Looking for some bachelorette party inspiration? It’s time to reconsider a classic bachelorette party destination — Las Vegas! Vegas is known for its over-the-top everything. The hotels aren’t just places to sleep, they’re pleasure palaces with nightclubs, gaming, shows, and more. And the restaurants aren’t just places to eat, they’re culinary destinations where celebrity chefs produce extravagant creations and dining is a spectacle. In the last decade, Vegas has become one of the top dining destinations in the world, and a one-stop shop for anyone looking to sample from the world’s top chefs. For foodies, Vegas offers plenty to do for a bachelorette weekend or a girls’ trip — even if you don’t want to set foot in a casino.

Where to eat:
Vegas has no shortage of incredible restaurants lining the Strip — and beyond. From classic diner food to refined French gastronomy, there’s something for everyone. Figure out what kind of cuisine appeals to you, or which celebrity chef’s food you want to try, and narrow down your selections from there.

You’ll find most of the big name chefs represented in Sin City: Bobby Flay, Tom Colicchio, Gordon Ramsay, Thomas Keller, Wolfgang Puck, Emeril Lagasse, Giada De Laurentiis, and many, many more. Renowned chef Jose Andres has a number of restaurants scattered up and down the Strip. For a lively girls’ night out, head to Jaleo at the sexy Cosmopolitan hotel for Spanish tapas, paella, and craft cocktails, including the chef’s twist on gin and tonics.

On weekends, don’t miss brunch at Michael Mina’s Parisian-style bistro, Bardot. While the dinner selections are equally decadent and delicious, it’s brunch that’s the star. Along with temptingly rich dishes like the hunter’s waffle (poached eggs and duck confit on a waffle draped in rich Maltaise sauce), croque madame, and croissant Benedicts with lobster or smoked salmon, diners can opt to add a bottomless glass of rosé wine to the experience for just $20.

When it’s time for dinner, stick around for classic Italian in a sophisticated setting at Carbone, or wander down the strip for traditional French bistro fare at Mon Ami Gabi, or inventive interpretations of Chinese cuisine at Mr Chow.

Tip: Las Vegas restaurants are often huge, seating hundreds of diners, but the best ones do fill up. Be sure to make reservations early for your top choices. If you can’t snag a table at a place you’re dying to try and you’re traveling with smaller crew, consider going earlier in the evening and scoring seats at the bar. And if you’re traveling with ‘maids on a smaller budget, consider dining at the more expensive places for lunch, when prices are lower.

What to do in between meals:
Even with three meals a day, there’ll still be some downtime in the schedule of any food-centric trip to Vegas. If avoiding the casinos is a priority, it’s easy to find other activities that will do more than just kill time.

Check out a bit of Las Vegas history at the Neon Boneyard, an outdoor collection of some of the city’s most iconic old neon signs. One-hour tours are offered every day (and night) and the docents share secrets and insider knowledge of the city’s history, from its heyday to today. Tours often sell out, so be sure to book in advance.

For a bird’s-eye view of the Strip, take a spin on the High Roller, one of the city’s newer attractions. The 28 glass-enclosed pods on the 520-foot ferris wheel take 30 minutes to complete one full revolution, so you have plenty of time to admire the views. Pods hold up to 40 people, and it’s possible to reserve a pod for your group, or book the Happy Half Hour experience; the ticket includes an open bar with unlimited beer and mixed drinks inside the cabin.

To take your own cooking skills to the next level, learn from the best with a private cooking class at Guy Savoy. The classes are available for up to six people and take place in the Guy Savoy kitchen with Executive Chef Julien Asseo, who walks students through the creation of two dishes, such as a carrot-ginger soup with poached egg, and an herb-crusted rack of lamb with stuffed pasta. Along the way, the charming Chef Asseo gives student tips on chopping, poaching the perfect egg, making herb-infused olive oil, and much more—all in a patient, clear, and easy-going way that immediately puts students at ease. If you’ve ever wanted to spend time in one of the world’s best kitchens and get one-on-one instruction from a top chef, the class is a worthy investment. Bonus: at the end, students get to eat their creations, plus dessert, paired with wine.

Where to stay:
The boutique Cromwell is the perfect place for those looking to avoid much of the casino scene. Unlike at some Strip hotels, where reaching your room means a 30-minute walk through the smoky casino, at the Cromwell it’s just a minute or two from the lobby to the hotel elevators. And unlike large hotels, where the check-in area is a mob scene, the small size of the Cromwell—it has just 188 rooms—ensures a more personal experience without a lengthy wait. The rooms are decked out in sexy Parisian décor, with dark wood floors, leather headboards, and vintage touches, like luggage-inspired dressers. Room service is provided by Giada’s and there’s an onsite pool and nightclub, Drai’s. The lobby bar, Bound, serves excellent craft cocktails in a relaxed setting, and guests are treated to a complimentary glass of champagne.

If you’d prefer a bit more action without all the trappings of the biggest casinos, the ARIA is another great option. With a perfect location mid-Strip, dozens of great restaurants (like the aforementioned Bardot), multiple lounges, and commanding views of the Strip from every room, it’s a swanky option perfect for those who want to avoid some of the Sin City fray without sacrificing a luxury experience.

See More: 5 Alternative Bachelorette Destinations That Aren’t Las Vegas

When it comes to unique proposal ideas, we’ve seen our fair share. But Michael DiMeo’s flash mob proposal to his boyfriend during a dodgeball game may just take the cake — and definitely will have you crying some happy tears.

It started as a normal day in Pittsburgh as any dodgeball tournament would. However, DiMeo had bigger plans for his boyfriend, Angelo. He created a plan to propose during the tourney that would make Vince Vaughn and Ben Stiller jealous, sharing on his YouTube page about the event. “[Angelo] has no idea he’s about to see a group of his friends start dancing to some of his favorite songs. But why wasn’t he invited to dance?!?!” The reason, of course, is because Angelo is about to get engaged.

DiMeo executed the heart-warming proposal to his boyfriend perfectly, having his friends join in the dodgeball game to play the (surprisingly) competitive sport — and then turning into a flash mob, according to New Now Next. The group performed several songs including “I’m Your Baby Tonight” by Whitney Houston and “G.U.Y.” by Lady Gaga (complete with some swing dancing), and then DiMeo, ready to pop the question, entered in a full suit (even though proposing in dodgeball gear would have been just as cute).

Once in the gym, he and the rest of the flash mob danced to “Trumpets” by Jason Derulo before finishing out with the obvious choice, “Marry You,” by Bruno Mars. Cue all the feels!

See More: Our 12 Favorite Celebrity Proposals

And we’re not the only ones crying, that’s for sure. It’s clear that unsuspecting Angelo is totally feeling the love, as he is seen throughout the video covering his mouth and weeping in surprise. At the end of the serenade, DiMeo’s friend hands him flowers as he brings his beau to the center of the gym and asks him the question anyone in love wants to hear, “I love you, you mean the world to me. Will you marry me?” The two lock in an embrace as the crowd cheers, and well, the rest is history. It’s too cute to be true, really.

“He had no idea this was coming and his reaction was everything I had hoped for, priceless! To all the people who helped me put this event together, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you friends, thank you family and thank you Stonewall Sports Pittsburgh! Here’s to a new chapter! I love you all!” DiMeo shared on his YouTube page.

Watch the adorable video below.

Jessica Hendricks, founder of the jewelry company The Brave Collection, and Patrick Yee, Executive Vice President of Marketing and Strategy for Refinery29, have Elton John to thank for their meeting — his music, at least! “We were out at a mutual friend’s birthday party at a karaoke bar and I shamelessly sang ‘Tiny Dancer,'” Jessica says. “Patrick came over afterwards and wanted to meet me!” The pair dated long distance (he was living in Los Angeles while she called New York home) until January 31, 2015, when Patrick popped the question during a weekend getaway in Palm Springs, a locale Jessica had come to love during their years of dating. “I fell madly in love with the wild desert landscape, something I had never seen as a New Yorker!”

While the couple knew they’d return to Palm Springs for their nuptials, it was important to Jessica and Patrick that they find a venue that was special enough for justify asking more than half of their 156-person guest list to fly across the country to celebrate. “We wanted a space that felt lush and otherworldly that was private and would feel almost like an overgrown dinner party at home,” Jessica says. And they found all that and more in the Casa de Monte Vista, located in the heart of Palm Springs. They worked with Beau & Arrow Events to plan a warm, inclusive, and magical event — with a dash of bohemian elegance — and when they tied the knot on February 27, 2016, the final result was nothing short of spectacular. But don’t take our word for it. Read on to see every seriously stunning photo of this couple’s day, as captured by Logan Cole.

The bride spent the morning getting ready with her nine bridesmaids, all of whom donned pink floral robes. “Just before the wedding, I also gave each girl a custom bracelet that I created especially for them with my artisan partners in Cambodia from my jewelry line,” Jessica says. Each bracelet included a compass-shaped pendant and a card that read, “I would be lost without you. No matter which direction our journeys take us, we will be forever connected.”

Then, the ladies (who each had their hair pulled halfway up and adorned with a different arrangement of flowers) changed into their blush Amsale gowns and then helped Jessica slip on her corded lace Katie May wedding dress.

“I always envisioned my wedding dress as sort of a slip,” the bride says. “I wanted something comfortable, slinky, and very fitted on my small frame. I began looking at the more fashionable, anti-cupcake designers but didn’t find anything truly special.” Jessica admits she was both thrilled and relieved when she found a style she didn’t want to take off, saying this look felt like a second skin and incredibly luxurious and chic.

In addition to a lace-trimmed veil, Jessica carried a wild, desert-inspired bouquet of orchids, lotus seeds, jasmine, hellebores, tuberoses, and ferns.

The groom looked charming in his midnight blue suit from Canali, which he paired with a white shirt and silk tie. Just like his bride’s flowers, Patrick’s boutonniere channeled the Palm Springs aesthetic: an air plant, jasmine, and mini succulent were the perfect finishing touches for his attire.

The couple shared a private first look, then met up with their wedding party for pre-ceremony portraits. Patrick’s groomsmen all wore gray pants and a white shirt and silk tie to match the groom. “They looked clean and relaxed,” Jessica says. “We didn’t find it necessary to subject our friends to suit jackets in the desert heat, and we liked the casual look of no dinner jackets.”

Instead of traditional bouquets, bridesmaids carried two styles of arrangements: an orchid with a Strobilanthes leaf, or a pale coral Anthurium with a Philodendron leaf.

As the bride’s attendants walked down the aisle, an acoustic guitarist performed Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon.” Then, as Jessica and her father walked her down the aisle, the musician switched over to Elton John’s “Tiny Dancer,” a nod to the song that first brought the couple together.

Jessica and Patrick chose to keep the ceremony purposefully simple: “We wanted the incredible spiritual symbolism of the chuppah to speak for itself, so we kept the design very simple with wooden poles, an ivory cloth, and base pots filled with simple greens,” the bride says.

The ceremony was incredibly personalized, with lots of intimate and heartfelt additions to the typical structure. “We worked with our officiant several times in the months leading up to the wedding, discussing and realizing what we value most about our relationship, where our strengths and weakness as a couple lie, and what sort of union and family we hoped to build,” Jessica says. For their vows, the bride and groom chose to share a modern take on a passage from the Torah between Ruth and Naomi. They also wrote a “Lover’s Covenant,” or contemporary version of a Ketubah, that outlined their promises to each other. It was signed before the ceremony and then read aloud for guests to hear.

To close out the proceedings, immediately after the couple’s first kiss, Jessica and Patrick’s DJ began playing “Pata Pata” by Miriam Makeba. “It created an impossible joyful feeling,” the bride says.

When it came to their reception décor, the bride was clear about just one thing: absolutely no roses. “I don’t like overly sweet or overly perfect florals, but rather I love a more wild, tropical, asymmetrical, and textural arrangement,” says Jessica. “We used a mix of desert flowers, lusciously fragrant jasmine, exotic anthurium, and hellebore, and vibrant sliced tropical fruit to create a lush oasis.”

Long tables were arranged on a patio, where a mix of low, gold vessels covered white linens. Palms and fresh fruit, along with fruit-covered trees and lots of glowing café lights, lent a tropical vibe to the reception.

Guests enjoyed a family-style dinner of farmer’s market salad, slow-roasted sustainable salmon, seared flank steak with poblano chile butter, marinated baby broccoli, and sautéed farro, along with three signature cocktails — Yeez Squeeze, a caipirinha, Love at First Sigh, a paloma, and Gypsy Jessica, rosé punch.

Dessert included a three-tiered almond wedding cake with vanilla buttercream and a selection of mini sweets. One of the flower girls could barely contain her excitement upon seeing the decadent spread!

The newlyweds shared their first dance to Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon,” but with a surprise twist. “It started with that lovely and sweet tune, until the music began to change unexpectedly,” Jessica says. “We looked around, perplexed and everyone clearly had that uh oh moment until we launched into a highly choreographed and oh-so-rehearsed flash mob dance with six of our friends.” To pull it off, Jessica and Patrick swore the dancers to secrecy, ensuring that their dates, spouses, and families had no idea when they jumped onto the dance floor.

Following their big day, the new Mr. and Mrs. Yee enjoyed a minimoon at the St. Regis in Punta Mita, Mexico, and then took a ten-day trip to Japan a few months later. “If you can, split your budget between two or even three events instead of saving all of our pennies for one perfect night,” Jessica tells future brides. “For us, that meant a Mexican Fiesta on Friday night where we paired each guest up with another person we knew they’d hit it off with. Then we had the wedding, and a Sunday brunch, where everyone could relax and we could take photos with all of those we guests we didn’t have a chance to on Saturday night.”

Ceremony & Reception Catering: Case de Monte Vista || Wedding Planner: Beau & Arrow Events || Bride’s Wedding Dress & Veil: Katie May || Hair: Diana Campos || Makeup: The Heart of Makeup || Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Amsale || Groom’s Attire: Rothman’s || Groomsmen’s Attire: Bonobos || Flowers: Honey & Poppies || Invitations: Nightingale Handmade || Guest Book: Artifact Uprising || Music: Dart DJ || Catering: Little Nelly || Cake: Over the Rainbow Cupcakes and Desserts || Rentals: Signature Rentals || Photographer: Logan Cole

Can’t get enough of this couple’s pretty celebration? Then we bet you’ll love watching another bride and groom tie the knot in a boho wedding, seen below.

Getting engaged and planning a wedding is so exciting, how could you NOT share your enthusiasm on social media? But while some things, like ring selfies and engagement pictures, are great to share on Instagram, there are other moments you should probably keep to yourselves. Our experts rounded up a few things you really shouldn’t share about your wedding planning process.

Being engaged is all sunshine and daisies, right? Wrong. While it’s mostly full of love and excitement, planning a wedding comes with its fair share of stress, too. And it’s those stressful moments that you’ll want to think twice about before you take to Facebook. Fighting with your parents about the budget or having a disagreement with your mother-in-law about who will sit where? Keep the drama to yourself. Wedding planning or not, these moments are too personal and controversial to share with the world, and you could come across as ungrateful if the heat of the moment overwhelms your common sense. That’s not even considering the long-term impact airing this dirty laundry could have on your relationship — since you’re probably friends with half your fiancé’s family on Facebook at this point!

In fact, anything budget-related should really stay private. Sure, that awesome DIY project you completed is a great topic to share, but if the reason you learned calligraphy is because you couldn’t stomach the cost of hiring a pro, save that detail for yourself.

You should also think twice about sharing anything too intimate. Doing a boudoir shoot as a surprise for your groom? You probably don’t want pictures of you in lingerie floating around the web! And while you might be thrilled to wake up next to your brand new husband (as you should be!), skip the suggestive in-bed selfie and instead have a friend snap a pic once you’re both at your morning-after brunch and have had a little coffee — then have fun with those new Snapchat filters!

For anything you do decide to post, restraint is key. Instead of flooding friends’ feeds with a dozen posts from your tasting or your quest to find the perfect wedding shoes, edit your album down to a few select pictures that will hint at what’s to come without giving away every detail before your wedding day arrives.

See more: What Your Friends Really Think of These 4 Common Wedding Announcements On Social Media

If there’s anyone who understands that it’s easy to get a little overwhelmed whilst planning the wedding of your dreams, it’s us at BRIDES. But sometimes, the stress of making every single detail absolutely perfect can make you go a wee bit cuckoo in the head, consequently ruining relationships in the process. So before you scream at your wedding planner about the table linens or your soon-to-be husband about not being involved enough in the decision making, take a look at these squirm-worthy bride/groomzilla horror stories — sourced from Reddit, of course — to bring you down to earth when all of the wedding planning stress becomes too much.

The total knockout:

“Friend is a photographer. Does weddings. Got punched in the face by the groom because the groom decided that the photographer was ‘taking too many photos of the bride.’ Weddings seem to bring out the worst in humanity.” — @BANNEDFROMALAMO

And a too-funny-to-not-share response to the above story: “Was he territorial jealous ‘hey that’s MY WIFE keep your eyes off’ or selfish jealous ‘hey, it’s MY WEDDING TOO why only take pictures of the girl in the multi thousand dollar dress?'”

The irrational bride:

“A bride once called having a meltdown because her friend got engaged as well and was planning to get married in the same year as she was. Apparently it was her special year and not just a day. She threw a huge fit that this girl was only getting married to ‘steal her thunder.’ Yes, because no one else can have a life at the same time as you. Her friend’s date wasn’t even in the same month or season. Hers was in October and her friend’s was in June. Brides sometimes don’t think rationally.”

The big blowup:

“I’m booking a wedding at my store — young couple comes in and is picking stuff out. As usual the guy is pretty ‘I don’t care about things.’ Brides are never happy about this attitude. We go through for a bit, but when it comes to picking vest styles they get into a huge argument right in front of me and my colleague. Eventually, the groom throws up his hands and says ‘If we can’t decide what colors then we just shouldn’t get married!’ And walks out the door and leaves in his car. The girl starts crying in our store while we are just bewildered. My colleague asked if she was ok. She said she was having someone come pick her up and walked out the door crying. Never saw them again. Hands down a famous story in our store.”

The (almost) runaway bride:

“My friend is the wedding planner I’m telling this story about. He is a good looking, straight male that has an amazing eye for design and detail. He can do everything from wedding dress design and execution, flowers, you name it. And his services are not cheap. He had a bride who called him up a few days before her wedding and told him she couldn’t go through with the wedding because she was in love with someone else. The conversation went something like this:
Bride: ‘I can’t marry him, I just don’t love him anymore, I think I’m in love with someone else!’
Him: ‘What do you mean you’re in love with someone else!? Your wedding is in 5 days!’
Bride: ‘Well, I’m in love with you. You just GET me! I’ve never met anyone else like you!’
Him: ‘Do you know how much your parents are paying me to get you?!’
She ended up getting married 5 days later and it was never mentioned again.”

The momzilla:

“I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last summer [and] no matter what the bride (one of my closest friends) and I settled on for various plans, I’d get condescending, cruel emails from her mother about how selfish I was and how I had to realize that the wedding wasn’t all about me. (i.e. The time that I rented a car, drove out early last minute to help set up for the shower her mom was hosting, hosted it basically myself while her mom sat in the other room drinking with her aunt the whole time, cleaned up at 3 p.m. when everyone started to leave, but had to leave at 4:30 to get my car rental back in time, which I’d already cleared with the bride. Apparently, I am the epitome of selfish for this transgression.) Her mom also wore a pale silver sparkly ballgown with a tiara to the wedding. So. That was a sight.”

The baby daddy:

“Wedding DJ here and it wasn’t the bride, this was a groomzilla. For some reason the newlyweds decided to invite the bride’s son’s father. The dance floor cleared early and everyone was in the photo booth or outside smoking and drinking. Except the baby daddy and the groom. They’re sitting at a table alone and appear to be having a raucous, laughing conversation. Only, oh no, their faces are getting angry looking. Groom now has his finger in the daddy’s chest, ‘HE CALLS ME DAD NOW! I’M HIS FATHER!’ Groomsmen come running in to hold them both back. Groom flips the freaking table over. Bride is now in tears. Magical.”

Check out the rest of the cringe-worthy stories here — and promise us you’ll never, EVER be one of these people.

As if choosing an engagement ring style — before you subtly start dropping hints to your boyfriend of course — isn’t daunting enough, the process instantly becomes even more overwhelming if you’re an environmentally conscious bride on the prowl for an earth-friendly and conflict-free ring. So how do you find a ring that stays true to both your style and ethics? With our eco-friendly ring shopping tips, of course!

Do Your Research
Make sure your ring meets the Kimberly Process Certification Scheme, which tries to make tracking your gems possible and ensures you aren’t buying a “blood diamond.” Don’t be shy — ask your jeweler if they take part in this agreement and talk to them about the stone’s origins. Brilliant Earth, Bashford Jewelry, and Erica Courtney are few of many jewelers known to use conflict-free gems.

Look for Recycled
On that note, there’s a host of jewelers dedicated to providing eco-friendly options, including recycled engagement rings. Recycled gold is very popular — once gold is melted and refined, it takes on the quality of a new mineral. Head to NoDirtyGold.org for a list of jewelers who support responsible gold mining.

Pick Vintage
This is the perfect option for the vintage-loving bride-to-be. While it may be difficult to trace a gem’s origins in a used ring or a family heirloom, the odds of a vintage ring coming with ethical baggage aren’t as high — and buying a ring already in existence means you won’t be funding current conflict. Check out local antique stores or Doyle & Doyle, which hand picks vintage, antique, and estate pieces.

Go Synthetic
Despite the stigma of “fake,” there’s nothing wrong with a synthetic substitute. In fact, synthetic stones are becoming an increasingly popular and modern option. Take moissanite for example, which has a much smaller carbon footprint and meets the highest environmental standards. Lab-created, this gem has a brilliance all of its own.

Get Colorful
Another modern option and growing trend is a colored gemstone, which may suit your style even more than a diamond would. However, these aren’t always completely ethically sourced — even though their environmental impact is less harsh, there are still consequences. Again, look at a lab-made creation and use the Kimberly Process Certification Scheme.

Looks like all it takes to finding the perfect eco-friendly stylish ring is a little investigation!

See More:Going Green: Eco-Friendly Engagement Rings for the Alternative Bride-to-Be

Marriage troubles, what? Looks like Beyoncé and Jay Z are in total paradise to us! The music industry power couple spent this weekend on a total jealousy-inducing island getaway with their 4-year-old daughter, Blue Ivy, and, natch, Bey shared photos of the entire oceanside extravaganza on her website. Don’t you have a photographer follow you around on your vacays? Yeah, thought so.

The family of three looked like they were having all kinds of fun in the sun during their Hawaiian vacation, Entertainment Tonight reports, with Blue Ivy playing in the picture-perfect sand, Bey and Jay Z canoodling on the surf-covered rocks, even some cute snaps of Jay Z dancing and playing with his daughter. All the while, Beyoncé looks completely flawless in a one-piece tropical swimsuit and flower crown. These snaps are making us seriously consider a flashy one piece for our honeymoon…

We’ve got to admit these adorable family snaps (see more below) come as a breath of fresh air since the singer dropped her visual album Lemonade on us in April. Rumors swirled that Jay Z had been having extra-marital affairs with fashion designer Rachel Roy (who some fans actually ended up confusing with Rachael Ray, the famous Food Network chef, funny story). Such infidelity speculation led many to believe that one of our favorite celebrity couples were headed straight for divorce. But the rumors began to die down a little bit after Beyoncé started her world tour and thanked her “beautiful husband” onstage in front of her fans. If a couple was about to split, that’d probably be the last thing from their mouths, right? And these tropical vacay pics of this too-cute family basically put the nail in the coffin on those rumors. Bam!

While Lemonade’s genius gave us a heart attack that these two were splitting up, we can’t be too mad at the visual album. Besides being, well, brilliant, the hour-long visual album featured never-before-seen videos of their wedding. Eeek!!

The footage of Beyoncé and Jay Z’s 2008 nuptials have been kept totally under wraps, so obviously we were jumping for joy when we spotted the power couple, with Bey in her wedding dress and veil, cutting their wedding cake, feeding it to each other and sharing a sweet wedding-day kiss — icing and all. These two just couldn’t be sweeter — just look at their sweet vacation pics below.

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There’s a lot of good relationship advice going around. But some pieces of advice, even from well-meaning sources, should simply be ignored. Here are six of them.

1. You should stop seeing him.
Before you blindly take this advice, consider this: “What your friends think you need and want and what you’re actually looking for may be very different,” says Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. “Before listening to their opinions and being swayed by them, ask them about their concerns and then reflect on them for yourself. Make a decision based on whether these concerns bother you or not.”

2. If you argue with your partner, the relationship is unhealthy.
Rachel Needle, Psy.D, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist based in West Palm Beach, Florida, says there’s nothing wrong with arguing in a relationship. “In fact, it’s normal,” she says. “When we disagree it allows us to communicate with our partner and hopefully means we feel safe enough to be honest and express our feelings.” However, if your fights end in more frustration than resolution, it could be time to revaluate your argument style. “When we argue, we want to listen to our partners and keep the conversation to one specific topic,” she says, “as well as not name calling and being otherwise respectful.”

3. Don’t discuss your sex-life problems. It’ll make things worse.
If you’re headed for or already in a sex slump, now’s not the time to stick your head under the covers and hope your sex life heals itself. “It’s important to discuss this with your partner even more so than with your friends,” says Greer. “Don’t focus so much on hurting your partner’s feelings — just be honest and authentic. Figure out how to make your sexual experience more exciting.”

See More: What You’re Doing Wrong When It Comes To Sex

4. Love is enough.
Love is obviously a very important ingredient for any successful relationship. But, “while love is extremely important, it is not the only important factor,” says Needle. “Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should be in a relationship with them. Other factors such as mutual respect, trust, communication, and similar values among some are incredibly important and relationships need them to survive.”

5. Buy whatever you want as long as he doesn’t find out.
Any advice that encourages you to hide something from your partner, rather than face an issue head-on, is probably no good. “While your friend might have your best interests at heart, it’s important you take a direct stand with your husband and discuss your financial needs so you don’t need to sneak around,” says Greer. “Let your husband know you have real needs that must be built in.”

6. If it is not easy, it’s not meant to be.
“No, no, no, no,” says Needle. “Relationships take work.” Just like you put effort into your killer career or even your exercise routine, you have to focus time and energy into growing your relationship. And that won’t always be easy. “You have to continue to get to know your partner and make a conscious effort to connect with and maintain intimacy with your partner,” says Needle.

Ugh, it’s like, don’t your friends realize you have a life too!? Obviously, you’re super excited for them and you’d never in a million years miss the opportunity to stand by their side as a bridesmaid on their wedding day, but seriously, if you have to buy another bridesmaid dress you’ll never actually wear again (despite what the bride says), you might scream! Well that, and the fact that your bank account is taking a major hit too. Besides saving up and grinning and bearing the whole dress thing though, here are seven other ways to survive wedding season when you feel like you’re the perpetual bridesmaid, courtesy of the professional bridesmaid herself, Jessica Janik, Founder of The Invisible Bridesmaid.

1. Be honest with the bride from the get-go.
Have a lot on your personal plate already? Then let the bride know, recommends Janik. “Don’t take on too much, and know your limits.” Speak up if you’re constantly being asked to help out and are feeling overwhelmed. “This way, the bride can pass the duty on to someone else rather than stressing you out.” Besides, the last thing you want to do is be that bitter bridesmaid, right?

2. Don’t procrastinate.
If there’s one way to avoid unnecessary stress (and stay on the bride’s good side!) it’s to not wait until the last minute to get the job done. “Order your dress right away, prepare and practice your speech and try to get your jewels and appointments all in order ahead of time,” advises Janik. This way nothing piles up and nobody gets upset.

3. Keep your cool.
Managing daily life can be tough as it is but to deal with planning someone else’s wedding on top of everything else only adds more stress to your plate, points out Janik. “So if the bride has a bridezilla moment, just remember this is temporary and remind yourself that she’s overwhelmed too and might not mean what she just said. If you keep this in mind you can try to have more patience with her, and she’ll probably apologize at some point afterwards anyway.” Maybe now’s a good time to take up yoga classes or meditation together!

4. Eat, drink water and go easy on the booze.
You know yourself and you know your limits. If you’re that person who doesn’t like to eat at a party, Janik urges you to get some food in your stomach beforehand and always stay hydrated, especially if you’ll be sipping on champagne with the girls while getting ready. Speaking of alcohol, remember that when you’re a bridesmaid, weddings are a marathon, not a sprint. So don’t get too tipsy early on in the day or you’ll totes regret all that bubbly by the time the reception rolls around.

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5. If it’s a destination wedding, turn it in to a vacation.
If there’s one way to get through wedding season, it’s to make it one big vacation! Instead of dreading paying so much money for someone else’s event, look on the bright side and use it as an excuse to take a trip, suggests Janik. “Go earlier or stay longer after the wedding. This will not only allow you to have some free time to do your own thing but will also most likely allow you to get in some great quality moments with the bride and groom.”

6. Save the drama.
Literally check it at the door! Weddings can bring up a lot of feelings that you might be dealing with in your own personal life, notes Janik, particularly if you’re constantly asked to be a bridesmaid in your friends’ weddings. Your feelings have nothing to do with anyone else there so her best advice? “Keep them locked up for now, and I promise this will allow you to say, ‘Wow I had a really great time’ at the end of the night.”

7. Get to choose your own bridesmaid dress? Then keep it tasteful. Oh, and wear comfy shoes too.
Definitely make sure the dress isn’t too tight or skimpy, warns Janik. “The worst sight at a wedding is seeing a bridesmaid’s outfit that screams look at me, and the last thing you want to get at a wedding, of course, is dirty looks, eek!” While we’re on the subject, she says comfy shoes are key too. If you’re a seasoned bridesmaid, chances are you already know this by now or have learned your lesson. “Sore feet can last more than a week, which can really drag you down during wedding season.”

The courting bells are ringing for one member of the famous Duggar clan. And you know what comes soon after that… Jinger Duggar just announced her courtship with professional soccer player Jeremy Vuolo. Now please excuse us while we begin dreaming up bridesmaid dresses for her nine sisters!

22-year-old Jinger is the latest Duggar sister to engage in her 19 Kids and Counting‘s family approved form of dating — which, in case you forgot, consists of no sex, no kissing, chaperoned dates, and side-hugs only. (Sounds super fun, right?) The lucky man is none other than pro athlete 28-year-old Jeremy Vuolo, whom she met last May and later had the opportunity to join for a mission trip. “It was there that I really saw his heart and really admired his character,” Jinger explained to to People magazine.

“I was initially friends with Ben Seewald and Jessa [Duggar Seewald],” Jinger’s new sweetheart piped in. “And it was through them that I got to meet Jinger. We are very excited to begin this journey together.”

Sounds like this soccer hunk already has that Duggar family stamp of approval! And we’re guessing that’s no easy task when it comes to the uber-conservative (and ultra-controversial…) fam. But from the sound of it, Vuolo is their kind of guy. After graduating from Syracuse University and playing for the New York Red Bulls, he took a break from sports to pursue work in ministry, before signing with the San Antonio Scorpions in 2013. Those Christian values have got to please mom and dad, right? (And you thought your future in-laws were tough…)

Vuolo and his romantic (light on the romance) relationship with Jinger is set to take center stage on the Duggar’s TLC show, Counting On later this summer, so we’ll get to sneak a peek into their lives together — and hopefully, down the line, wedding plans! First comes courting, then comes marriage, right? Remember big sister Jessa’s beautiful blush wedding dress? Say what you want about this family, but you can’t deny they know how to seriously rock wedding day wear!

Jinger Duggar Is Being Courted by a Hot Soccer Player — Meet Jeremy Vuolo??! https://t.co/BWXjSKOGjE pic.twitter.com/xDRoOGgJ2c

— Celebsip (buzz) (@celebsipbuzz) June 20, 2016

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