For as much envying as we do of other couples, the truth is — even the most wonderful, ‘perfect’ couple can end up divorced.

We’ve all seen it: Two genuinely great people start off head-over-heels in love, but then somewhere along the way (despite everything looking rosy on the surface) they shock their family and friends and announce their marriage is over. This unleashes a bloodbath of upset and unhappiness on everyone who loves them who now feel forced to take sides.

What happened? They seemed so happy together!

Despite how happy they started off as a couple, the pair was likely hiding an unending cycle of unhappiness within their relationship. And after keeping that all below the surface for too long, they felt like separating was their only option.

This isn’t unusual at all. Many couples struggle to maintain a ‘happy relationship,’ but their marriage still falls apart. Here are 11 bad habits they likely left un-addressed that slowly but surely eroded love and connection between them:

1. Not being on the same page with each other. Often couples lack alignment on the things that matter most, and feel like their own personal goals/feelings are the most important ones to focus on.

2. Not meeting each other’s needs. Every person has unique needs they hope their partner will fulfill. But often couples fail to speak up about those needs or presume their partner’s needs are the same as their own.

3. Letting disconnect become the norm. This is when couples start to say things like “I love you, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with you.”

4. Allowing intimacy to dwindle. The affection, connection and tenderness you once shared dries up from lack of effort, leaving you merely roommates.

5. Neglecting each other. Blowing each other off, forgetting to follow through on things promised, failing to pay attention. Neither of you necessarily meant to make other things more important than your spouse, but you did.

6. Harboring resentment for each other. Unspoken or unresolved resentment festers and severely poisons a once healthy relationship. One partner (or even both) can think: You did this thing to me, and I can’t get over it.

7. Not dealing with things head on. You know things are off, but it’s easier to do nothing about it. You avoid facing the truth or handling the real issues in your marriage.

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8. Criticizing each other. When you nitpick each other in your minds and out loud, soon you only see your partner’s faults. After awhile, complaining and criticizing become a comfortable habit which compromises your willingness to communicate and interact in a compassionate, supportive way.

9. Turning your attention (and affection) elsewhere. Whether by having an affair or pouring all of your attention into the kids, one or both of you checked out and sought attention and affection elsewhere. After that, it’s easy to completely give up.

10. Letting stress control your lives. Life is hectic and many couples accidently let stress (big and small) come between them. But once stress takes over and shared togetherness fractures, it can feel incredibly difficult (if not impossible) to get it back.

11. Fighting to win. When you’re more focused on ‘being right’ than truly connecting, attempts to ‘talk about it’ usually make things worse.

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The longer the above issues remain unresolved in ANY marriage, the more these habits intertwine, intensify and steadily reduce the flow of love and connection in your life. Each day, love dwindles and stress builds until even formerly happy couples reach their breaking point.

And the single BIGGEST mistake most couples make in this situation is thinking — We can fix this if we just communicate better!

Unfortunately, it’s hard to want to talk about anything if you don’t feel valued and appreciated by your partner. And if you go through the typical couples counseling process issue by issue (combing through your version and your partner’s), you’ll frequently feel more separate afterwards than pulled back towards each other.

So what can you do when your happy marriage feels miserable (and seems hopelessly lost)?

– Find a little perspective: Focus on why you fell in love with your partner and what you want your life to become like together. Even better, tell your partner this without any expectations of them doing the same.

– Start to repair the damage: Apologize for your part in any misunderstanding. Don’t defend why you did or didn’t do this or that. Offer a simple, heartfelt apology without expecting one from them. This seriously can work wonders.

– Be brave enough to go first: Be willing to give to your partner first instead of waiting for them to make the first move. This isn’t rarely easy if you think they owe you, but you can do it because it’s helpful to your marriage.

– Stop waging war: Stop doing anything that’s causing harm to your partner or injures your feeling of connection. This might simply mean showing a little more patience, compassion and kindness.

– Read The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle: It’s full of helpful ideas that you can begin to use right away to repair the real issues in your marriage.

The happiness and success of any marriage is reflected in ‘the little things’ you do (and fail to do) for each other. Don’t let your marriage fall apart like so many couples do. Today, make a fresh start. Chose to do something that moves you out of the past and imagines a brighter future together.

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Jeff Forte CSIC, CME , Author of The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle has helped hundreds of couples bring love and passion back into their marriages. Contact him today to get his direct input on your situation.

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

You’re this close to booking your wedding venue. But then, another location you’d looked at a few weeks back pops into your head, bringing loads of indecision with it. Heed this insider tip: Many venues offer an extra perk that just might help you seal the deal. Here are six of our favorite unexpected benefits to booking the city’s top venues.

Ovation (Above)
Sparkler exits send the couple off in style. But for the ultimate send off, look no further than Ovation. Since hitting the event-space scene last year on the western stretch of Fulton Street, Ovation’s easily risen to the top of the city’s options for hip, contemporary venues. Once the last song plays and the guests start stepping off the dance floor, the just-married couple get to end their night on a high note — being chauffeured to their bridal suite from the back of a 1959 white Rolls Royce. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Spiaggia
Spiaggia is hot-off-the-heels of a grand reopening of their private event space. And the highly regarded Italian restaurant proves it’s one of the top spots in the city for a wedding with fewer than 180 guests. Each wedding reception package option offers passed hors d’oeuvres, dinner courses, and an open bar. But if you splurge on the most extravagant package — the platinum — Spiaggia will welcome you back one year later with a complimentary dinner for your first anniversary. Saluti! Read real brides’ reviews here!

The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago
The glamorous hotel just off Michigan Avenue has no shortage of unique spots to host your big day. The Grand Ballroom stuns with a 400,000-crystal chandelier and a skyline view sparkling from the windows, while brides looking for something smaller (but still chic) can head up to the rooftop. Simply put: There are dozens of reasons to choose the Ritz-Carlton to host your wedding. Consider the fact that you can apply Ritz-Carlton Reward points to your honeymoon stay a cherry on top. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Intercontinental
A stone’s throw from the Chicago River and situated right on Michigan Avenue, this quintessential Chicago venue has to be on the list. What really sets it apart, however, is one special perk that’ll show your appreciation for your parents. The hotel offers complimentary room upgrades to your parents and brand-new in-laws, so they can recover from the party in a roomy suite. Read real brides’ reviews here!

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Sepia
What was once a 19th century print shop is now a Michelin-starred restaurant — and easily the venue of your dreams. Spectacular food aside, you’ll find a space that beautifully mixes the old and the new, with exposed brick walls next to stunning crystal chandeliers. Sepia is ideal for a small wedding of about 60 people, and if you host it in the months between January and April, they’ll throw in a Champagne toast on the house. Read real brides’ reviews here!

MileNorth Hotel
The Streeterville hotel combines many style genres — from a funky lobby to contemporary event spaces. And the wedding-planning staff is ready to help at every turn. They offer a complimentary bridal suite for your first night as husband and wife. Plus, they’ll deliver welcome bags to your guests at check in — one less thing to worry about as you’re getting ready!

Not your cup of tea? Don’t fret! There are dozens more Chi-Town locales for your big day on our Chicago Venues page!

Behind every great studio is often a great story. From fitness professionals who wanted to create something new in the market to those who found strength and change by working out and wanted to pass their message to others, there are so many ways the studios you frequent and love found their start.

For some studios, their great beginnings started when they fell in love with their partner.

Get inspired by these powerful stories from couple-owned studios across the globe. Not only do they share their sweet how-they-met stories, but how fitness has made their relationship stronger and closer.

Yoga Studios

Sarah and Mason Levey
Owners of Y7 Studio in New York

How they met: They went to different high schools but were introduced by a mutual friend at a house party. They didn’t start dating until after college.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “The idea for Y7 was a combination of both of our needs and what we wanted out of a yoga experience. It was a very natural process to do this together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Before we opened the studio, working out together was definitely not the norm. Since becoming a part of the boutique studio community, we have been trying countless numbers of different studios, and it’s been really fun getting to try new things together. For the last two months, we have been living in different states to get the Los Angeles location up and running, while ensuring New York stays on track. Because of our relationship, we are able to work through any disagreements, and at the end of the day we always support each other and are on the same team.”

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Nova and Dustin Brown
Owners of Warrior One Yoga in Melbourne

How they met: They met 10 years ago, when Dustin was traveling in Melbourne, Australia. It truly was a whirlwind: They fell in love within weeks and were married within seven months.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We were simply driven to create something spiritual, rewarding and positive. After completing a yoga teacher training together in Thailand, the idea of opening our own yoga studio became evident and we’re certain this was right path. We came back from our teacher training feeling connected and completely enlightened and motivated to share our passion. Together, Dustin and I have created a space we love to be in every day and are continuing to build a beautiful community of like-minded people.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Practicing yoga together completely changed our relationship! We had already been together for nearly five years before we found yoga, but this brought a new perspective, a new love, and a new understanding of one another and ourselves. We practiced every morning together, always ending in Savasana holding hands. I owe my thanks to yoga, as I believe it’s a huge contributor to why we are so in love after 10 years of marriage.”

Matt Shechtman and Becky Nickerson
Owners of Infinity Yoga in Atlanta

How they met: On a blind date!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Becky opened the studio first, while I was still working a corporate legal job for a large international law firm. When she decided to expand to a second location, it was time for me to step into the operations role so that Becky could focus more on teaching, managing the instructors and directing the Teacher Training program.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We spend a lot more time together now that we work together, and unlike before, we know the intimate details of everything the other person is doing because it is all interrelated. Before Matt joined the studios full-time, we ran very separate lives and each did our own thing and didn’t know as much about what the other was doing. Sharing the studios has allowed us the opportunity to grow together while building the business. It really is the best of both worlds to intertwine our marriage and business!” — Becky

Lindsey Duggan and Jay Sirois
Owners of AIR: Aerial Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: At a bar, where Lindsey was working and Jay was drinking.

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s made us communicate a lot more. It’s great having someone on your side, especially when times get tough. It’s nice to have someone there to bounce ideas off as well. It also makes us closer because the studio is our first child. We both want the studio to be amazing and enjoyable for everyone who steps through our doors.” — Lindsey

Chris Koch and Jackie Alexander
Owners of Humming Puppy in Melbourne

How they met: They met via Jackie’s former boss and knew one another for seven years before they started dating.

Why they decided to open a studio together: Jackie wanted to leave her corporate job to open a studio that she believed in. Chris joined in to help spread the message of Humming Puppy, a room that hums with great frequency and vibration.

How fitness has brought them closer: “For me, yoga has changed my life and continues to do so on so many levels. It allows me to live mindfully and keeps me grounded when things get a little crazy. Without yoga, poor Chris would suffer! Working alongside a partner who shares the same vision as you is an incredible experience. It has strengthened our bond and solidified our relationship in many ways. It gets busy and it gets hectic, but we love what we do and love that we are doing it together.” — Jackie

Flannery Foster and Raymond Gonzales
Owners of goodyoga in New York

How they met: They met on New Years Eve 2008 when a mutual friend had two tickets to a My Morning Jacket concert at Madison Square Garden.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Both of us were in a transition period of our lives. Flannery was teaching yoga full-time and I was closing my graphic design studio. We met and instantly began collaborating on ways to work for ourselves and incorporate the important things in life: art, travel and yoga. Opening a studio in an underserved area of Greenpoint, Brooklyn seemed like a good idea.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “My wife is my greatest motivator and my best asset! In many ways it is the core of out relationship. Neither of us were or are health nuts or fitness freaks. We try not to put garbage into our bodies and we are very active travelers. Our bodies feel great when we train them with a yoga practice and then use them on our life adventures.” — Raymond

Indoor Cycling

Michael and Demetre
Owners of The Monster Cycle in New York

How they met: In an indoor cycling class!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We love health, fitness, friends and art. We just wanted to create a space to call home.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness has helped us grow as a team partnership. We help each other with playlists and take each other’s classes for feedback. Nothing is better than taking a class with your partner.” — Michael

Robert Rowland and Hilary Gilbert
Owners of BOOM Cycle in London

How they met: At a gig in London and then had a whirlwind week of dates in Los Angeles and Las Vegas.

Why they decided to open a studio together: We were both looking to open a business and realized how much work it would take, and we wanted to make sure we got to spend time together. We always moved quickly: I went to LA for our first date, we became a couple a few days later, then a few days after that Hilary moved from LA to London and we moved in together. We are a team!”

How fitness has brought them closer: I wouldn’t say that it has. We’re the same people we’ve always been, if perhaps a little more tired and wiser. We still share the same interests, goals and dreams. We’re even engaged now to be married. Having a business together accelerates how well you know your partner, but it makes us stronger and even more intertwined so we couldn’t imagine not spending every day together. We’re sure that working with your partner is not right for everyone, so think long and hard about how it would work. Hilary and I have very different job roles and responsibilities, so we don’t step on each others toes too much.” — Robert

Suhail Maqsood and Carl Morley
Owners of The Wheel House in San Francisco

How they met: Carl and Suhail met on Carl’s first day at Oracle in the UK. They became good friends and after many months, began dating. Twenty years later, we both left our software technology jobs and now live in San Francisco helping people meet their fitness goals.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Carl taught at multiple gyms throughout San Francisco. He spent more hours teaching than his regular full time job! He enjoyed teaching fitness classes more than his regular job and was encouraged by Suhail to follow his passion. We both visited our current location and fell in love with the idea of putting all our eggs in one basket to commit to our first studio.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s tough without a doubt when you spend 24hrs a day together with the same person at work and at home. But, we make it work since we are each others true love. My only question is when Carl is going to propose.” — Suhail

Pilates

Chris and Shannon Catalano
Owners of Pilates Vita of Denver

How they met: Chris and Shannon met at work. While on active duty, Chris got stationed at Tinker Air Force Base and was assigned to the organization where Shannon was working.

Why they decided to open a studio together: Chris and Shannon decided to combine their passion for fitness and nutrition, desire to change lives, and love of business. A family-run studio that focuses on strength, flexibility, cardio and nutrition was the perfect marriage.

How fitness has brought them closer: Because of their love of fitness, Chris and Shannon work together daily growing their business and connecting with their community. They take great pride in working with their neighbors. In helping others live healthy, active lives, they are fulfilling their life dream together.

Strength Training

Carlos and Marilenny Lopez
Owners of Westsmere Fitness in Houston

How they met: They’re high school sweethearts.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We always wanted to open a business in the health and fitness industry. We took the leap of faith.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “It has changed for sure. Our lives are busier now, with juggling regular jobs, the studio, and three young kids, ages 10, 5, and 2. We have become stronger together. She is my partner in crime.” — Carlos

Julie and Steven DiLeo
Owners of Women’s Fitness of Boston

How they met: They met after he moved in with Julie’s brother.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Fitness has always been part of our lives. As a personal trainer and fitness instructor with a background in business, this was a dream come true. My husband played semi-pro football for 16 years and is an all-around athlete and a carpenter, so we knew he had the skills to do any repairs and updates the club might need. We figured we could put our skills together to make a successful family business.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness keeps us both young and active. Our club is women-only, so my husband has been supportive in all the club updates, repairs and marketing efforts/ideas, and final decision making. I remain active in the day-to-day club duties, management, personal training and group fitness. Together we make a successful team. Outside of our business, my husband is always coaching our son in hockey or football and even basketball. You will find us at a rink, field or gym watching our son compete. Fitness has been a healthy influence on our son’s life, and many of my clients have watched him grow into a young, talented athlete.” — Julie

Natalie Joseph and Seth Daniel
Owners of Body Unlimited Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: Natalie decided to take a basic training course and was attracted to her instructor, Seth. They moved in together a month later, dated for three years and are engaged to be married.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We both believe that we need to build the future we seek. We opened this business together in an effort to educate people about true health and fitness, as we are bombarded by new fads and gimmicks every day. We want to help guide people in a direction that’s healthy for the mind and heart as well as the body. Balance is key, but most people in today’s world have no idea what that means or how to achieve it. We want to change that.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We have found that running a business together reveals our strengths in ways that allow us to harmonize in our actions. For example, I am great at leading the social interactions and making financial decisions within our gym, and Seth is a fantastic handyman and artist. We bounce ideas off of each other, and it’s like a magnified window into each other’s mind and heart, which is just plain cool. I think there is something to be said about opening a business out of love and running it with love. Every day I feel like I am a productive human being contributing something positive to this world.” — Natalie

John and Kelly King
Owners of South Coast CrossFit in Los Angeles

How they met: Before opening their studio, they both worked in real estate. Kelly was a marketing director and John was a Realtor.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We decided to open a studio while on our honeymoon June 2011. We opened February 2012. It is our dream to inspire change in others to leave this world better than we found it. We are succeeding at this dream through helping others find a love and appreciation for health and fitness. If you feel good, chances are you will also do some good. This year, our community provided 500 meals for orphaned children with HIV, and we donated holiday gifts to to six families. We also started a non-profit, Uplifting Lives, to provide fitness to less fortunate young adults and teens, to empower them with the choice to be involved in something productive.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We are the healthiest version of ourselves we can be. We are also surrounded by strong friendships from our community with people who prioritize fitness like we do to improve their quality of life. My husband and I are strongly connected and close. We sweat together and work together daily. What a blessing!” — Kelly

Miguel Novo and Stephanie Luciano
Owners of Novo Body Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: They met at 24 Hour Fitness — it was love at first sight!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Miguel had been a personal trainer for a couple years as well as group instructor at other studios in Los Angeles, and it got to a point that his schedule was packed and he couldn’t take on more clients. The likely next step was to open his own studio. I had been a talent agent for 15 years and was ready for a change in lifestyle. I have been a fitness enthusiast my entire life. Everything just made sense for us.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We got married on May 3, 2014, opened Novo Body in February of 2015 and are expecting a baby end of March 2016. The last couple of years have been such a blessing. We love running the studio together. Miguel’s lead role is with the trainers, the training method and the clients. I handle the marketing and business side of things. We each have our own lane that we stay in, and it works so good for us. We are both crazy passionate about fitness and being healthy, and it’s a main focus in our lives. We are closer than ever being married and running the studio together.” — Stephanie

Crystal Greene-El Amin and Rashad El Amin
Owners of Foxy and Fierce Women’s Kickboxing Bootcamp in Los Angeles

How they met: They met nine years ago working at BB King Nightclub at Universal City Walk.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “I had been studying martial arts my whole life. I grew up in a dojo, my father and mother are both sixth degree black belts. I myself am a third degree black belt. Fourteen years ago, I discovered Muay Thai while trying to increase my skill and strength for a tournament. I fell in love with putting on boxing gloves and going hard on Thai pads, kicking and punching. When Rashad and I started dating, we would work out together, and we had a pair of pads we would train with. People would always tell me how they would love to do this type of workout. We felt like, you can! So we started a small bootcamp, and it has evolved into what it is now.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness has always been a part of our lives. Rashad and I both come from athletic backgrounds. He, a football player and track star. Me, a well-rounded basketball player and track athlete. Like most people in their early twenties, we would go out and have our share of cocktails and then try to get up in the morning fighting the usual hangover. But since opening the studio, instead of late night parties, we’re planning hikes and outdoor training sessions first thing in the morning. We are not just a couple but are equals and business partners. I feel that are relationship has only been strengthened by our commitment to a healthy lifestyle.” — Crystal

David and Dylan Schenk
Owners of Cross Train LA

How they met: David got on the treadmill next to Dylan and wouldn’t leave her alone.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “At first it was a move of desperation. I was newly pregnant and not able to work a ton of hours because of my extreme morning sickness. We needed passive income, and we needed to act quickly! Our original cross-training concept was conceptualized and executed in only three months and with less than — 20,000. It was really stressful at the time, but there’s no ‘perfect time’ to start a new business.”

How fitness brought them closer: “We have always worked together; that’s how we met. Owning our own studio was a natural progression for us. We are both equally passionate about exercise, health and fitness — and we got sick of working for other people. I’m stronger on the admin/sales/social media side of the business, where as Dave, a Division I college athlete, excels in program design, so it really works for us. We’ve got our whole family involved. Every day, our kids (ages 2 and 4) do their exercises, regardless of what sporting activities they had that day. We’ve got them practicing their counting while they count jumpsquats, hold handstands on the wall for 30 seconds, and rep out 10 pushups each. They love it, and it’s fun to do as a family!” — Dylan

Ray and Tara Wallace
Owners of FIT RxN in New York

How they met: At New York Sports Club.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We decided building 10 years together was better than building 10 years apart.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We have an incredible healthy and well-balanced relationship, both in and out of work. Fitness has provided a platform for us to grow together. Owning a business together and spending every day building toward our life goals is something we take great pride in as an example for our children.” — Tara

Earl and DeShay Williams
Owners of DEFINITIONS Personal Gym in Washington, D.C.

How they met: Earl opened Definitions in 1994 and shortly after started the first indoor cycling classes (now known as Cycle, Ride, Rev etc) in D.C. DeShay managed another gym and called to ask if she could try a class. She loved his class and thought both he and the class were fabulous. He felt the same about her. They hit it off personally and professionally, got married and have been running Definitions ever since.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We both love sports and fitness. It’s who we are, what we do and what we love. It makes us stronger individuals and it makes our relationship stronger. We work out together, collaborate on training programs together and can’t stop analyzing the posture of passers by while dining out. We’ve been through a lot. Earl said to me once, ‘I’m sure we can handle anything.’ I tear up every time I think about him saying that to me.” — DeShay

Alex and Nedra Mastosov
Owners of The P.E. Club in New York

How they met: Alex and Nedra met at Equinox seven years ago. They were both trainers and at first, didn’t like each other. He thought Nedra was ‘too nice’ and she thought Alex was a ‘know-it-all.’ That all changed when they fell in love.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “No matter how much we loved training with our clients in the park, their homes or other gyms, there seemed to be something missing. We decided to start a “club” where members were serious about their physical health, and take it a step further. Though P.E. stands for Physical Education, we wanted to be more, which is what gave way to our tagline: “It’s not Physical — It’s Personal.”

How fitness has brought them closer: Fitness has been an extremely important part of our lives. Not only is it our livelihood, but has kept us strong as a couple. It is not easy working alongside your spouse, especially when you own a fitness business together. I wouldn’t say it has changed our relationship, especially since it is how we met, but has helped us to overcome many obstacles together.” — Nedra

Jen and Jeff Crompton
Owners of Fuel Cycle Fitness in Philadelphia

How they met: They met through a mutual friend when they were both recently out of relationships. While Jen thought Jeff looked familiar, she couldn’t place it until they realized they both went to the same college and had the same friends, but never met. Until one night at a bar, that is.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Simply put, we wanted to make peoples’ lives better. We wanted to do something that made a difference and empower people to live happier and healthier lives. I was a cycle instructor since my days of unemployment and loved it ever since I got on the instructor bike, turned on my first microphone, and blasted my first playlist. When Jeff and I were preparing for our wedding, I came across a boxing studio and thought he could try it out with me. When we had the idea of doing something to make a difference, we knew that a fitness studio would be amazing — but we had to find the right offering in the right place. Since preparation for our wedding included a boxing, cycling, yoga regimen, I knew it was a great combination. We also had the idea that by combining these two exercises, we could coerce couples to get fit together — whether they both boxed or came to the studio and one boxed and one cycled — they could motivate and build accountability together. So, we did our research, built out the idea, and after finding the perfect space, launched our studio with three days of free classes on December 28, 2015!

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s always been something deep-rooted in both of us since we were athletes our entire lives. But, taking on fitness together, that has helped us become a stronger couple in all senses. We are physically stronger and our relationship is stronger. Every day we work toward doing something amazing for ourselves and for others — and that’s what life is all about.” — Jen

Paul Rahn and Matheu Martell
Owners of SWEAT Chicago

How they met: They met when Matheu came to one of Paul’s classes. Though they had a mutual friend, Paul was so busy at the time that he hardly noticed Matheu. It wasn’t until his third class that he started to take note of the guy always asking questions. They finally figured out their mutual friend was trying to set them up, and the magic happened from there.

How fitness has brought them closer: “Doing this together has strengthened our relationship, as we both grow our own capabilities. We use each other for the ultimate form of support, we can be 100 percent raw with our weaknesses with each other, and most importantly help each other balance ourselves and our life. We are competitive, so while at times we are a lot to handle (literally I think sometimes people might be like ‘I can’t with you guys!’) we push each other because we want to look and feel our bests. We feel good when we know we are in sync with our bodies and this translates in how we handle ourselves daily!We love to laugh, and love to be stupid! This has become our ‘brand’ per say, making people smile and laugh while we are kicking their asses in our classes. I feel like everyday something happens where we just bust out laughing over what’s probably something not that funny! We take everything so light, and when times get heavy, all we have to do is give a big hug and everything seems much lighter! ” — Paul

Brian and Alyssa Delmonico
Owners of Circuit of Change in New York

How they met: Alyssa took Brian’s outdoor MindBody Bootcamp class the week before the Circuit of Change studio opened. She thanked him for class, gave him a hug and — in his words — that was it! They got married three months ago.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Brian created the method behind MindBody Bootcamp and opened the COC studio Fall 2011. I came in soon after and created our wellness and detox programs. After years of taking his class, loving everything about the unique style of movement, Brian trained me to teach. Our love, life and work has blended so magically together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Following our passion for health and fitness is what brought us together. It’s brought an amazing community of students and friends into our lives. We are so grateful that every single day we do what we love, and we get to share it with each other and the world. We have the opportunity to live and grow in an incredibly positive environment, and do our best to provide the same loving space for others. It’s been a beautiful journey and we’re beyond excited for what’s to come!” — Alyssa

Mike and Melanie
MPowered Bootcamp in San Francisco

How they met: They met at a high school football game 14 years ago. They started dating four years later and are now happily married.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We are both passionate about sports, fitness and helping people. Our favorite mantra is, If you can dream it, you can do it. It has been amazing making our dream come true together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness brings us closer together. Our favorite activity is to work out together, and I fell even deeper in love with Mike once I started taking his bootcamp classes. Being active makes us both feel so good, and when we do it together it is even better. Our company name has special meaning to us. Both of our names start with the letter M, and we both want to empower our members to live happier and healthier lives!” — Melanie

Elissa El Hadj and Jeremy Abadom
Owners of FORM Studios in London

How they met: At the gym!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We wholly believe in each other, complement each other and know that two heads are better than one. We enjoy each other’s company, and because health, fitness and well being is a great passion for both of us, what better way to spend your day — doing what you love, with the one you love!”

How has fitness brought them closer: “In a relationship, it’s vitally important that the couple enjoy hobbies together, as that is what builds and deepens the connection. As we both love fitness, in our free time, we can enjoy the same pursuits together, such as playing tennis, running, cycling, boxing or simply, training together at FORM or when we’re travelling, at the gym. Fitness has most definitely strengthened our relationship ,as it enables us to spend time and feel good together. That’s the beauty of fitness!” — Elissa

Dance and Barre

Brittany and Michael Freeman
Owners of Tone Barre in Los Angeles

How they met: At Chapman University

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Because we were married. Kidding! Because the idea was something we were both passionate about, and we weren’t going to jump full force into something like opening a studio without one another. Working with your spouse definitely isn’t for everyone, but we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and we complement each other pretty well (we think!), which makes us such a great team. It can’t get much better than loving what you do and loving the people you do it with.”

How fitness brought them closer: “It has most definitely made our relationship stronger. Not only is it a common passion we share with respect to our studios, but it’s also something we can enjoy together outside the studio as well. From biking to running to long walks with our two furry dogs, much of our time off together is spent being active. When people ask what we do for fun, that’s pretty much it in a nutshell. We celebrate 10 years together in March!” — Brittany

Alessandro Moruzzi and Vehllia Tranne
Owners of The City Waves in San Francisco

How they met: Dancing.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “It’s a natural progression in our relationship. We love dancing and teaching together, and now we are creating community of like-minded people. We love it!”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We are active, have great energy throughout the day and support each other in improving our health. We both teach our classes alternately and together, with different style of teaching. We have different skills and focus in managing our studio.” — Vehllia

Brandon and Leah Castle
Owners of Jazzercise College Area in San Diego

How they met: On a blind date in college.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “I knew this could be a fun adventure for us. Brandon was not on board at first. It took him a few months to say yes. I am a stay at home mom and Navy wife, and knew I could be doing more with my life. I love teaching Jazzercise, and owning a studio was the next step for me. Brandon eventually said yes, because he knew I wanted to do this. He is a huge supporter of my dreams and came around.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We enjoy every aspect of owning a fitness studio. We are closer and hope to do this as a full-time job once he retires. We have figured out how to run a business, to watch it struggle, watch it grow, and blossom into something our clients love coming to every day. He comes to classes and participates. I couldn’t imagine not doing it without him. Jazzercise is a women-dominated fitness industry, and he is helping other men see that this is a great way to work the body. Running a business takes a team, and I am beyond thankful that my husband is my business partner. I teach, pay bills and manage social media outlets, he does more behind the scenes stuff with advertising, plumbing, building new things or hanging banners. We are a great team!”
— Leah

Kate and Matt Gallagher
Owners of The Barre Code Evanston in Chicago

How they met: At a bar in Chicago.

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness and our studio has become our ‘baby.’ Every tiny aspect of the studio and our classes is so personal to us. Now that we are expecting our first child together, it makes it even more special that our studio, employees and clients are like family to us.” — Kate

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The hours you’ll spend getting ready on your wedding day will be epic, memorable, and very intimate. Getting your hair and makeup done, and finally putting on your wedding dress will be fun and lighthearted, intense, and emotional.

Now, who do you want to share this moment with? The most important thing to consider is the type of vibe you want. If you want a calming, Zen experience before you walk down the aisle, it’s OK to do this solo, or with just one or two friends or family members. Your hotel suite needn’t be Grand Central Station. But if quiet is not your thing, there’s no reason you shouldn’t party it up! Have your suite be like a sorority house getting ready for a Saturday night out, all of you sharing mascara and mirrors.

Who you invite into your suite will make a world of difference in your experience and the emotional tone of the room. So pick wisely.

What every bride does need is someone to run interference. A best friend — not a family member — who can really read your emotional state, who knows your history, and all the wacky and difficult members of your family. (Come on, we all have ’em…especially under the stress of a wedding.)

A few weeks before your wedding, ask this bridesmaid or BFF if she’s willing to play this role. Her job: to keep an eye on your emotional state and to act as buffer from all the crazy that will be coming your way that day. For example, is your stepmom on the critical side? Invite her to pop her head into your suite, then have your “buffer friend” politely show her the door after five minutes. Is the wedding planner pestering you with inane questions? Give your “buffer friend” a signal that you need some space and quiet. Is your hyperactive, anxious sister expelling her stress all over the bridal suite? Ask your “buffer friend” to deal with her, so her prickliness doesn’t really affect you on your wedding day.

There are no “shoulds” for whom you include in your getting-dressed experience. But a BFF acting as a buffer between you and all the wedding crazy will help you have the getting-ready experience you want.

See More: 10 Things You Can’t Forget to Do the Morning of Your Wedding

Allison Moir-Smith is a bridal counselor, expert in cold feet and engagement anxiety.

Is one of your BFFs a guy? That’s no reason to leave him out of your wedding party and all the pre-wedding festivities that go along with it! Instead, select him as a bridesMAN and add him to your bridal party gang. Of course, with a co-ed bridal party, there are a few things you should definitely keep in mind. Here are three things our experts want you to remember if you’ve chosen a bridesman.

You may need to change up the game plan.
Is your maid of honor so ready to throw you the lingerie shower of your dreams? Chances are your bridesman may not be comfortable in a room full of ladies while they shower you with lacey undies and bralettes. Instead, consider something a little more guy-friendly. That doesn’t mean it can’t be girly, but save that silky underwear party for another time.

His wardrobe should be a mix of the bridesmaids’ and the groomsmen’s.
If your ladies are wearing coral, and the groomsmen are wearing light gray, put your bridesman in a coordinating suit with a tie or pocket square to match your bridesmaids’ dresses. That way he’ll blend seamlessly into the wedding party photos while still matching the group in your bridal party pics.

He won’t need quite so much time to get ready.
Even if you’ve planned for you and your bridal party to spend the morning of your wedding being pampered and sipping champagne (and your bridesman wants to be part of the fun!), he may not have the patience for four hours of hair and makeup styling when all he needs is a quick shave and some hair gel. Schedule your morning a little more intentionally, with mimosas and breakfast before the primping begins so he can join you and then head out for a few hours before it’s time for pictures. You could also ask him to pick up lunch on his way over, then spend an hour or so with you all before it’s time to put on your wedding dress.

See more: Bridesman Duties: Everything Your Man of Honor Needs to Know

Have you ever received a wedding invitation in the mail that left you completely clueless about what to wear? Between “black tie optional” and “semiformal,” the language can be tricky to decipher. But we’ve got you covered. Here are the most common wedding-guest dress codes explained so that you arrive appropriately — and stylishly! — dressed to the celebration.

The Invitation Says: “White Tie”
This the most formal of all dress codes (think: White House state dinners).
• For the ladies: A formal floor-length evening gown.
• For the men: A tuxedo, a long black jacket with tails, a formal white shirt, white vest and bow tie, white or gray gloves, and black formal shoes.

The Invitation Says: “Black Tie”
This is the next most formal wedding dress code, and usually means the wedding is an evening event.
• For the ladies: You can go a bit dressier and wear a formal floor-length gown, or choose a short, dressy cocktail dress. (If you’re unsure about the appropriate dress length, the bride, wedding party, or friends should be able to answer your questions.)
• For the men: A tuxedo. A black bow tie, black vest or cummerbund, and patent leather shoes are also suggested. For summer weddings, a white dinner jacket and black tuxedo trousers are also acceptable. (You might be able to get away with a conservative black suit as a substitute for the tux.)

The Invitation Says: “Formal” or “Black Tie Optional”
The wording here indicates something slightly less formal than black tie is acceptable. So, a tuxedo isn’t required, but the event is still formal enough for one to be appropriate.
• For the ladies: A long dress, dressy separates, or a formal cocktail dress.
• For the men: A tuxedo or a formal dark suit, white shirt, and conservative tie.

The Invitation Says: “Semiformal” or “Dressy Casual”
Take your cues from the time of the event: Wear darker, more formal colors for an evening wedding; opt for light colors and fabrics for a daytime event.
•For the ladies: A cocktail dress or a long, dressy skirt and top.
•For the men: A suit and tie, dark or light depending on the season and time of day.

The Invitation Says: “Festive Attire”
Relatively new, this one can leave many guests scratching their heads. Basically, guests are given the go-ahead to have fun and play with their look. Opt for cocktail-party attire featuring bolder colors and playful accessories.
• For the ladies: A cocktail dress or party dress in a fun color, paired with playful accessories.
• For the men: A suit and tie, jazzed up with a bright tie.

The Invitation Says: “Casual”
This indicates the wedding will likely be held outdoors or on the beach, meaning the event will be much more laid-back, especially when it comes to attire. That said, jeans, shorts, and tank tops are probably not appropriate unless they’re specifically noted as acceptable.
• For the ladies: A summer sundress is appropriate (just make sure the fabric isn’t overly formal).
• For the men: Dress pants or khaki pants with a button-down shirt, tie (though you might be able to get out of wearing a tie), and sport jacket or sweater.

Fact: “Jealousy is never part of a healthy relationship,” says Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. So, could jealously be ruining your relationship? Look for these five signs to see.

1. You’re snooping through your partner’s phone.
You also can’t keep your sneaky hands off his computer, pockets, and car. In fact, “whenever you have access to these items you compulsively search through them,” describes Doares. “You may even force yourself to stay up and check after they are asleep.” Unfortunately, you’re not just being vigilant. “Relationships are built on trust, and there is no trust here,” she says. “Eventually you will find something that proves you were right, or they will catch you snooping and the relationship ends.”

2. You read double meanings into your partner’s messages from others.
Every time his phone dings with a new text from his female friend, you make a point to know what it says, and find a reason that two-sentence text proves he’s cheating. “Because you already believe the worst, nothing your partner will say will matter,” Doares says, “and as a result, you will force them to choose between you and this person. If they choose the other person, then you will be validated that there was something going on. And if they choose you, the process continues until they have finally had enough or actually do meet someone else who doesn’t question them all the time.”

See More: Here’s How to Squash Jealousy Over Your Wedding

3. You try to isolate your partner and try to control their every move.
Why? Because as Doares explains, “if you can just watch them 24-hours a day, you can keep them from any wrong behavior. Neither of you will ever have a moment’s peace, but that won’t matter because you will be together.” What’s worse, she says, “you use your love for them as an excuse for limiting their life and convince both of you that no one will ever love them like you do. But this isn’t love, it’s manipulation. Short of locking them up, you won’t be able to continue, and they will eventually talk with someone who will help them see how unhealthy this is and they will leave.”

4. You freak out if they don’t immediately call or text you back.
You sent a text — two minutes ago — and you still don’t have a response. “When you don’t know what is happening, you create the worst scenario possible,” describes Doares. Of course, when your partner finally does respond, you blast him or her for being rude and inconsiderate. “They get defensive,” continues Doares, “which is taken as proof you were right to be upset. And they can’t prove they weren’t doing anything inappropriate, so the cycle continues. You spend your energy being upset and they spend theirs fighting off attacks — and there is none left for love and connection.”

5. You constantly seek reassurance.
Yet when your partner reassures you he loves and wants to be with you, you don’t believe him. “You ask if they love you, if they really love you,” says Doares. “You ask if they like other people more than you. You want to know if they find other people more interesting. You make denigrating comments about yourself and hope they will say you’re wrong. And they keep trying to fill a hole that can’t be filled.” After time, your partner may stop trying to give you compliments at all. “It’s a no win situation for you both and an unhealthy pattern that will make a happy relationship impossible,” she says.

If you spot any of these signs in your own relationship, it’s time to delve deeper to see why you (or your partner) might be behaving this way. “Feelings of jealousy should serve as warnings,” says Doares. “Sometimes your intuition is correct and something is going on. But if you have been jealous in all your relationships, then it is probably more about you than whoever you are with. Your fear-based behavior can eventually create the result — the end of the relationship — you are most trying to avoid. Healthy relationships are based on the two people wanting to be together, not one needing to be.”

Jordan Smith is now not only a reality TV winner, but the man just also won at love! The season nine winner of The Voice just tied the knot with his longtime love, Kristen Denny, in a hometown Kentucky wedding over the weekend. Who else is currently hoping that the groom pulled double duty as a wedding singer?

“We’re beyond excited to announce that we are officially Mr. and Mrs. Smith!” the newlyweds, who said their “I do’s” on Saturday June 25, shared with People magazine. “The journey so far has been amazing, and we can’t wait to continue on this path as a married couple. Our wedding has reminded us that we are just two best friends who realized we’re both the same kind of crazy and fell in love.” Aww!

The too-cute couple became engaged on New Year’s Day 2016, just two weeks after Smith took home the win on NBC’s The Voice. The singer hit all the right notes yet again with a stunning vintage engagement ring for his bride. “RINGING in the new year with my future wife!” Smith wrote on Instagram at the time. (Also, major props to this duo for pulling over a beautiful big day in only about six months!)

The pair wed in a church ceremony, where the bride donned a lace and tulle wedding dress with cap sleeves. “Best day ever!” the newly dubbed Mrs. Smith wrote on social media, captioning a photo of their first wedded kiss.

Back in February, Smith turned to his Voice coach Adam Levine once again, this time in search of marriage advice. “Listen to the woman, man,” said the Maroon 5 crooner. “She’s always right. Even when you don’t always think that’s the case, make her feel like it is. Trust me.” Well said! You best be taking that advice, Jordan!

Best day ever! ???????????? #officiallymrandmrssmith #smithilyeverafter @jordansmithlive

A photo posted by Kristen (@kristend) on Jun 25, 2016 at 7:00pm PDT

Congratulations to these two! Thank you guys for your friendship! Praying for a lifetime of happiness for the both of you, you deserve it! #SmithWedding #RedCarpet

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Whether it’s an informal reception with some appetizer trays or a full sit down dinner, getting the right food for you and your guests can seem daunting. Add to that special dietary needs and desires, and, well, who has the time for months of menu tastings? Here’s our round up of L.A.’s best healthy caterers that will work with your budget and palette.

Valley Brink Road
This boutique catering company offers on-site chef services utilizing seasonal, organic, and local ingredients with a focus on a Mediterranean style of cooking. Owner Barrett Prendergast was doing farm-to-table way before the term had even been coined so you’re guaranteed a meal that’s rustic and delicious, and she can easily cater to any dietary restrictions that you or your guests may have.

Eco Caterers
These guys make everything from scratch — from sauces and pastas to bread. Not only are all of their ingredients ethically sourced and from local vendors, they also cater vegan and gluten-free events on a regular basis. Some examples of vegan dishes that would satisfy the most die-hard meat-and-potatoes-loving guests are truffle mac and cheese cups and vegan sliders with caramelized onions. As an added bonus, Eco Caterers also offers full service event and wedding coordinators to help you plan your entire event from start to finish. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Veganics Catering
These guys are all organic, all vegan, all the time! With a kitchen in Venice Beach, this healthy catering operation can provide you with everything from appetizer trays to muffin baskets and everything in between. They are also able to accomdate even the strictest of diets and will happily create you a menu that can exclude ingredients like nuts, oil, sugar or dairy. They also whip up great smoothies and drinks for the alcohol-free crowd. Read real brides’ reviews here!

See More: Don’t Forget About Dessert! Check Out L.A.’s Yummiest Wedding Cake Bakers Here

Jennie Cook’s
Jennie herself has been catering since 1985 and, nowadays, she and her team are pretty booked for weddings almost every weekend of the year. Gifted in the art of plant-based cooking, this eco-friendly catering company can easily create a menu for you that has meat but great vegetarian or vegan options. As a fun aside, Jennie has also been collecting vintage china for years, so many couples end up using her eclectic assortment as their place settings on their wedding day. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Sage Organic
This self-taught chef is now the owner of three different locations that feature her signature vegan ice cream (called Kind Kreme) as well as a complete vegan menu. Over almost all of their ingredients come from local farmers and for your wedding day, you can choose from a traditional catering set-up or opting for the Sage food truck. Whether your reception is a casual day affair or evening black tie, Sage has everything from brunch items to formal dinner ideas.

Hungry for more? Browse even more local wedding caterers to impress your foodie guests on our Los Angeles Catering page