Having kids with someone can have a huge impact on your relationship, regardless of how you plan to bring the child into the world. Whether you’re getting pregnant, adopting, or using any other method, there are a few things you need to agree on before you can go about raising a child together — and discussing them in advance can prevent some big arguments down the line. Here are a few conversations experts say you should have with your partner before you plan a family together.

1. Is the timing right? Fertility specialist Jane Frederick, M.D., says her patients don’t always time their first pregnancies thoughtfully. For example, some couples will have kids later in life and struggle with fertility, which could have been prevented by freezing their eggs and sperm in advance. It’s important to think about what your goals are and whether or not they can coexist with a family right now. If they can’t, you might want to consider freezing your eggs so that getting pregnant is easier when you’re ready.

2. Do you both actually want this now? It might seem like if you’ve both agreed to have kids, you’re both totally on board. But in some relationships, one person will really want a kid right this moment and the other will be less sure but go along with it, says therapist Maria Bruce, LMHC, NCC, founder of Thanks You Made My Day and Maria Bruce Wellness. It’s worth asking yourselves whether you’d both want this kid now if the other didn’t, as well as if you’re feeling any external pressure from your parents or anyone else outside the relationship.

3. Who can help out? “The famous saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is very true,” says Bruce. “Every parent can relate to being sleepless, incredibly tired, and in dire need of a break.” Jessica Wade, MAMFT, LPCC, agrees. “Couples who fail to plan for back-up help get burnt out,” she says. So, think about friends, family members, or services you might enlist to pick up the slack when parenting gets to be too much for you. Chances are, you’ll be grateful for them later.

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4. Who will take on what responsibilities? Since having a child is a huge time commitment, it’ll help you both to know in advance what exactly you’re committing to, says Wade. Planning meals, waking up with the baby at night, driving them to childcare, and paying for their diapers, food, clothes, and toys are just a few tasks you’ll want to divvy up. Speaking of which…

5. How will you pay for everything? According to Wade, you’ll need to budget at least an extra $2,000/month for child care, food, clothing, and saving for your child’s future. Think about how much everything will cost and consider whether you can realistically put that much aside and how you will. After all, you want to bring your child into a world that welcomes them as much as possible, which means being prepared on every front.

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6. What role will your parents have in your kids’ lives? When you have kids, estranged parents and annoying in-laws are no longer just your problem. You have to decide who you want in your kids’ lives and what role you want them to play, says psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson, LPC, DCC. If you have an ongoing conflict with your parents or your partner’s parents, it may be worth resolving so that you can model a good parent-child relationship for your kids.

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You may not be able to score tickets to see the super popular musical Hamilton anytime soon (trust us, we’ve been trying for months…), but we’ll settle for watching the show’s creator and star Lin-Manuel Miranda’s sweet wedding serenade. Yes, once upon time, the Tony award winner was a wedding singer — at his own nuptials! In a now viral video posted by the man himself, Miranda surprised his bride at their 2010 wedding with totally Broadway-worthy performance. Seriously, there’s choreography and everything. We wish this was an option at the box office!

If you watched the Tony Awards on Sunday night, you may recall Lin-Manuel Miranda’s acceptance speech for his Best Original Score win was in the form of a sentimental sonnet, which included a too-sweet shoutout to his wife, Vanessa. “My wife’s the reason anything gets done. She nudges me towards promise by degrees. She is a perfect symphony of one. Our son is her most beautiful reprise,” he read out. Cue the exploding hearts everywhere. But, while that was enough to make us swoon, we’re deeming Miranda’s over-the-top wedding performance at his “I dos” worth the price of a Hamilton ticket!

“My surprise for my wife Vanessa Nadal on our wedding day,” reads the video description. “All of Vanessa’s close friends and family rehearsed for a month in secret, leading up to the reception. What we lack in polish, we hopefully make up for in joy and love.” The video starts off with Vanessa’s father giving a toast at their wedding reception. He calls up his new son-in-law to say a few words and, before you know it, their conversation seamlessly transitions into a song — Fiddler on the Roof‘s “To Life.” Before long, the entire wedding party is up on the dance floor, singing along and pulling off a pretty epic dance routine, with l’chaim‘s left and right and even a kickline! Meanwhile, the clearly shocked bride looks on, flabbergasted with a mile-wide smile.

“Everyone in this video has one thing in common,” the video description continues. “We’d do anything to show Vanessa how much we love her.” L’chaim to that!

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Chances are you view your fiancé as your ultimate partner in crime, best friend, and go-to person when you’re in the middle of making a decision and need an honest, unbiased, and trustworthy opinion. Together, you both have had to face making small decisions together, like where to go to dinner and what movie to watch on a Friday night, to even bigger ones, like where to live or even the type of wedding you want to have.

So when it comes time to making one of the biggest staple decisions of your big day, what wedding dress you should wear, you may have an urge to bring your fiancé along for the dress shopping process.

It’s important to know that there’s no official rule that the wedding dress you wear on your wedding day has to be a secret from your fiancé until your walk down the aisle Most brides like to keep that as a surprise, but you don’t have to. You can sit, for hours, with your fiancé and look up dresses on Pinterest together, until you start to find a style that makes your eyes bulge with happiness. You can even bring him along with you to multiple stores and try on more dresses than you can count until you find the right one, together.

If you do want to keep a certain level of secrecy when it comes to your wedding dress, you can go browsing with your fiancé, see what styles catch his eye, and then leave him at home when you go back and try on dresses to find the one that you love the best.

But in the end, it’s up to you who you want in your wedding dress selection process.

See More: How to Keep Your Wedding Dress a Secret From Your Fiancé

Jen Glantz is a “Professional Bridesmaid” and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She’s the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

You’ve gotten your dress, your accessories and your shoes — but there’s still one thing left to do before you officially complete your bridal ensemble checklist. Bridal lingerie may sometimes be an afterthought, but properly fitting undergarments (and romantic night time attire, too) are truly important for all brides-to-be. Whether you need custom-fitted undergarments or are looking for something to turn up the newlywed heat in the bedroom, check out our favorite shops for bridal lingerie in New Jersey.

Lingerie and Bridal by Lisa (Parsippany)
This award-winning boutique not only offers a wide range of wedding dresses, veils and accessories, but it also provides custom fit lingerie for any occasion — especially bridal! Lingerie and Bridal by Lisa recognizes the (shocking) fact that most women wear the wrong size and style of undergarments. To remedy this, certified lingerie specialists custom fit bras and undergarments for all patrons to ensure satisfaction and most importantly, comfort and confidence. With lingerie styles to carry you from your wedding night, through the honeymoon and beyond, owner Narisa (Lisa) Ponglang combines her experience in design and alterations with a passion for bridal and lingerie needs and the end result is a one stop shop for brides-to-be. Read real brides’ reviews here!

The Dain Shoppe (Morristown)
For over 32 years The Dian Shoppe in Morristown has taken pride in providing it’s loyal customers with a custom-curated selection of bras, undergarments, lingerie, intimates, shape wear, and more. This adorable storefront, owned by Cathy Earndhardt, has an affinity for the highest quality materials and only offers hand-selected, luxurious products. Whether you’re looking for sexy and sultry lingerie from Arianne or Flirt, or supportive, highly rated brassieres by Freya, Simone Perele or Natori, The Dain Shoppe is a lingerie wonderland, perfect for brides-to-be. Read real brides’ reviews here!

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Michele’s Lingerie Shop (Fairfield)
Whether you’re looking sexy bridal negligee, or necessary bridal undergarment, Michele’s Lingerie Shop in Fairfield has you covered. With services ranging from corsets, chemises, bra-fittings, lingerie, and more (including toys, oils, and candles for some wedding-night fun), you’re sure to satisfy all your post-wedding desires.

Bra Savvy (Matawan)
Carrying a complete line of bras, underwear, shape wear, and lingerie, Bra Savvy knows that the right fit makes a world of difference — which is why they offer both an impressive selection combined with accurate and detailed fittings to find the best pieces to enhance your shape, style, and size. In business since 2009, the staff at Bra Savvy aims to not only help fit customers, but also to help educate them in proper undergarment and lingerie selection. Offering top brands including Anita, Hanky Panky and Fantasie, it won’t be difficult to find the perfectly-fit couture for under your gown.

Lace Silhouettes Lingerie (Princeton & Cape May)
Founded in 1988 by owner Karen Thompson, the creation of Lace Silhouettes was fueled by a passion to provide personal and welcoming service for all customers looking for affordable yet luxurious intimate apparel. Having grown to three stores in both NJ and PA, this boutique offers a variety of brands including Chantelle, Natori, Ted Baker, Cosabella, and more. Whether you’re looking for bridal undergarments or something a bit more romantic, the expert fitters and salespeople at Lace Silhouettes will help you find everything you need.

For more ways to get prepared for the big day, be sure to check out all the local wedding experts on our New Jersey Wedding Vendors page

Just weeks before their one-year wedding anniversary, Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis are spilling some majorly exciting news — the couple, who is already parents to 20-month-old daughter Wyatt Isabelle, are expecting their second child!

“Ashton genuinely lights up when talking about Wyatt and the little one on the way,” a source close to Kutcher told People, who exclusively broke the news of the Hollywood A-lister’s second pregnancy late Wednesday night. “Everything about being a father is natural to him.”

Just last month, Kunis revealed on a special Mother’s Day edition of The Ellen DeGeneres Show that she and her hubby of just over a year were trying for their second baby. Have y’all seen how how absurdly adorable their 19-month-old Wyatt Isabelle is? Just imagine another one of those tiny tots running around…

“Are you trying?” DeGeneres asked the actress, who was sitting next to her Bad Moms co-star, Kristen Bell. “Like am I having sex, Ellen?” Kunis hilariously replied. “Yeah, are you having sex? That’s my question. I want to know how often you’re having sex,” inquired the talkshow host.

Blushing and giggling, Kunis immediately turned to Bell for help, but she wasn’t letting her friend off the hook! “How’s the sex?” asked Bell. (Can you blame the girl for being curious?) “Yeah, it’s great,” Kunis finally revealed in between fits of laughter.

It seems like just yesterday news broke of Kunis and Kutcher’s secret wedding over 4th of July 2015 weekend, saying their “I dos” in a top secret, garden-themed ceremony. Taking place in a serene and secluded ranch outside of Los Angeles, the day ended with luxury camping on the ceremony grounds for all of the couples’ wedding guests.

The idea of two small kids running around might be a tough transition for most newlyweds, but Kunis told Entertainment Tonight in May that she’s mastered the “balancing act” of being “a great partner, a great wife and a great woman.”

“I know that when we decided to have a kid, we were ready to no longer be selfish — at least start the process,” the expectant mom said. “Because innately, as humans, we’re very selfish people, and we really wanted to have a family.”

She added, “Having this little human to raise … it was a balancing act, and then you learn how to be a great partner, and a great wife, and a great woman, and be yourself, and still be responsible for a living child. It’s definitely a learning process.”

“She’s the greatest mom,” Kutcher has said of his wife, according to People. “I go to work every day, and I come home and she’s perfect. And it just seems like everything went amazing. And I know that something probably didn’t go amazing, but she never tells … it’s unbelievable. She’s incredible.”

If the aisle of your impending wedding is made of white, soft sand, and your ceremony backdrop consists of roaring ocean waves, then you’ve come to the right page. As if wedding dress shopping isn’t overwhelming enough, choosing the right dress for a beach wedding is no easy task. Since the venue is typically more casual and the weather is warmer, there are a few extras to consider before saying yes to your dream beach wedding dress.

Light, airy, and delicate should refine your search. Look for fabrics and silhouettes that won’t weigh you down and will keep you feeling cool and calm in the heat. Think a streamlined silhouette and shorter train — or skip the train altogether; the less volume, the better. Stray toward lighter fabrics like silk, chiffon, and organza. And if you’re jetting off to a tropical island for a destination wedding, keep in mind how well the dress will travel — some fabrics wrinkle more easily than others.

And don’t forget about the venue — a private beach along the French Riviera gives you a little more leeway to rock a more dazzled gown than a low-key affair on a Caribbean island for which a simpler, strapless sheath gown may be more well-suited.

If you still can’t decide which way to go, these seven dresses from the Spring 2017 collections are sure to give you a bit of beachy inspiration.

Delphine Manivet’s Gautier sheath dress is light and breezy, with a jewel neckline to show off those toned arms while keeping them cool in the sun’s rays.

Jenny Packham’s romantic empire-waisted Candie gown emits a soft bohemian feel, made complete by a bodice accented with detailed embellishments.

This minimalistic number by Christian Siriano for Kleinfeld screams sexy, with a plunging neckline and hugging silhouette, perfect for a sandy walk down the aisle in Bali.

This strapless Houghton Hathaway gown is laidback and casual, yet still chic, making for a vision billowing in balmy breezes.

A simple silhouette and gathered sweetheart neckline on Ivy and Aster’s Amelia dress adds a dash of whimsy and elegance, reflecting the vibes of a beach.

While a bit more voluminous than the standard beach wedding dress, this ballgown stunner is sheer and light in layers, perfect for a more glamorous beach affair.

A beaded cut-out bodice mimics the shells of the sea in this lightly pleated ivory chiffon Wynonna gown by Jenny Packham.

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We love the look of Lucite (check out these amazing escort-card ideas), it’s modern, minimal, and totally chic. If you’re looking to add a unique element to your reception tables, consider incorporating Lucite menus into your tabletop — it’s elegant, design-forward, and completely unexpected. Here are six creative ways to do it.

Lucite Signature Cocktail Menu (above): If you’re serving a signature drink during cocktail hour, highlight it by handwriting the recipe on a clear sheet of Lucite.

Lucite Menu at Each Place Setting: A calligraphed dinner menu at each place setting looks elegant and chic (and can we talk about that gilded rock-slab charger?).

Frosted Lucite Menu: This modern Lucite menu was engraved with dinner details and sandblasted to give it a frosted look.

Watercolor Acrylic Menu: The dinner descriptions are printed on the front of this acrylic menu in white ink, while the back is printed with a full-color watercolor floral design. To finish it off, the edges were laser cut to resemble the shape of a vintage frame.

Gold Ink on Acrylic: Hand-letter the dinner menu onto a sheet of Lucite for a boho-meets-glam look.

Hanging Lucite Menu: Instead of displaying your menu sign on the table, you could suspend it overhead using monofilament.

It’s been popular lately to assign a color theme to a wedding, and ask your guests to dress in the color of your choice. “White weddings,” where everybody (wedding party and guests) wears white, are also trendy, especially in tropical destinations. My clients who have had color-themed weddings all said they did it for the monochrome pictures, which they’ve seen featured everywhere and loved.

However, there are some realities to a “white wedding” that should not be overlooked by the bride and groom when they do their planning.

First and foremost, you need to make sure that all of the guests understand what the attire is. It’s never safe to assume anything for a wedding. Especially when you’re asking literally everyone to break with etiquette and wear the bride’s color of the day to her wedding. While traditionally, putting “formal” or “semi-formal” on the invitation is sufficient guidance, you have to take it a step further when you’re telling your guests what color you want them to wear.

If your invitation is non-traditional and includes a lot of information about your wedding, you should definitely include it there. You can phrase it one of the following ways:

The bride and groom request that all guests wear white attire to their wedding ceremony and reception.

It’s a White Wedding — Please embrace the theme and wear something white!

Reality Check: No matter how well you explain your “white wedding” theme to your family and guests, not everybody is going to wear all white. In fact, the vast majority of your gentlemen guests will wear khaki pants and a white shirt. And most likely no man outside the wedding party will have white shoes, unless you encourage them to wear sneakers. “White only” becomes white-from-the-waist-up to most of the men. Those who are willing to wear white pants probably already own some, and will rock them with their white shoes.

If you’re having an outside, sunset wedding, beware of see-through fabrics! You won’t want dress your groomsmen in linen pants that become see through, for example, and make sure bridesmaids’ dresses are lined. While a cool linen shift may be exactly the look you’re going for, be certain the dress is ALL the guests will be seeing during the ceremony. Make sure to remind your entire wedding party to wear only white or nude undergarments so nothing shows under the lights during pictures.

Lastly, don’t get upset if some of your guests forget the dress code. Don’t be surprised if some guests are wearing white with a pattern (if they’ve got a clue, they’ll make a point to step out of some of your formal group photos so the color theme isn’t ruined). Don’t be disappointed, or annoyed, to see men not wearing white pants and shoes. When a wedding isn’t black tie, most men don’t see the need to purchase a new outfit they’ll literally never wear again for one day. Expect (and hope for) bright white shirts and you’ll be pleasantly surprised if everybody remembers.

See More: What You Should Know Before You Decide to Have an All White Wedding

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC’s reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

One major perk of planning a destination wedding and honeymoon in the Caribbean in the off-season is beating the crowds — meaning more beach chairs for you and better hotel deals for you and your wedding guests.

Best Deals
If you’ve been eying a certain luxe suite, you’ll find more availability (at a lower rate) during the low-season months between September and December. Shoulder season is not only a great time to snag hotel deals, it’s also when you’ll find lower airfare, making your destination wedding or honeymoon even more valuable. Sandals Resorts, for example, offers great deals dedicated to fall weddings and even the chance to do a honeymoon “Sneak Peek” trip during the fall.

Sunny Skies & Clear Nights
One of the reasons the Caribbean is ideal during the fall and winter months, is because it’s perfect for hosting an al fresco event. While there’s a possibility of afternoon showers or “liquid sunshine” as they call it in the Caribbean, mornings and evenings are typically cooler and clear, making for an ideal wedding set-up (or brunch wedding!).

Dream Date Availability
The Caribbean off-season also just so happens to fall when wedding and honeymoon season is not in full swing during the spring months. While other brides and grooms are vying for their dream date in June at a spot back home, your search will be a lot more worry free, as the calendar is a bit more open for looking to the Caribbean for your destination wedding or honeymoon.

Sunset Ceremonies
The warmth of the Caribbean islands peaks at midday, but just around sunset is the magic hour when the lighting is romantic and the temperature tapers off, making it prime time for the perfect outdoor ceremony or photo shoot. And if you need a ‘Plan B’, make sure your resort also has a number of picturesque indoor and outdoor venues to choose from for your ceremony and reception.