NYFW is coming to a close and our heads are turning from all the gorgeous white dresses that came down the runways. Seemed like every collection had a little something to offer brides-to-be and this latest batch can’t be missed if you’re looking for bridal inspo. From Oscar de la Renta to Marchesa — bridal household names! — we’re rounding up our favorite wedding dresses from the New York Fashion Week spring 2017 runways.

Marchesa
Marchesa’s entire collection was pretty much made for a fairytale princess bride. But this blue look had us swooning. Colored wedding dresses are one of our favorite bridal trends and this blue frock is just pure magic. Imagine the layers of ruffles cascading as you walk down the aisle and shimmy to your first dance as newlyweds. Plus, you can check that something blue off your list.

Brandon Maxwell
Lady Gaga‘s main man, aka her stylist, Brandon Maxwell showed a collection of disco-inspired threads that was so fun it even had the models dancing down the runways. Sleek silky column dresses with 70s halter necklines had us dreaming of Bianca Jagger at Studio 54. Very chic for a modern city wedding.

Rodarte
No one does floating fairy creature quite like Rodarte’s Kate and Laura Mulleavy. With whispery fabrics and lace embroidery, this collection was a bohemian bride’s dream come true.

Monique Lhuillier
Of course Monique Lhuillier can always be counted on to serve up bridal inspiration via her ready-to-wear collections. A ballet pink beaded column gown embellished with feathers was another nod to the colored wedding dress trend we’re loving, while a sleek down to there white dress wth a dramatic slit was perfect for an after party dress!

Tory Burch
We saw loads of eyelet on the runways and this Tory Burch version is perfect for a casual wedding, or a romantic Italian honeymoon!

Oscar de la Renta
The brand’s spring 2017 collection, designed by the studio team while we await Laura Kim and Fernando Garcia’s debut, was hopefully a preview of what’s to come on the bridal runways this October. Eyelets and lace, gold embroidery on a structured mid-length dress, a sleek strapless column gown, and a mini off-the-shoulder tulle dress with all the 80s feels, had us swirling with visions of brides coming down the aisle.

Rossie Assoulin
Every It Girl’s favorite designer gave us one fabulously bohemian, rustic, and chic dress to make every bride feel her sexiest.

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Carolina Herrera
There’s no question Carolina Herrera is the queen of class. This full-skirted tulle gown with a crisp lace top had our fashion director Elle Strauss seeing brides on Instagram.

Showing some shoulder at @brides fave @mrselfportrait $$$$ #brides #nyfw

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Self-Portrait
Self-Portrait has become one of our favorite ready-to-wear turned bridal designers! A one-shoulder eyelet frock was beyond dazzling. Can we walk down the aisle in this?

Jenny Packham
Another runway, another pink dress that can easily make its way down the aisle. Jenny Packham sure knows how to make us see pink.

Alexander Wang
Every cool girl will be decked in Alexander Wang X Adidas come spring, but the coolest girls will be going for modern bride in sequins with just a hint of pink. Pure perfection.

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Jonathan Simkhai
Our fashion director thought this collection was nothing short of “divine”! We’re loving the boho vibes and 70s feels — silky skinny scarves are very rocker chic bride.

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Christian Siriano
If his recent wedding dress collection for Kleinfeld’s is any indication, Christian Siriano is certainly going to be on the lips of every bride-to-be this year. This off-the-shoulder embroidered, long sleeved eyelet dress is proof of his bridal genius!

She’s getting married, wants the money, and doesn’t care who knows it! While there have been a slew of celebs who grace the small screen on their wedding day for various price tags, the most recent couple to be teasing us about gracing the screen for their nuptials are reality stars Blac Chyna and Rob Kardashian, on deck to host the event on E!. But, before they do, she’s demanding some cold hard cash to televise their wedding — $1.5 million to be exact.

The reality star and her soon-to-be hubs are planning to tie the knot on television, but with the impending wedding day on the horizon, they haven’t sealed the deal yet, according to Radar Online. The reason? They are currently “playing hardball” with the television network and attempting to secure a whopping $1.5 million to film their big day and have exclusive rights. “Blac is playing hardball because E! wants to film the wedding, but it’s not part of her current contract,” a source divulged to the website.

“The network is trying to incorporate the wedding into the agreement, which would mean no more money,” they continued. It appears that the soon-to-be mama is insiting that they are “not going to get the wedding as part of [Rob & Chyna],” rather, it’d be a part of the Keeping Up With the Kardashians franchise which would mean an extra million and a half buck-a-roos for the parents-to-be. That’s one heck of a registry gift.

The E! Kardashian empire has housed many of the weddings of the Kardashian siblings thus far — including Khloe and Lamar and Kim’s short-lived wedding to Kris Humphries — so it’s only natural that Rob and Chyna would be next on the list.

See More: A Look Back at All the Kardashian Weddings

But while Chyna is wheeling deals with the TV network, it looks like her wedding plans haven’t been impacted in the slightest, with the bride-to-be planning her big day similar to that her her future sister-in-law Kim Kardashian’s 2014 nuptials. “Blac wants to get married in Europe and have a week of events like Kim early next year — but even bigger and much better,” the source noted. Has Kanye heard about this? Because if so, we’re not sure that he would approve. At the very least, we can assume he may snatch the mic at the rehearsal dinner start with “Imma let you finish…” But that all remains to be seen, depending on whether we get to see these reality stars on the E! network or not. For now, we’ll just sit back with our popcorn and see how it all unfolds!

When you get engaged in Hawaii, have guests coming in from all over the world, and called London, Florida, and Dallas home over the course of your wedding planning process, where in the world do you get married? In Napa Valley, of course! “We both love wine, and wanted to pick a destination that would be easy for our guests to visit,” says Nicole. She and Chris dated for three years after meeting at a friend’s dinner party before he popped the question — though it took him three tries before he pulled it off! “Chris surprised me with a trip to Hawaii, and told me I had 45 minutes to pack before we left. When we arrived, the room was covered in roses and there was a bottle of champagne, but I was so tired I fell asleep on the sofa before he had a chance to ask. The next day, he tried to propose on the beach at sunset after swimming with dolphins, but I was too cold,” says Nicole. Thankfully, the third time was the charm. “We headed back up to our hotel room, and he finally proposed on our terrace at sunset.”

After deciding to wed in wine country, the pair chose Beaulieu Gardens as the venue for their May 23, 2015, wedding with 120 guests. “We chose a holiday weekend so our guests could take a vacation and have time to travel,” Nicole says. They opted for a classic, elegant affair with a garden vibe, marrying in a manicured garden and covering the dinner tables with lush flowers. This formal take on a vineyard wedding is the stuff of dreams — all photographed by Larissa Cleveland.

The invitation suite featured traditional calligraphy, subtle cutouts, and a modern white and gray color scheme. Nicole stuck with the contemporary trend when it came to her footwear, donning gold and rose gold Jimmy Choo sandals with geometric shapes and ankle straps.

The bride’s Pronovias wedding dress was actually her third she purchased! “I think I tried on too many dresses,” she says. “I thought I found the perfect Vera Wang gown, but my sister-in-law later picked the same one and her wedding was six months before ours. Then, I custom-ordered a second dress, but the extended train I’d ordered wasn’t what we’d asked for, so we sent it back. That left me with two weeks to find dress number three, but it ended up being perfect!” The gown had a fitted bodice and a full skirt featuring swirls of softly pleated tulle.

Nicole’s necklace was a gift from Chris. “It’s a family antique, and all the women in his family have worn it on their wedding day,” she says. Her classic bouquet combined blush and ivory roses, interspersed with dark green leaves.

Chris donned a classic tuxedo for the open-air celebration. Nicole’s cathedral-length veil had lace detailing around the edges, a beautiful complement to her soft waves and ornate headpiece.

Instead of choosing bridesmaids’ dresses, Nicole asked her bridal party to wear any black gown they loved. “I told them to pull out the dress they’d been saving for a special occasion, or to splurge on a fancy gown they knew they would wear again,” she says.

The garden altar, in front of a traditional fountain, was flanked by two stone urns overflowing with hydrangeas and roses.

“We kept our ceremony traditional, short, and sweet,” says Nicole.

Guests were greeted with champagne and white wine as they headed toward cocktail hour, where a block of ice was shaved-to-order at the bar for custom drinks.

Escort cards were displayed on a table decorated with mauve roses, blush peonies, white hydrangeas, and peach sweet peas.

At the reception, long tables were topped with low arrangements of the same blooms, all lit by hanging chandeliers and café lights. Places were set with gold-rimmed glasses, gold silverware, and ornate gold chargers. Dinner featured a wine pairing, with an amuse bouche served with sauvignon blanc, herb-crusted chevre salad with rosé, sautéed salmon with pinot noir, and boursin-stuffed filet with cabernet.

The five-tiered cake, covered in smooth fondant and topped with a cascade of fresh flowers, had tiers of milk & cookies cake, chocolate cake with cream cheese frosting and chocolate ganache, and strawberry-basil cake.

Chris and Nicole’s first dance was to “Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran. “It was so special to have all of our friends and family members in one place. It was the first time they’ve all been together, and it was magical how well they got along,” remembers the bride. She and Chris also treated guests to an expertly-poured champagne tower later in the evening.

Everyone blew bubbles as the newlyweds headed to their getaway car. “Don’t overthink things,” says Nicole. “Have fun with the process and enjoy!”

Ceremony & Reception Venue: Beaulieu Gardens || Wedding Planner: Persia Inc. || Bride’s Wedding Dress: Pronovias || Shoes: Jimmy Choo || Groom’s Attire: Armani || Engagement Ring: Bachendorf’s || Florist: Asiel Design || Invitations & Paper Goods: Creative Works Designs || Music: Mia Bella D’Augelli || Catering: Paula Le Duc || Cake: Sweet on Cake || Videographer: Justin Fone Productions || Photographer: Larissa Cleveland

Did you love this wine country wedding? Then watch another couple say “I do” in Napa in the video below.

Catholic weddings are full of time-honored traditions, but they’re more than just a few Bible verses and a priest officiating. There are certain elements that you’ll see at every Catholic wedding you attend, so we’ve turned to our experts to break down what those key components are. Now, you’ll know exactly what to expect when you sit down in that pew.

The Church
To have a truly Catholic wedding, you’ll need to be in a Catholic church. That’s right, you can’t have an “official” Catholic ceremony anywhere else. You can, of course, submit a request to your bishop to see if you can have your ceremony outdoors or somewhere else (like a hotel ballroom), but exceptions are few and far between.

Mass
If both the bride and groom are Catholic, chances are the ceremony will take place during a Nuptial Mass. It isn’t required, but many couples choose to do so and include sacraments like the taking of communion in their ceremony. A Catholic Mass includes a gospel, homily, consecration, and communion, with the selections of readings and psalms determining how long the Mass will be. If the couple has a ceremony that isn’t a Nuptial Mass, it will include the basics (vows and the exchange of rings) without other sacraments.

Psalms
These songs, recorded in the Book of Psalms, are sung by a cantor and the congregation. Responsorial psalms are the congregation’s reaction to the word of God, with the cantor singing the verses and the congregation singing the responses (essentially the chorus).

See More: The Jewish Wedding Ceremony Traditions You Need to Know

Rite of Marriage
These are the vows! Wording may vary from church to church, but they tend to follow a similar pattern: “I (your name) take you (his/her name) to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”

Holy Communion
Also called the Eucharist, if you are having a Nuptial Mass, communion will take place after the vows are exchanged. You may want to discuss with your priest during the rehearsal which members of your families and wedding party will be taking communion. Talk to your priest about whether your non-Catholic guests should remain in their seats, or if they should line up along with other guests and simply refrain from taking communion when they reach the altar.

If you had to choose between your beloved dog and your, well, beloved, who would you pick? This is a situation where it’s easier said than done, but for one particular woman from India that decision was made easy when a man she was arranged to marry forbade her from keeping her pup.

According to BuzzFeed, Karishma Walia’s family had been in the process of arranging her marriage with a “good-looking and well-off” man from New Delhi. But when the issue of Walia’s dog, Lucy, came up, she simply refused to abandon her pet for a man who couldn’t compromise. And when we say man, we say that veeeryyyy loosely. You’ll see why…

“He would say things like ‘family should be a priority and not career.’ I gave up when he commented about my dog,” Walia told BuzzFeed. “I don’t know why my family still thinks he’s an eligible bachelor.”

Amen sista!

In a series of texts exchanged between said “eligible bachelor” and Walia, it appears as though he becomes irate when she won’t choose him over her lovable pooch (Which, TBH, is SO much more lovable than him in these messages). He writes, “I don’t want a dog to come in between my love life and not share the same bed… That’s for sure… And my mom doesn’t like dogs in general…” If that wasn’t reason enough to run, just wait until what comes next.

See More: 59 Adorable Ways to Include Your Pet in Your Wedding

Defending her position to keep Lucy and stay single, Walia texts back saying, “Yes I’m sure. Having a dog is definitely not a temporary phase. I can’t abandon my dog for anyone.” To which he (arrogantly, as she points out) replies with a zinger, “I am sorry to say this. But please marry the dog in that case.”

At this point, we’re sure that’d be the better option!

This B'lore girl rejected a guy cuz he doesn't like dogs & wouldn't want one after marriage. U go girl! #TrueStory pic.twitter.com/N4NW6U8IiJ

— Not Monika (@blahfamous) September 13, 2016

What you do in the morning contributes greatly to the tone of your day. When we roll out of bed after hitting snooze 15 times and neglect to plan for what’s ahead, we throw up a prayer for chaos into the ether — and more than likely, chaos is what we will get.

There have been posts written about the habits of the most successful people, but there really is a reason the way they begin their days impacts how well it goes. Not only on a functional, logical level (you have your ducks in a row, you have a schedule and a plan, you have organized the essentials for things to run smoothly), there’s something psychologically very powerful about beginning your day in a way that says, “I am a competent human and, man, do I have this day on lockdown”.

From getting on top of the logistics to the positive psychology tricks you can employ, here’s how to leap out of bed on the right foot — and stay on it until you get back into bed at night.

Make your bed
Sounds pretty simple and probably something your mom would remind you to do, but there’s a reason making your bed in the morning sets you up for success. This simple act of organizing — sheet, sheet, cover, pillows — and leaving your bedroom in a presentable condition reinforces to your highly impressionable, half-asleep brain that order and calmness abound. More calmness equals less stress, and less stress equals better mood, more productivity and (hopefully) a better day.

Hydrate
Your cells have been without water for several hours, so reintroducing water before any other substance (yes, that includes coffee) is key to prepping your GI tract for efficient work throughout the day. It’s an easy way to rehydrate your body if you do it on autopilot. Plus, if you sip water throughout the morning, you may end up consuming two of your eight recommended glasses for the day. Set the tone for great hydration first thing.

Plan your day
A simple list of the three big things you’d like to accomplish in the short term (i.e. before noon, before the end of the day) can go a long way in terms of helping you move calmly through the day. Putting it on paper or in your phone takes away the stress of remembering and can serve as a helpful reminder of your goals. Even if it’s “pick up dry cleaning, find birthday card and make quinoa,” a few small tasks to keep you on track will make for better time management all day. As they say, those who fail to plan plan to fail, so prioritize the big things to make the rest of the day run even more smoothly.

Play music you love
Regardless of your morning plans, a soundtrack of uplifting, energizing tunes will help prime your mind for positivity all day long. Pick whatever makes you happy and use it to get through your must-do’s for before you leave the house. Bonus: Great music makes a long commute way less stressful.

Move
Want to feel better mid-afternoon? Make time in the morning to get your body in motion. Whatever it is — gentle stretching, walking the dog, going to CrossFit — starting your day with movement revs your metabolism and stokes your energy for the day. Plus, you’re more likely to make better food choices if you’ve done something positive for your body earlier in the day. You’ll get that great workout in (it’s harder to make excuses first thing) and you’ll reap the benefits for hours afterwards. It’s a win all around.

This post was originally published on ClassPass’s blog, The Warm Up by Danielle Page. ClassPass is a monthly membership that connects you to more than 8,500 of the best fitness studios worldwide. Learn more here.

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Most brides dream of the moment they slip on that meant-to-be wedding dress, look into the bridal boutique’s mirror, and declare it perfect down to the very last sequin. Some may even hope to experience that magical moment twice (those lucky ladies!) — once with their formal ceremony gown and then again with a frock perfect for kicking up their heels at the reception. But, we have to say, this is a first! When Thai actress Noey Chotika recently married her sweetheart Arm Maneechy, she decided to wear six — yes, six! — wedding dresses to celebrate her marriage. We’re getting stressed just thinking about all of this bride’s fitting room deliberations! (And fine, we’ll admit it — we’re a little jealous, too…)

Chotika tied the knot a few days ago, according to Yahoo! Style, and set the wedding wear bar to new heights with a literal wardrobe’s worth of bridal looks. Firstly, each of her pre-wedding celebrations required gorgeous gown — obviously. Why just wear a wedding dress to the big day when you can basically have one for every day of the week? Therefore, at her bachelorette party two weeks ago, Choptika donned a HUGE white wedding dress, opulent enough for a royal wedding with its puff sleeves, yards of tulle, and long veil complete with a flower crown. Super casual, right?

But the woman is just getting started! For her a traditional Thai ceremony a week ago, the actress wore a shimmery pink wedding dress with tons of feminine details like illusion organza sleeves, metallic lace appliqués, and an ombré-dyed wrap skirt. And later that day, Chotika pulled off a quick costume change (are you keeping up?) and slipped into an extravagantly embroidered sheath for the after-party that perfectly coordinated with her bridesmaids’ bejeweled pink ensembles. And yes, there’s 13 of them because this bride doesn’t just hoard wedding dresses — she collects bridesmaids, too.

See More: What Your Bridesmaid Count Says About You

Next up, for her and her hubby’s wedding portraits, Chotika wore a beaded white wedding dress with a sexy scoop back just because. (At this point why not, right?) Then for her second ceremony, Chotika went with a classic ball gown by designer Zuhair Murad that’s seriously even more jaw-dropping than the bride’s wedding dress count. That illusion neckline though… We’re obsessed!

We’d be thrilled to say “I do” in just that Zuhair Murad masterpiece alone, but Chotika had one more fabulous frock up her sleeve. For her reception, the actress looked party-ready in a sparkly silver dress, with her bridesmaids of course following suit, changing into sparkly silver crop tops that toted the names of the newlyweds. Phew!

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Everyone knows weddings are expensive — especially for the couple of honor. And when it comes to the wedding reception, you’re probably eager to cut some of the frivolous costs of your big day — so that you can afford to keep everyone on your guest list. One way to do that is to examine your reception menu and see what you can change up or eliminate in order to save a little money. To help you do just that, we’ve compiled a list of five easy tricks to help cut wedding costs when it comes to your reception dinner menu.

1. Pass on the passed apps.
Many couples don’t realize that by going easy on the passed apps, you can save a ton of money. Instead, give guests something nosh on during cocktail hour that is set out at tables rather than passed. Having people walk around and pass out individual bites ends up costing more money for waitstaff. Designated tables throughout the cocktail hour for guests to grab apps themselves is a much more cost-effective approach.

2. Offer a buffet instead of a sit-down dinner.
Instead of doing a traditional sit-down dinner, opt for a buffet dinner instead. As a rule, buffets are usually lesser in price — mainly because you don’t have to have such an extensive serving staff serving each individual table.

3. Cut out the big cake.
A wedding cake usually costs between several hundred dollars to several thousand dollars — and may not even be the ideal dessert of your choice. Instead of splurging on a large cake, find a dessert that’s less expensive but still fits your style. Your wallet (and tastebuds) will thank you!

4. Skip the fancy entrées for the comfort food.
Instead of doing steak, chicken, and fish for your main course, go for a comfort food meal instead — a huge wedding trend right now. If you have a love for pizza, short ribs, or mac and cheese, you can serve that as your main wedding dish (and your guests will most likely go crazy for it).

5. Think seasonally.
When picking vegetables to serve as side dishes or with the salad, pick ones that are in-season and can be found locally. You’ll save some cash this way, and chances are the meal created and served will be fresher thanks to your picks.

See More: 21 Food Bar Ideas For Your Wedding

Jen Glantz is a “Professional Bridesmaid” and the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire. She’s the author of All My Friends Are Engaged and frequently wears old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store and on first dates.

Were all those roses for nothing?! Will that Neil Lane engagement ring and it’s whopping 3.75 carat oval-cut diamond (and the $100,000 it cost) go to waste?! Less than two months since The Bachelorette finale aired and we watched Jordan Rodgers get down on one knee and propose to JoJo Fletcher, breakup rumors have been flying around the supposedly to-be-wedded pair. So will we have ever get to see that red rose bridal bouquet or their televised wedding ceremony? Well, Fletcher and Rodgers are finally setting the record straight.

Since The Bachelorette finale aired, these two have been seemingly moving forward with their relationship at warp speed. Back in August, the reality show sweethearts made the move from Tennessee to Texas to move into their nearly-wed nest in Dallas and then later celebrated their engaged status at a surprise engagement party thrown by their family and friends. “My heart is so full!” Fletcher captioned an Instagram snapshot of her and her hubby-to-be’s families at the engagement bash. “Jordan and I were going out to what we thought was just a little dinner with friends but instead walked into a room full of both our friends and family to celebrate in our engagement. We are so incredibly blessed,” she wrote, including the hashtag “#fletchersmeettherodgers.” So with the pair apparently basking in the premarital bliss, what’s the deal these breakup rumors?

According to Fletcher and Rodgers, they turn out to be totally false. (Thank god, right?) “Obviously not,” Rodgers staunchly told TMZ reporters when asked if he had called it quits with his bride-to-be. “I don’t know where those rumors are coming from,” added Fletcher. “Everything’s amazing. Same old same old,” she confirmed. Phew, that’s a relief! Imagine if we never got to see these two cuties say “I do?” Now about those “I do’s…”

See More: Bachelor in Paradise: Everyone Who Got Engaged During The Final

Fletcher and Rodgers also shared that they’re in the midst of planning their big day — although it doesn’t seem like they’re too far along, as they don’t even have a venue booked yet! “We’re trying to figure out where it’s going to be first,” said Rodgers. The wedding locale may still be up in the air, but it sounds like the guest list is already written — with some Bachelor Nation alumni making the cut! “Oh yeah, for sure,” Fletcher said when asked if they’ll be inviting any Bachelor or Bachelorette cast members. “Becca’s [Tilley] one of my good friends, she’ll probably be in the wedding.”

We’re already counting down the days until this Bachelor Nation reunion!

Wedding toast givers, we get it: There’s a lot of pressure to spin the perfect speech. But as you select your words, remember this: “With a captive audience of the bride and groom’s family and friends, what you leave out of the toast is just as important as what you put in,” says Jaclyn Fisher, owner of Two Little Birds Planning in Philadelphia. What should be left out? Here are seven things that should never make it into a wedding toast.

1. That time your friend got busted for underage drinking.
According to Fisher, trouble with the law should never be included in a wedding toast, no matter how small (or funny) the infraction. “Even though the best man may think it’s funny to reminisce about the time he and the groom spent the night in jail, it’s inappropriate with in-laws, coworkers, and grandparents in the room,” she says. Instead, offer up a fond memory that speaks highly of the couple’s characters.

2. You’ve heard there’s trouble in paradise.
Whether you overheard an argument over the wedding or know his family doesn’t approve of her, the toast isn’t the place to air out the couple’s dirty laundry. “The toast is not a time to slyly say, ‘I’m sure his family will like you eventually,'” says Amy Nichols, owner of Amy Nichols Special Events and cofounder of The Poppy Group. “Leave all mention of any family or internal drama out of the toast and instead mention how lucky they are to be creating a family of their own.”

3. Your feelings about the couple’s exes.
A wedding is about the couple who just tied the knot, not anyone in their pasts. Not only will talking about the couple’s exes make the couple uncomfortable, but it’s sure to make wedding guests squirm, too, Fisher says. “Sharing the story of how the couple met or the first time you met them together is a much better alternative.”

4. What happened in Vegas.
Remember: “What happens at the bachelor and bachelorette parties stays there,” says Nichols. “Your wedding toast should not be an expose on the wild side of your friend. Concentrate on how you’ve built your friendship over the years and been there for each other through the good and the bad.” At the same time, Fisher says, your toast isn’t the time to bring up any unflattering stories about the couple. “Use it as an opportunity to tell the crowd why you value your friendship,” she says.

See More: How to Give a Killer Maid-of-Honor Speech In 5 Simple Steps

5. How impossible the bride was during the planning process.
Your friend looked a lot like Bridezilla as she blew through her big day budget. But your toast isn’t the time to vent your frustrations. “That is now your little secret and it should not be shared with the guests at the wedding.” she says. “Talking about what a fabulous job the couple did planning the wedding is a better approach to talking about the event.”

6. That inside joke you (and only you) think is so funny.
While talking about that hippo figurine might send you and the bride into a fit of giggles, your guests will be left scratching their heads. “About 2 percent of the room will actually understand why it’s funny, and the other 98 percent will feel awkward, uncomfortable, and left out,” describes Fisher. “Instead of inside jokes, share some things about your friend that most people don’t know. Guests will love learning the couple does The New York Times crossword together every Sunday morning, or that they volunteer at the community youth center every week.”

7. That awkward phase your friend finally outgrew.
If you’re making a toast at her wedding, you’ve likely seen the bride during her awkward phase. (You know, the one that included braces and acne.) “You have so many fabulously embarrassing childhood stories you could share,” says Nichols. “But resist the urge to talk about that one time at band camp. Not only will you embarrass your friend, but you might offend a more sensitive wedding guest or out your friend to their parents.”