Los Angeles may not be the first place that springs to mind when one thinks of honeymoon romance, but the City of Angels has it all, especially for those on the active side. Intimate star-strewn restaurants, powdery beaches, mountain trails, incredible food, and art. It’s also home to some of the best year-round weather known to man, so it might be time to consider heading to sunny SoCal for your mini honeymoon. Before visiting Los Angeles, however, decide what part of the city most interests you, since it’s massive and traffic, you may have heard, can be as stressful as those months of wedding planning.

Day one:
Afternoon: Are the two of you beach people? Check into Shutters, just across the sand from Santa Monica’s best waves. Want a hip Westside crowd? Go for the Hotel Erwin in Venice. For a luxurious experience, there’s the plush Four Seasons Los Angeles at Beverly Hills, or the iconic pink Beverly Hills Hotel. Or if you’re more into a cool city scene, opt for The Line in Koreatown or The Ace Downtown. Once you’ve chosen your stomping grounds, have a wander around your temporary ‘hood. (Or hit the beach or pool.) Each area is full of spots just waiting to be explored, especially Venice’s creative, design-heavy Abbot Kinney Boulevard and the arty streets of downtown.

Evening: The best sunset views are had from High Rooftop Lounge at the Erwin, but it’s possible to glimpse the colorful sky from any high place. Commissary, at The Line, is one of the most Instagrammed restaurants around, and for good reason. Its design, greenhouse environment, creative dishes and fresh cocktails by chef Roy Choi (of the Kogi BBQ truck, which is also still driving around) are awe-inspiring, making it a memorable dinner destination. Otherwise, amp up the romance at the beloved Little Door in Brentwood, with an intimate meal of duck confit with honey and ginger or grilled sea bass with Mediterranean-French flair, and a great bottle of red wine.

Day two:
Morning: Hike off your dinner with a beautiful walk through massive red rocks in Topanga Canyon, and visit the dreamy waterfall-side Inn of the Seventh Ray for healthy, creative omelettes and quiche. (An alternate hiking destination for Eastsiders: Griffith Observatory, which is close to the iconic Hollywood Sign and also affords awesome views.)

Afternoon: To see LA’s most picturesque beaches, a bit of a road trip is in order. Head up the Pacific Coast Highway to Malibu—Surfrider if you want to watch wetsuit-clad figures hit the waves, or El Matador for swimsuit shoot-worthy drama. Swing by the landmark biker stop Neptune’s Net for a bite of fried anything with a beer. After sunning your buns, head to Nobu, where groups and couples gather for live acoustic music and bottles of wine in the canyons.

Evening: Check the schedule at The Greek and the Hollywood Bowl, LA’s two iconic amphitheaters. There’s nothing like a balmy night of live music under the stars. Otherwise, try West Hollywood’s latest hot spot, Norah. Reservations can be tough, but eclectic, Southern-tinged dishes such as uni butter poached shrimp, cauliflower popcorn, and octopus with pork belly are worth the effort. In Beverly Hills, Avec Nous is a new French restaurant at the Viceroy L’Ermitage with retro glamour, a Champagne cart, and decadent bites like foie gras and escargot. For a taste of nightlife, there’s Nighthawk, a new venue in Hollywood serving up boozy cereal milk cocktails, among other innovative concoctions.

Day three:
Morning: You’re in LA, so indulge in a hangover-killing brunch. The recently reopened Belvedere at the Peninsula in Beverly Hills does the ritual justice; for a less posh meal, try a Venice favorite like Tasting Kitchen (don’t skip the Bloody Marys) or Gjusta, which will likely require some patience during the wait, to order a feast of smoked fish, pastries, egg sandwiches, rotisserie meats, and slices of pizza. After brunch, take a walk on the beach, soak up the sea breeze and shop Abbot Kinney.

Afternoon: People accuse LA of having no culture, but in fact it’s become quite the art hub. Those who appreciate it will love a visit to the Broad Museum (check out the Infinity Room) and the Museum of Contemporary Art, conveniently located across the street from each other downtown. Between visits, try lunch at Otium, a winning new restaurant by a former French Laundry chef de cuisine. Make a reservation so you can taste his foie gras with funnel cake and spinach bucatini, alongside a fruity rye whisky Fix punch.

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Former Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe just walked down the aisle! But, er, not in a wedding dress exactly. The reality TV star and her fiancé and final rose recipient Shawn Booth spent this past weekend at a wedding — and we’d be lying if we didn’t say this got us painfully excited for their own big day!

Bristowe served as a bridesmaid in the wedding of her close friend, and of course Booth tagged along to serve as her handsome date. The Vancouver, Canada, wedding was held at the University of British Columbia’s Museum of Anthropology Pacific Spirit Park, People reports, and, from the looks of these social media photos, was all kinds of gorgeous.

“OMG GET MARRIED ALREADY #jesandkyle,” Bristowe, 31, captioned the cute couple shot (photo above) of her looking absolutely gorg in a lavender-looking bridesmaid dress with 29-year-old Booth — in a crisp suit with a solo cup in his hand — on her arm.

The former Bachelorette shared another Instagram of her close-up bridesmaid beauty look, thanking her glam squad in the caption. “Shout out to @alldolledupstudio for doing an unbelievable job on our make up for the wedding yesterday,” she wrote. “Side note- I cried about 13 times and not once did my make up run.”

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Bristowe also shared a photo (see below) of the beautiful bride twirling on the dance floor with her new hubby, accompanied by a sentimental caption: “Our world is in need of more true, beautiful love stories. I believe if we had more true, beautiful love stories, we would have a better world. Jes and Kyle, your story is one of those beautiful love stories.” – Jes’ Mom. I absolutely loved being a part of this perfect day. Bessy cat you’re one beautiful bride. #jesandkyle

According to People, Bristowe and Booth also took to Snapchat to document their PDA-filled evening of twirling each other around and kissing on the dance floor.

Natch, this wedding weekend for the two of them has us dreaming up their own big day. But, unfortunately for us, these two seem to be in no hurry. “The pressure doesn’t get to us at all,” Booth told People in February. “We only knew each other for ten weeks before I proposed. We’re both normal people and the most normal thing we can do is wait.”

“We’re living together, we’re enjoying being engaged. When we start to plan, we’ll let everybody know!” Bristowe added.

The pair has been taking things slow since the show ended (well as slow as you can take your relationship when it starts with an engagement ring), only recently deciding to move-in together. They’ve even created their own celebrity couple name. “We call ourselves the Boothstowes,” the former Bachelorette explained to People. “But when I get married, I’m going to take his name. I’m not a traditional person, but when it comes to that, I like the idea of being traditional. I think it’s romantic.”

"Our world is in need of more true, beautiful love stories. I believe if we had more true, beautiful love stories, we would have a better world. Jes and Kyle, your story is one of those beautiful love stories." – Jes' Mom. I absolutely loved being a part of this perfect day. Bessy cat you're one beautiful bride. #jesandkyle

A photo posted by Kaitlyn Bristowe (@kaitlynbristowe) on Jun 27, 2016 at 7:46am PDT

Lindsey and Grayson first met online in early January of 2013. “Grayson had moved to Oklahoma City a couple of years prior for work, and I had recently moved back home following law school,” Lindsey says. “We are still amazed that we had never crossed paths before as we quickly discovered we have several friends in common.” After a very successful first date — they were supposed to meet for drinks, but enjoyed each other’s company so much the evening turned into a three-hour long dinner! — Lindsey called her mother to tell her she’d have to come up with a new story for how she met her future husband. “Match.com just wouldn’t do! But now not a single day passes that I don’t thank my lucky stars he and I happened upon each other.”

Two years later, in November of 2014, Grayson popped the question while the pair enjoyed a post-Thanksgiving hike near Lindsey’s family home in San Francisco. As they considered locations for their September 5, 2015, wedding, the winner was a no-brainer: “Grayson and I both love San Francisco and have both lived in the Bay Area at different times. We chose a long weekend so our guests could make a short vacation of it and really experience our favorite city.” The bride and groom worked with Elise Johnson of Shannon Leahy Events to plan a sophisticated, romantic garden party inside the Asian Art Museum — from 1,600 miles away! “Elise gave us all the tools and insight we needed to make every single wedding decision,” the bride says. “In addition to having impeccable taste and a knack for negotiating, she has the patience of a saint. Having such a reliable support system in our planned allowed us to enjoy the process much more than we would have been able to otherwise.”

See how their day came together below, as captured by the ever-talented Coco Tran!

Although they were initially torn between a wine country wedding and a sophisticated city bash, Lindsey and Grayson’s planner helped them choose a chic venue in the heart of San Francisco that would allow them to combine their favorite aspects of each type of party. They invited 115 guests to a ceremony at the Grace Cathedral, a beautiful church the bride had been thinking about since she was a teenager. “I always wondered what it would be like to be married there,” she says. “It’s truly a breathtaking place.”

For their reception, Lindsey and Grayson chose the Asian Art Museum, noting it’s beautiful architecture as one of the main draws. “It has a clean and natural but with a sophisticated feel,” says the bride. “It almost felt like we went back in time.”

A navy and peach color palette, complete with bronze and rose gold accents, quickly emerged as the couple began planning their day, so this pretty invitation suite from Yonder Designs gave guests an idea of what was to come throughout the day.

Lindsey did her homework before she started shopping for her dress. In fact, on the evening before her first bridal appointment, the bride-to-be and her sister poured over photos of wedding dresses while watching Love Actually, searching for inspiration, and came across a Chantilly lace gown from Monique Lhuillier that stood out from all the rest. “I didn’t think I’d actually be able to see it in the store the next day, so when it was there and I tried it on for my mom and sister, we all just knew,” Lindsey says.

As beautiful as her wedding dress, complete with an asymmetric horsehair peplum, was on it’s own, Lindsey didn’t skip out on accessories. She wore her mother’s tanzanite and diamond ring as her something borrowed and blue and carried a beaded handbag that once belonged to her groom’s grandmother. “As is my family’s tradition, my father also place a sixpence in my shoe just before the ceremony,” the bride says.

The bride’s bouquet was a colorful arrangement of peach, blush, and coral blooms, including garden roses, ranunculus, parrot tulips, and stock, all tied together with a silk ribbon.

“Grayson looked so debonair!” Lindsey says of her groom, who wore a classic black tuxedo by Zegna. His textured boutonniere was made of peach flowers, kumquats, and greenery.

Lindsey’s bridesmaids stunned in asymmetrical navy gowns from Alfred Sung while her maid of honor chose a black gown with off-the-shoulder straps by La Petite Robe di Chiara Boni. Each carried a smaller version of the bride’s bouquet with the addition of colorful kumquats.

The ladies all looked great next to Grayson’s groomsmen, who all wore traditional black tuxedos and floral boutonnieres.

Since Lindsey and Grayson wanted the beauty of the cathedral to speak for itself, they chose to only have two floral arrangements decorating the space. Although just the father of the bride walked her down the aisle, Lindsey’s mother also joined them at the aisle and helped lift the bride’s veil. “I’ll never forget that moment,” she says.

The bride and groom chose to recite traditional vows, going so far as to even memorize their words. “I’ll admit it was a bit stressful, but I’m so happy we did it,” Lindsey says. “The moment we said them to each other naturally, as if they were our own words, is one I hope never to forget.”

The pair chose a few special readings to help personalize the ceremony, though. They chose Corinthians 13: 1-13 and a passage from Victor Hugo’s Les Miserables.

Everyone enjoyed a trolley ride to the reception, where guests were greeted with delicious cocktail hour fare, including local oyster, bacon tart, lobster rolls, and burrata crostini. Lindsey and Grayson also served two signature drinks: Hers, a gin Paloma, and his, a classic Manhattan.

A three-piece jazz band kept everyone entertained as they found their tented escort cards.

Once inside the great hall for the reception, guests were treated to an entirely different look. Rectangular tables were decorated with ivory linens and a bold navy and white floral runner. Lush, low centerpieces comprised of lisianthus, garden roses, privet branches, stock, and kumquats covered the tabletops, while other square tables were adorned with tall mixes of the same blooms.

Place settings featured classic white china over rose gold chargers, which were paired with classic crystal glassware and rose gold flatware. “The room glowed in warm candlelight and smelled like a rose garden,” Lindsey remembers. “The rose gold tones were echoed in the warm uplighting and called attention to the impressive stone details.”

The newlyweds treated their guests to a multi-course meal of heirloom tomato tart, roasted salmon, pork two ways, and a lentil blitz. The bride’s sister (and maid of honor!) handled the booze, though: “She’s a sommelier and took complete control and handled all the wine for the wedding,” Lindsey says. “It was a relief to hand that off and she did an amazing job.” For dessert, the bride and groom sliced into a four-tier vanilla bean wedding cake, which was filled with peaches with cream cheese filling and raspberries with mascarpone cream cheese filling.

Lindsey also surprised Grayson with a groom’s cake. “He’s a geologist and loves all maps, so I ordered a vintage map sheet cake of Mississippi, where he grew us, as well. It was perfect and he loved the surprise,” the bride says.

The new Mr. and Mrs. shared their first dance to Ray LaMontagne’s “You Are the Best Thing” before their 10-piece band took over, drawing guests young and old out onto the dance floor. To keep the party going, Lindsey and Grayson arranged for a late-night snack of buttermilk fried chicken biscuit bites with honey.

“Show your gratitude,” Lindsey reminds future brides. “Looking back, there are moments that I would like to tell myself to get a grip and remind myself to simple express my thanks. It’s easy to lose perspective when you’re in the wedding planning weeds. Pull yourself out and thank your fiancé, families, and friends for their love and support.”

Ceremony Venue: Grace Cathedral || Reception Venue: Asian Art Museum of San Francisco || Wedding Planner: Elise Johnson of Shannon Leahy Events || Bride’s Wedding Dress & Veil: Monique Lhuillier || Hair & Makeup: Julie Morgan Hair and Makeup || Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Alfred Sung || Maid of Honor’s Dress: La Petite Robe di Chiara Boni || Groom’s Attire: Zegna || Florist: Michael Daigian || Invitations: Yonder Design || Music: Lucky Devils Band || Catering: Melons Catering & Events || Cake: Branching Out Cakes || Rentals: Classic Party Rentals; La Tavola Linens; Blueprint Studios || Photographer: Coco Tran

While the bride and groom know they’ll need to tip their vendors at the end of their wedding day, guests probably aren’t arriving with change in their pockets to hand out to servers and staff members throughout the evening. Is that totally acceptable, or are wedding guests everywhere committing a huge faux pas? Our experts weigh in on whether guests need to tip anyone at someone else’s wedding.

Between the cost of goods and services, fees, service charges, and the tips distributed by the newlyweds, anyone working at a wedding is pretty well covered when it comes to being compensated for their work and time. So the short answer is, no, guests are not obligated to tip anyone at a wedding. However, of course, there are a few exceptions — so keep some ones in your pocket!

If the venue has valet parking, you may want a few dollars available to tip the valet attendant. You probably won’t need to pay to have your car parked, but just like at a hotel or restaurant, a small tip would be greatly appreciated!

You should also be sure to have cash with you if the reception will include a cash bar for either part or all of the evening. In this instance, your interaction with the bartender is more like one at a bar than a private event, so tip accordingly.

Did the bride and groom spring for an open bar? You probably will not see a tip jar on the bar, and there’s a good chance the bartending company or venue doesn’t allow their employees to accept tips in this situation. If you receive particularly great service, you can offer the bartender a tip, but know that they may not be able to accept it. Don’t force the money on them (and risk them getting into trouble later!), but instead thank them profusely and make sure the couple knows how great the service was.

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It seems like just yesterday we were giggling at Josh Peck’s comedic antics on the hit Nickelodeon show Drake and Josh. But now, at 29 years old, Peck is entering a new phase of his life — one that now involves his beautiful bride-to-be! The Grandfathered actor recently proposed to his longtime girlfriend, Paige O’Brien, who announced the wonderful engagement news on her Instagram page captioning, “MOODY’S POINT,” as she flashed her gorgeous engagement ring to the camera. “Thanks for the pic @samsperbeck thanks for the ring @shuapeck.”

The Hollywood duo must share the same sense of humor because that was one of the most casual engagement announcements we’ve ever seen! Regardless, the black and white picture of the happy couple shows that their love is anything but a joke. And we mean, LOOK AT THAT RING. There is nothing comical about a stunning rock like that.

Peck hasn’t yet released a public statement confirming the engagement, but according to E! News, “Paige thanked a follower after receiving a congratulations message,” before she made her account private on Sunday evening. And even though the Drake and Josh star hasn’t posted anything on HIS Instagram account about the engagement, he sure isn’t afraid to show his affection for his longtime love, as evidenced by the Insta below.

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A photo posted by Josh Peck (@shuapeck) on May 16, 2016 at 9:02pm PDT

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Some are speculating that the pair may actually have been engaged for a while now, as O’Brien was spotted wearing the same engagement ring a few months ago on social media. But TBH, we wouldn’t blame them for wanting to make the news more private in order to share it with their closest friends and family first.

Here’s to hoping this is one Hollywood romance that is set to last! P.S. Peck, can we plan your wedding/score an invite? We promise we won’t fangirl too much over you and Drake Bell…

Your engagement ring—you know, that stunning piece of hardware that’ll sit on your left ring finger—can represent not only your number one love, but also your personality and style. If you gravitate towards classic and elegant, you’ve no doubt had your eye on Tiffany & Co.’s signature Tiffany Setting. This year marks the 130th anniversary of the historic six-prong setting that makes a round diamond look like it’s floating on the finger. In honor of the anniversary, we sat down with Melvyn Kirtley, who’s been Tiffany & Co.’s chief gemologist for over 30 years, to talk about the iconic engagement ring setting and what brides-to-be should keep in mind when searching for their ring.

What is it about the Tiffany Setting that’s helped it stand the test of time?
When it was designed in 1886, it was a brilliant way of taking the diamond—a beautiful, round, brilliant-cut diamond—and setting it above the finger to really allow the light to get to it. Prior to that, diamonds were set much lower. It’s the pureness of it and the simplicity that make it so special. The hardest things to design are the simplest things because there’s no place to hide.

Simple generally is timeless. But how can brides-to-be exude a little more personality with such a classic ring?
You can stack different bands —a wedding band, an anniversary band, and make a wonderful stack with it. Some customers prefer something a little more designed in a sense. They may want to have diamonds around, or they may want to have a more elaborate setting.

What should brides-to-be note when shopping for an engagement ring?
You have to fall in love with it. You have to love the shape. You have to have an immediate magnetism toward that shape. You have to look at a lot and narrow it down to a few and settle on the one that you fall in love with. It’s a process that takes time, and it’s a journey. And you have to go on the journey. Over the period of the visits, you’re going to find the shape that you love, the shape that works for you, that’s going to work for you in your lifestyle. You’re going to be wearing it every day, and it has to be one that you fall in love with, not that everyone else falls in love with.

And is that journey something you recommend a couple does together?
I think the journey has to be somewhat together. The ultimate purchase is done separately, but the journey and the narrowing down of which one it is has to be done collaboratively.

What are some of the latest trends you’ve seen with engagement rings?
With an engagement ring, you’re not really talking about a fashion statement. You’re talking about something you’ll have forever. It’s one of the biggest investments outside of a house or a car that you’ll ever make. It has to be classic. Something that will work forever.

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Surprise! R&B sensation Jill Scott married her boyfriend Mike Dobson in a top-secret wedding ceremony and reception this past weekend. The two tied the knot June 25, 2016 at an all-white wedding which that some special wedding surprises.

The 44-year-old actress and singer looked absolutely exquisite in her scoop-neck, long-sleeved wedding dress. Her hair was pulled off her face in a bun updo, complete with tear-drop diamond earrings to accentuate her look. The groom wore a simple black tux, accessorized with a black bowtie and white rose boutonniere, according to Page Six. The hush-hush ceremony was filled with candles and gorgeous lighting, and the reception was tented, keeping with the couple’s request for an intimate, party vibe.

Although the wedding was a big secret to the rest of the world (upheld by the bride and groom and their guests), there were no shortage of surprises for the bride herself — including a live performance by Grammy-winning rapper Big Daddy Kane that her new hubby for orchestrated. Major brownie points for your first week of marriage, Dobson! In true newlywed fashion, the two are seen smiling throughout the night in photos and videos — dancing, feeding each other cake, and laughing (major props on being gentle with each other while taking their first bites of cake). As it should be, lovebirds.

This was the Grammy-award winner’s second marriage — previously she was married to Lyzel Williams until 2007 and engaged in 2009 to Lil’ John Roberts. She and Roberts have a 7-year-old son, Jett Roberts, who was in attendance at the wedding (and seen enjoying an adorable dance with his mama — this little guy has moves!). DJ Mars, a good friend of the groom for over 20 years, was the MC of the night, according to People. He posted videos and photos of the ceremony but then later deleted them, sharing that he knew about the wedding last year but not who Dobson was marrying (they are just full of surprises, huh?). Mars had written on his IG, “He came to my house and gave me the deposit early but didn’t say he was marrying Jill Scott!!!!”

After such a beautiful night filled with happy surprises for the couple and their guests, it’s safe to say that their married life together is off to a good start. Congrats you two! See below for more photos and videos of their big day.

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Congrats to newlyweds #JillScott and #MikeDobson! Jill's reaction to a surprise performance from hip-hop legend #BigDaddyKane is priceless****** [**@djmars404]

A video posted by Rolling Out (@rollingout) on Jun 26, 2016 at 8:22am PDT

Congrats to Jill Scott on tying the knot this weekend. She is pictured with Big Daddy Kane's wife. Jill is so beautiful. She was a gorgeous bride. Rp @industryonblast_ #Mediaoutrage #Melanin #jillscott

A photo posted by Mediaoutrage (@mediaoutrage) on Jun 27, 2016 at 6:12am PDT

Congrats to the beautiful soulful singer #JillScott who is now a married woman!! Wishing Mr. and Mrs.Dobson a wonderful lifetime together. ** #radbridal #bridal #bridalinspirations #weddings #weddingplanning #Newlyweds

A photo posted by RAD Bridal Inspirations (@radbridal) on Jun 27, 2016 at 4:33am PDT

#PressPlay: Guess who just tied the knot…. My girl #JillyFromPhilly and #MikeDobson. Congrats to the happy couple! #JillScott

A video posted by freddyo (@freddyoart) on Jun 26, 2016 at 6:54am PDT

Congrats to Miss Jill Scott as she married Mr. Mike Dobson. Blessings! #JillScott #MikeDobson #NameDropped #Love ** #JillyFromPhilly #Blessings #JustMarried #BlackLove

A photo posted by Entertainment Prescription LLC (@entertainmentprescription_) on Jun 26, 2016 at 8:30am PDT

I love surprises & weddings. Congrats to the beautiful @missjillscott & her beau. This just warms my heart on this Beautiful Sunday y'all. Repost by @djmars404 *** So,Mike Dobson called me and said I'm going to surprise my wife during the reception and have Big Daddy Kane perform. He then says,"Mars you call Kane to work it out". So im gassed because I'm on the phone strategizing with arguably one of the best rappers period(top 5 of anyone's list)! Me and Big Daddy Kane on the phone,im geeked! No one knew but me and the husband knew he was about to perform. Dude walks in and they didn't even recognize him until he starts rapping. Her face is soooo priceless! #jillscott #mikedobson #bigdaddykane #djmarsapproved

A video posted by **XO**SHIKA|SC**|TECH**R (@xoloveshika) on Jun 26, 2016 at 6:47am PDT

CONGRADULATIONS TO 1 OF MY FAVORITE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD!!!!! Mrs. Jill Scott-Dobson On Her Marriage To Mr. Mike Dobson ****************************************************** The New Mr & Mrs Dobson!!!! God Bless Y'all ************************************ @missjillscott #MikeDobson #JillScott #JillScottDobson #JillDobson #Marriage #Married #HappilyMarried #Hitched #JumpedTheBroom #HolyMatrimony

A video posted by DW Bass (@dwbass2) on Jun 26, 2016 at 10:05am PDT

We’ve been socialized to swoon over flowers, chocolates, and other romantic gestures. “But romance only takes a relationship so far,” says Toni Coleman, psychotherapist and relationship coach. “Successful relationships happen when we choose with our heads as well as our hearts. In fact, what we might consider unromantic initially can become a major turn on and provide much of the glue that holds a relationship together through time and the many challenges that couples face.”

With that in mind, here are seven signs you’re in the right relationship — no flowers and chocolate necessary!

1. Your partner does things you enjoy (and he or she doesn’t).
If your partner does things you and you alone dig, happily and without protest, you’ve struck relationship gold. Why? Because, “while going to a play or watching every episode of Scandal might not be their cup of tea, they do it anyway because being with you and seeing your enjoyment matters more than the specific activity,” says Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It’s also a sign that they don’t expect the relationship to be all about them.”

2. Your partner shares your work ethic.
According Coleman, having a partner with a very different attitude towards the value of and importance of work can leave you as the only responsible person in your partnership. And that’s not a situation you’ll want to be in forever. “Imagine carrying all the weight for chores, child care, household management, and the handling of finances,” she encourages. “Not only does this lead to burn-out, it also causes contributes to feelings of resentment and a loss of affection and respect.”

3. Your partner pitches in to do whatever needs to be done.
And there’s no back-talk about how you haven’t tied up and taken out the trash yourself in two months. “It may be your turn to do something, but they do it because they can and want to,” says Doares. “This shows a generosity of spirit and a willingness to be part of the team. It also shows maturity in not holding to strict interpretations of rules or expectations.”

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4. Your partner follows-through — in a timely manner.
There’s nothing worse than nagging your partner to fulfill a promise he or she made weeks ago. “This leaves you with the belief that your needs are a low priority for your partner,” Coleman warns. “Your relationship with be one of two independent people taking care of their own needs and bean counting — which is an intimacy killer.” On the flip side, being with someone who follows through, quickly and without reminders, is a sign you’ve found a reliable life partner.

5. They stand up for you to their family.
You want to get along with the family who could become your future in-laws. But sometimes that just doesn’t happen. In this situation, a guy or gal who stands up for you is a keeper. “Being married means putting each other first before anyone else,” explains Doares. “One of the biggest challenges to a marriage is the inability of one partner to develop appropriate boundaries with other important people in their life. They take up differences with you in private but to the outside world, they have your back.”

6. Your partner challenges you intellectually.
Says Coleman, “On the surface, choosing someone who turns you on intellectually may sound very unromantic.” But dig a little deeper, and you may find that “over time, this is the person who will keep it interesting and ensure that your relationship never gets boring,” she says.

7. They openly and consistently communicate with you, even when it’s tough.
Says Doares, “Being in a committed relationship requires the ability to work together, which requires the ability to share thoughts, feelings, expectations, and concerns.” That kind of quality communication goes far beyond saying “I love you,” she says. “Being able to talk about hard stuff — finances, sex, running a household, hurt feelings — is they key to having a happy, healthy relationship that will last,” Doares says.

Yes, every relationship needs a little romance. But remember: “Romantic gestures can steal the focus away from the qualities that are necessary to sustain a loving relationship for the long term,” says Doares. “Romance is important, but it needs to be seen as the icing on a cake that you want to eat anyway.”

Calvin Harris who? Taylor Swift had us totally convinced that she was on her way down that aisle with DJ Calvin Harris. However after a blissful 15 months together, the couple called it quits — supposedly because Harris wasn’t ready to get married yet. But cue up the “We Are Never Ever Getting Back to Together,” because the superstar songstress has a new beau in her life — British actor Tom Hiddleston. And they’ve already hit a MAJOR relationship milestone: Meeting the parents! (That’s the first step in tying the knot right?)

Romance rumors first started swirling between Swift and Hiddleston when a video surfaced of the pair adorably dancing around at a Selena Gomez concert (a.k.a. Swift’s future maid of honor, obviously).

Earlier this month, the pair officially went public with their romance. They were spotted kissing and canoodling on a beach in Rhode Island (swoon…) a couple of weeks back. And now, they were just seen strolling on another beach across the pond — with Hiddleston’s mother in tow!

According to People, the new couple jetted off to England on Friday so Swift could meet her maybe-future-mother-in-law, Diane Hiddleston, in her hometown of Suffolk. You remember meeting the parents, right? Sweaty palms, a heavily beating heart, praying that your future in-laws don’t completely hate you… But by the looks of it, this threesome got along splendidly! The happy couple and Hiddleston’s too-cute mother were all smiles in the snapshots the paparazzi snapped of the outing (see below). At one point, Hiddleston’s mom was even happily sandwiched between the pair as they walked along the English countryside!

It may be a little early in this relationship, but we’re definitely seeing future mother/daughter in-law potential here! If there ever was anyone to win over a sweetheart’s mom, it would without-a-doubt be T. Swift. Come on, who could ever be a momzilla to this face?!

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