cruise!” she told T: The New York Times Style Magazine back then.

Things escalated quickly and before we knew it, they had one of the best celebrity couple monikers to date — TomKat! — and Cruise was jumping up and down on Oprah’s couch exclaiming “I’m in love!”

The Proposal
It’s been a little over a decade since the proposal heard round the world — and it’s still as insane as it sounds. After only six weeks of dating Tom Cruise popped the question to Katie Holmes on June 17, 2005 in a dream proposal scenario.

“Yes, I proposed to her. … It was early this morning at the Eiffel Tower, so I haven’t slept at all,” Cruise said at a press conference later that day.

After a candlelit dinner at Le Jules Verne restaurant in Paris, Cruise got down on one knee and proposed to his lovely lady at 12:30a.m. The couple, who were in town for his War of the Worlds premiere, then held a joint press conference to officially announce their engagement.

The Ring
It wasn’t the first time Katie Holmes would slip a rock on her ring finger — the actress was previously engaged to fellow 2000s actor Chris Klein — but it was certainly the most jaw-dropping! Cruise presented Holmes with a 5-carat oval-shaped engagement ring from Fred Leighton, complete with an additional 6 carats of smaller diamonds around the setting. Estimated value: $275,000. No word if the Dawson’s Creek star kept the ring after things went South in 2012.

The Wedding
Shortly after getting engaged, the super star couple would make another announcement — a baby was coming! Suri Cruise was born on April 8, 2006, and has had paparazzi scrambling ever since. Suri’s official debut was made on the September 2006 cover of Vanity Fair — then the couple got down to the business of getting married.

In extravagant TomKat fashion, the couple set a date (November 18, 2006) for an over the top, star-studded Italian wedding. As part of a week-long celebration, the bride’s parents hosted a rehearsal dinner for guests at a 17th century villa. The next night, guests like Giorgio Armani (who created the bride’s two wedding dresses and the groom’s tux), Will and Jada Pinkett Smith, David and Victoria Beckham, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, J.J. Abrams, Cameron Crowe, Leah Remini (that’s a whole other story!), Brooke Shields and more guests gathered at the converted 15th-century armory in Odescalchi Castle to watch Katie Holmes become Mrs. Tom Cruise. Along with their traditional vows, the couple took part in a 20-minute “double ring” Scientology ceremony where they agreed “to never close their eyes in sleep on a disagreement or an upset.” Fitting considering Church of Scientology leader David Miscavige served as Cruise’s best man.

An over-the-top celebration followed with dinner seranaded by Andrea Bocelli, and the couple’s first dance to Fleetwood Mac’s “Songbird.” After cutting the cake and a cascading display of fireworks it was off to another castle hall for a night of partying and dancing, where the newlyweds took centerstage on the dance floor. Cruise sang along when “You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling” came on, and even J.Lo got in on the action singing one of her hits live. The celebration raged until 3:30 a.m. when the couple finally called it a night.

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The next day the new Mr. and Mrs. Cruise and daughter Suri set aboard a private jet for a luxurious Maldives honeymoon.

The End
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes shocked the world by calling it quits in 2012. Suri Cruise continues to be one of the world’s best dressed children.