Ever since Kate Middleton announced her engagement to Prince William in 2010 while wearing that iconic blue Issa dress, the world has been turning to her for style inspiration (and she has never steered us wrong yet!). Now, the designer behind Middleton’s engagement gown has launched a new clothing line with some extra special features.

Daniella Helayel, former go-to designer for Princess Kate and founder of the clothing brand Issa, has dressed all sorts of famous celebrities, like Madonna and Jennifer Lopez. Her new fashion label Dhela, intended as a play on Helayel’s name but also happens to mean “hers” in Portuguese, has just launched its spring/summer 2017 inaugural collection. During an interview with People, Helayel described her new line as a nod to the bohemian glam-but-relaxed style of the 1970s.

“It has a disco vibe, very feminine with long dresses, off-the-shoulder pieces and Bardot tops,” Helayel told People. “I was inspired by Tabitha Getty and Bianca Jagger.”

Another inspiration for Dhela? After quitting Issa in 2013, she struggled to find clothing that felt glamorous while still being functional in her daily life.

“In the three years since leaving Issa, I haven’t bought one single new dress — only some vintage pieces,” Helayel confessed. “I missed designing clothes so much.”

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Besides vintage-inspired effortless glamour, Helayel also designed mini-me versions of some of the spring/summer collection for kids, so that mothers and daughters can wear matching outfits.

“I did six shapes for little girls to match her mother, in cotton voile — they are divine!”

Helayel may not be Middleton’s on-hand designer anymore (kudos to whoever holds that title now), we can’t help but hope that Princess Kate and Princess Charlotte step out wearing some of Dhela’s mother-daughter matching outfits! The royal family already takes the most adorable photos of all time, but imagine if Kate and Charlotte matched? And Prince William and Prince George stayed in the same color scheme with their outfits? It would be so picture-perfect, we’d be sending out that photo as our holiday card instead of pictures of our own families!

When you find the person you want to spend your life with, forever can’t start soon enough. That’s how Kristin and Cody felt when they first met, spending hours talking over Italian food after meeting on Match.com. Says Kristin, “It felt like we’d known each other for years.” Instead of waiting for years, the pair got engaged in December of 2014, just eight months after their first date. “Cody took me to Wolf Mountain Vineyards, which is where he first told me he loved me,” Kristin remembers. “I thought it was a double date, but the other couple conveniently canceled. After a wine tasting, Cody and I went outside to take a picture, and he got down on one knee.”

They jumped right into wedding planning, hiring Chancey Charm to help them create an intimate dinner party vibe at Summerour Studio in Atlanta, a 1920s printing warehouse with a part loft, part lush garden feel. With 110 guests in tow, on September 13, 2015, Cody and Kristin added another chapter to their whirlwind romance: A gorgeous fall wedding with city skyline views. Check it out, photographed by Sawyer Baird, below!

The invitation suite boasted a soft mauve and lavender color scheme, with a wreath of flowers around the edges.

Kristin wore a Leanne Marshall wedding dress with three kinds of lace: soft nude lace, delicate Alencon lace, and embroidered ivory lace, flowing down to a silk charmeuse skirt. “The moment I started comparing other gowns to this one, I knew I’d found the one,” she says.

The bride carried a bouquet of garden roses, hellebores, pieris japonica, astrantia, ranunculus, cymbidium orchids, scabiosa, blushing bride, olive branch, bay leaf, and eucalyptus, tied with French silk. She accentuated her soft updo with gold beaded pins.

Cody’s boutonniere combined hellebores, astrantia, snowberry, olive branch, and eucalyptus, and looked as if it could have been plucked straight out of Kristin’s bouquet.

Cody and his groomsmen opted for classic attire, renting tuxedos from The Black Tux. Cody is a former wedding photographer, so his insider perspective helped the couple pull it all together. Says the bride, “He happily jumped into wedding planning and had so many great ideas — I’m a lucky gal!”

Kristin’s bridesmaids all wore Alfred Angelo gowns in a soft purple hue and a flowing, graceful silhouette.

“We wanted our wedding party to set a formal tone for the evening,” says Kristin of their friends’ traditional attire.

At the entrance to the ceremony, one of the venue’s restored warehouse archways was draped with flowing white fabric, adding a dramatic feel to the open-air space.

Kristin’s father walked her down the aisle before she and Cody exchanged traditional Christian vows. A cellist accompanied the ceremony, then switched over to contemporary pieces during cocktail hour.

Inside, farm tables were set for dinner with low arrangements of olive branches, eucalyptus, and roses in a dusty mauve hue. Taper candles, votives, and café lights lit the room. The menus and signage for the evening were all designed by the groom.

The menu was inspired by the couple’s love of food and their upcoming honeymoon in France. “We wanted to incorporate French elements throughout the weekend,” says Kristin. They had three food stations serving sea bass with fresh mushrooms in a marsala sauce, port-braised short ribs with wild mushroom risotto, and sweet potato gnocchi. The signature cocktail, a “Rosy French 75,” was a twist on the classic cocktail with rosé wine and a dash of rosewater. “Tears filled my eyes as we sat down at the head table for dinner,” says Kristin. “It was so amazing to have everyone we love surrounding us.”

Beneath textured buttercream and olive branches, vanilla pound cake was layered with white chocolate mousse, salted milk chocolate, and dark chocolate ganache.

As favors, Kristin and Cody gave guests fabric bags filled with chocolate-covered espresso beans.

A DJ kept the dance floor packed, mixing genres and eras and expertly reading the crowd.

After their sparkler exit, Cody and Kristin headed to France for a road trip honeymoon, starting in the Alps, driving through Burgundy, and ending up in Paris. Says the bride, “People will have opinions. Remember to be true to yourselves and what you want your day to be, because you’re the ones getting married!”

Ceremony & Reception Venue: Summerour Studio || Wedding Planner: Candice Lorraine for Chancey Charm || Bride’s Wedding Dress: Leanne Marshall || Shoes: BHLDN || Jewelry: Nadri || Hairpiece: Twigs & Honey || Hair & Makeup: Jennifer C. Nieman || Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Alfred Angelo || Groom & Groomsmen’s Attire: The Black Tux || Florist: Vine & Branch Floral Design || Invitations: Elli || Music: JGCello; Zegi || Catering: Bold American Events || Cake: Lush Cakery || Favors: French Silver Shop || Videographer: Anchor Heart Films || Photographer: Sawyer Baird Photography

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Heading to your first Jewish wedding? Whether it’s reform or strictly orthodox, there are a few traditions that you will definitely see. Some may sound familiar, but knowing what to expect (and being versed in the meaning behind what you’re watching!) will make you even more prepared to celebrate. Our experts will take you through the five key components of a Jewish wedding.

Ketubah
The ketubah is a Jewish prenuptial agreement that outlines the groom’s responsibilities to his bride. It dictates the conditions he will provide in the marriage, the bride’s protections and rights, and the framework should the couple choose to divorce. Ketubahs aren’t actually religious documents, but are part of Jewish civil law — so there’s no mention of God blessing the union. The ketubah is signed by the couple and two witnesses before the ceremony takes place, then is read to the guests during the ceremony.

Chuppah
The chuppah is the altar beneath which the couple exchanges vows. A chuppah has four corners and a covered roof to symbolize the new home they are building together. In some ceremonies, the four posts of the chuppah are held up by friends or family members throughout the ceremony, supporting the life the couple is building together, while in other instances it may be a freestanding structure decorated with flowers. The canopy is often made of a tallit, or prayer shawl, belonging to a member of the couple or their families. You may see the couple’s parents join them under the chuppah, along with the rabbi, but this isn’t a requirement.

Seven Blessings
The seven blessings come from ancient teachings. They are often read in both Hebrew and English, and shared by a variety of family members or friends, just as friends and family are invited to perform readings in other types of ceremonies. The blessings focus on joy, celebration, and the power of love. They begin with the blessing over the wine, then progress to more grand and celebratory statements, ending with a blessing of joy, peace, companionship, and the opportunity for the bride and groom to rejoice together.

See more: What Do We Need to Tell Guests Before Our Religious Wedding Ceremony?

Breaking of the Glass
As the ceremony comes to an end, the groom (or in some instances the bride and groom) is invited to step on a glass inside a cloth bag to shatter it. The breaking of the glass holds multiple meanings. Some say it represents the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem. Others say it demonstrates that marriage holds sorrow as well as joy and is a representation of the commitment to stand by one another even in hard times. The cloth holding the shards of glass is collected after the ceremony, and many couples choose to have it incorporated into some sort of memento of their wedding day.

Mazel Tov
Once the ceremony is over and the glass is broken, you will hear guests cheer “Mazel tov!”, which has a similar meaning “good luck” or “congratulations.” The direct translation is actually closer to wishing the best for the future, a great destiny, or a pronouncement that the person or people have just experienced great fortune. There’s no better time to say “mazel tov” than at a wedding!

We’ve been on the Kylie Jenner engagement ring lookout ever since she teased us with that very first diamond ring from boyfriend Tyga. The reality star is always flaunting huge bridal-like bling from the rapper that never fails to spark to-be-wedded rumors. Just last week, Jenner debuted her newest piece of jewelry from her sweetheart — a blindingly beautiful promise ring. A promise ring means that the pair is bound to be heading down the aisle soon right?! (It’s definitely a step in the right direction, at least!) But while we’re in a frenzy over the possibility of another sure-to-be lavish Kardashian wedding, there’s someone in the Kardashian clan who’s allegedly not as excited for these two to say “I do.” Apparently, Kim Kardashian is in no rush to see her youngest sister walk down the aisle.

It looks like Jenner can cross sis Kim K off her list of potential bridesmaids if she is in fact thinking of tying the knot with her beau. With Jenner referring to Tyga as her “husband” on Snapchat and flashing a megawatt marquis-cut sparkler from the rapper, it’s obvious that the couple is moving full steam ahead in their relationship — supposedly to Kardashian’s dismay. “Kim is advising Kylie to pump the brakes on an engagement, and urging her not to follow in her footsteps when it comes to getting married at a young age,” a source recently shared with HollywoodLife. “Kim is proud of everything Kylie has accomplished in life, and has been warning her that she can continue to have a wonderful life and a healthy relationship without being engaged or married to Tyga.”

In case you need a brief history lesson on the Kardashian clan, Kim K was married twice before settling down with current husband Kanye West. She famously filed for divorce from Kris Humphries just 72 days after their 2011 wedding. And Kardashian was only 19-years-old — the same age her little sis is now — when she eloped with music producer Damon Thomas (above), and she doesn’t want Jenner to make the same mistake.

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So will the not-yet-engaged Jenner be taking her sister’s life advice? “Kylie is stubborn,”
says the source. “On the one hand, she respects Kim and her advice, but on the other, she wants to be free to make her own choices.”

While we get where Kim K is coming from, we have to say that we hope that choice results in an another Kardashian billion dollar bash. (We’re still not over her sister’s, BTW…)

No bridal ensemble is complete without a serious glam session by your trusted make-up and hair artists. Before the big day, it’s super important to head off for a bridal beauty trial (or even a few) to ensure you can look forward to looking exactly how you envision on your walk down the aisle. By knowing these things before your trial, you’ll be much more likely to love the end result, and feel confident you will look your best on the big day.

Your Desired Color Palette and Look
Red-lip glam with dramatic lashes? Enhance your natural beauty? Somewhere in the middle of “I woke up like this” and va-va-voom? Deciding what beauty look you’re dreaming of is important to help guide your glam squad. (They’re super talented, but they’re not mind readers.) Peruse through Pinterest, magazines (Like BRIDES!) and social media to help determine which styles and color schemes you’re most drawn to, and don’t forget to bring the photos on the day of your trial.

Your Skin Type and Routines
Knowing your skin type and what works best for you is really important to share with your glam squad. While professional make up artists will be able to tell at a glance whether you’re oily, dry or combination, you know your skin and daily routine best. By telling the pros how your skin typically holds to makeup, your typical skincare routine, and any problem areas you may have you’ll be one step closer to the perfect wedding day aesthetic. This will also help the professionals decide on foundation types, application techniques, and other product decisions.

Any Allergies or Sensitivities
This is a must! If you have any allergies or sensitivities to products it should be the first topic of conversation you have with your makeup artist. This can help you avoid pre-wedding allergic reactions, redness, and irritation. Even if you’ve used a beauty product in the past and simply didn’t like the way it looked or felt on your skin, communicate it now. (As always, communication is key throughout wedding planning!) Tried faux eyelashes once and HATED them? Maybe it’s not the time to try again. Do you break out easily after wearing heavy makeup? Your cosmetologist might opt for airbrushing instead, to keep your pores happy and clear for your wedding and beyond.

Your Budget
To avoid any stressful situation and keep your budget intact, it’s important to know any associated costs or fees for both the trial session AND wedding day services. Before booking your trial, inquire about wedding day costs (as they are often more expensive than the trial cost) and what bridesmaid and family member makeup and hair will cost too. Ensure whomever you’re heading to for a trial is within your planned budget should you hire them. Avoid setting yourself up for disappointment by heading to a trial for someone you might not be able to afford. (Tip: Be sure to ask about “extra” fees such as travel fees, deposits, add-ons, etc.)

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If you were given a choice to change a flat tire *in* your wedding dress OR hitchhike to the ceremony, which would you choose? Wind, rain, snow, tornadoes — there are too many potentially hazardous situations to count that can happen on a wedding day and ruin your perfect plans. But one brave New Hampshire bride wasn’t going to let a little wedding transport snafu stop her from walking down the aisle — so she did just that… hitchhiked!

Angelique Arsenault was on her way to her wedding reception on a remote road in Brookline, New Hampshire when the unthinkable happened: Her limo carrying her bridesmaids and family got a flat tire on Russell Hill Road. With her bridal party in tow, she did what any bride who had been waiting 11 years to get hitched would do; she put on her big girl pants, swigged a little champs, jumped out of her limo, and put her thumb up to catch a ride. (Can we also just note that the wedding venue’s name is The Mile Away but was actually seven rural miles from where the limo broke down? How is that for serious irony.)

She shared her story with CBS Boston, noting that at first it was no big deal — until they realized that they were stuck. “The limo driver gets out of the car, I’m like, ‘it’s fine. Maybe he just hit something. He gets back in, opens up the back window, and says, ‘you’ve a flat tire,'” Arsenault’s maid of honor shared. But the prognosis wasn’t good in such a desolate area as there was no help to be found.

When Arsenault got out of the car in her Sophia Tolli dress, it was quite the site to see. “It didn’t even seem real at the time, but it happened,” she noted. “We just laughed about it. We actually had cars driving by us and they just took pictures and left and then finally someone actually stopped to see if we needed a ride,” she said. Finally, one good Samaritan actually stopped, a driver by the name of Jay. Unfortunately for the bridal party, his car was filled with children. Determined to help, he dropped them off, returned to the limo spot, and asked the bride where she wanted to go (looks like there’s a 5-star UBER gig in your future, buddy).

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Despite the craziness of the situation at the time and only arriving 30 minutes late to the ceremony, the bride is happy to report that the rest of the evening went off without a hitch. Luckily the wedding can’t start without the lady of honor, so she didn’t miss a thing.

Looking back, Arsenault realizes that the kindness of a stranger totally saved her day. “It pretty much made the whole day,” she noted to CBS. “Everyone was laughing all night about it. It’s going to be a story we’ll remember forever.” Hey if rain on your wedding day is good luck, then a flat tire and hitchhiking situation that turns out just fine means that you’re pretty much in the clear in the luck department.

A hitchhiking bride got a lift from a Good Samaritan to her wedding in New Hampshire https://t.co/F36lnMiPc0 pic.twitter.com/SocKn45pVs

— WBZ Boston News (@cbsboston) September 12, 2016

Bride from Brookline ends up hitchhiking after limo gets a flat https://t.co/YXf1KiQ1gs pic.twitter.com/GxV6hZarIc

— WMUR TV (@WMUR9) September 13, 2016

We all make mistakes. But when your partner messes up, forgiving and forgetting can be easier said than done.

Forgiveness, however, is as essential to the success of your marriage as love and trust, our experts say. “Forgiveness takes away the power of something to hurt you,” explains Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “If you cannot forgive, then the unresolved hurt will remain like a cancer, eating away at the foundation of your marriage.” Adds psychotherapist and relationship coach Toni Coleman, “If a significant other wants the marriage to survive and thrive, he or will need to work towards and find forgiveness — because without it, a couple’s intimacy, trust and friendship will be forever negatively impacted.”

If you have something you’d like (or need) to forgive, our experts have seven ways to help.

1. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.
Doares reminds us that there is always more than one way to interpret something. And yet, “we often have a tendency to got to the worst explanation first,” she says. If you can go with your head and not your gut, however, “choosing the interpretation that puts your partner in the most positive light makes forgiveness a whole lot easier,” Doares says.

2. Put the shoe on the other foot.
Imagine you were in your partner’s shoes when he, for example, fibbed and how he might feel now. “If you had done something comparable, would you want to be forgiven?” asks Doares. “If so, then let your partner off the hook.” More so, stepping into your partner’s shoes “will give you a different perspective and help you to see the situation from just his side,” Coleman says.

3. Consider that this might be more about you than your partner’s actions.
Perhaps, Doares says, “your partner’s behavior triggered something deep in you and it’s easier to focus on them than go to that hard place. Having old wounds resurface is unpleasant but it is a chance to grow and become stronger.” And in that case, she says, “forgiveness can be seen as a form of gratitude for that opportunity.”

4. Reflect on everything that is good in your partner and relationship.
If you’re trying to forgive something bigger than a fib, it might be time to remember the reasons you love your partner, then “weigh their value against the wrongdoing or hurt he has caused,” says Coleman, who says that the next step is asking yourself if your relationship is worth trying to fix. “This is important because when a partner causes harm to his significant other and the relationship, it can lead to a feeling that the marriage is broken and can never be fixed,” she says. “The focus is on what happened and what went wrong, instead of on all the other things that come with this partner and relationship.”

5. Let go of being a “one-upper.”
“Holding on to hurt and anger is a form of power in its own right,” Doares says. And that power, she points out, can feel pretty good. “Your righteous indignation can be used as a way to get what you want, now and always,” Doares explains. But being one-up won’t breed forgiveness, or help your relationship in the long term. “If your partner will forever be in the doghouse, he will have no reason to not do it again,” Doares says. “It also permanently disrupts the balance between you two, and this will lead to relationship-killing resentment.”

6. Make sure the behavior or act is in the past.
If your partner did something wrong months ago and hasn’t since, focus on the fact that he or she cared enough to put the behavior in the past and not repeat it. “Part of being able to grant forgiveness is knowing that one’s partner has ended the affair, made a commitment to work on his temper, come clean about his financial infidelity, etc.,” Coleman says. “And once this behavior is in the past, the process of working towards forgiveness can begin in earnest.”

7. Ask how you contributed to the problem.
As Coleman explains, “Couples have their own unique relationship dynamics. Each brings something to every interaction and the marriage as a whole. These actions create a climate, and some climates are [more] ripe for marital disharmony and unhappiness.” That’s why, she says, an important part of forgiveness is that both partners look at how they contributed to the problem, and how they can fix it. “It takes two to make or break a relationship,” she says. “Blaming one person for everything that is wrong in the marriage will result in divorce.”

Finally, remember: “When you forgive, it doesn’t mean that nothing happened,” Doares says. “It means that you have chosen to move past the offense. A sincere and clean apology is extremely helpful to the process. It is important to have your pain acknowledged and redress made but you can choose to forgive without those things — and that’s because forgiveness is for you, not them.”

See More: 8 Fights Every Couple Has During Wedding Planning

The leaves are changing colors, the air is crisp, and everywhere you turn there’s pumpkin or pumpkin spice everything. If you go bananas for pumpkins and pumpkin spice-flavored anything, why not incorporate it into your wedding? After all, your wedding day should be a reflection of you and your fiancé! Channel your inner autumn princess by adding these cute pumpkin wedding ideas into your own big day.

Your Favors
Consider using the flavor in your favors for one of the easiest ways to pay homage to the deliciousness that is pumpkin spice. Miniature coffee bags, muffin mix in a jar, and pumpkin spice donuts are all festive and flavorful ways to send your guests home from your celebration with delicious goodies, and smiles.

Getting Ready Photos
If you’re a pumpkin or fall devotee — chances are you’re obsessed with PSLs (Pumpkin Spice Lattes, duh.) Head out the morning of your wedding (before your glam session) and pick up the signature drink to get your much needed caffeine fix before the long (but amazing!) day ahead. Just be sure to ask the baristas to label your cups with insta-worthy “Bride”, “MOH” and “Bridesmaid” for adorable photo ops, too.

Décor & Color Scheme
Pumpkin spice isn’t just a latte anymore. Use pops of the pumpkin spice color (a warm, burnt orange hue) into your florals and tablescapes to achieve a festive fall look. We’re not saying you have to go all out with orange bridesmaid dresses or lighting — but a touch of the orange color here and there can really do wonders in making your décor fabulously fall. Opt to use hallowed out pumpkins as vases for centerpieces or accent pieces, or use mini-pumpkins as escort cards for a creative way to seat your guests.

See More: Stylish Ways to Add Pumpkins and Gourds into Your Fall Wedding Décor

Cocktails & Cuisine
If mixology is more your thing, consider incorporating notes of the seasoning into your signature cocktail, or go big and feature a full-blown pumpkin station at your cocktail hour. Pumpkin ravioli, soup served in mini pumpkin bowls, savory pumpkin risotto — get creative and serve up your favorite gourd for a cocktail hour surprise.

Wedding Portraits
If flannel, orchards, hay and pumpkins make you swoon, head to the local pumpkin patch or apple orchard to pose for some wedding photos. It’s the perfect way to capture the beauty of the season as well as your affinity for all things — without going overboard. Be sure to balance out your photos with more neutral backdrops too, so you have an assortment of wedding photos to swoon over.

She’s a bride, duh! Mean Girls alum and mega movie star Amanda Seyfried just confirmed her engagement to boyfriend Thomas Sadoski. Cue the wedding bells! We couldn’t be happier for these two cuties!

Seyfried and Sadoski’s took their romance from the stage to the streets, after meeting while working on the off-broadway play The Way We Get By last year. They later reunited on set for the upcoming film The Last Word, but by then, their off-screen romance was the one earning rave reviews from fans who loved seeing the perfect pair together. And now, Seyfried and Sadoski are officially heading down that aisle!

A rep of the actress recently confirmed the nuptial news to People and earlier this month, Seyfried was spotted out and about with an engagement ring sitting proudly on her finger. So what’s her new bridal bling look like? The couple kept things sweet and simple with a thin and dainty silver band for Seyfried. Who needs dozens of diamonds, right?

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For now, it sounds like Seyfried and Sadoski are busy enjoying their to-be-wedded status. “Tommy and Amanda recently got engaged and shared the happy news with family and close friends,” a source close to the stars also divulged to Us Weekly, which seems fitting for the normally low-key pair. But we already can’t help but start wondering about the couple’s future wedding plans — especially considering that the Les Misérables actress doesn’t seem like your typical bride “I don’t want a white dress!” she said back when she was dating actor Justin Long. “I’ve worn so many of them. You know what I mean? The fact is, that kind of stuff is less about the ceremony and more about the commitment.”

So there probably won’t be a white wedding dress in this blonde beauty’s future. But we think we have a pretty good idea about what wedding-worthy hue she’ll end up going with…

You say the two of you are tight. Rock solid. Impossible to tear apart. The two of you are a match made in heaven. An unbeatable team. Whatever the metaphor is for long-term bliss, you believe your relationship is it. The alpha and omega. Kismet.

And you may be right. There is one way, however, to measure up if your relationship is rock solid, or not. These 10 things will never happen if the two of you are really such an ironclad pair.

1. Cheating.
Don’t tell us the two of you are a solid pair if there’s constant cheating. I’m not just talking about having physical contact with another person; I’m talking about the emotional cheating: Facebook affairs and texting with another person who is not your partner.

If your partner is “loving” and “liking” every hot photo of every hot chick and completing the sentiment with sexy comments, this is cheating. This is disrespecting you. An ironclad relationship has no part of this nonsense.

2. Second-guessing.
Are you always looking at your partner’s phone? Second-guessing everything your partner does or having insane suspicions constantly says your relationship is not rocks, but rather, paper.

3. Name-calling.
Everyone gets mad at each other, but a tight relationship doesn’t get involved in name-calling or nastiness. A great relationship is respectful. Calling someone harsh names is not a sign of respect.

See More: 50 Love Quotes That Express Exactly What ‘I Love You’ Really Means

4. Having identical identities.
An ironclad, match-made-in-heaven relationship has signs of separation. By separation I mean the two parties have their own unique identities. They get to be who they want to be in the world around them, without the other trying to control how the party is framed or how the party reacts with other people.

Of course, both parties are respectful and maintain boundaries, but both people in the relationship have identities that are distinct outside of the relationship.

5. Controlling behavior.
A solid relationship NEVER involves one party controlling or monitoring the other person in any fashion. Any sign of control or manipulation is a sure sign of a negative relationship, not a solid one.

6. Walking on eggshells.
A solid relationship has two people who are able to clearly state how they feel about everything, from each other to politics. These two people never have to be reminded to be respectful with their words, because they just are. But either way, neither party censors the other. Both partners feel as if they can share their feelings with their partner without being shunned or hurt.

See More: 6 Signs You’re In Love With A SERIOUS Narcissist (And How To Deal)

7. Asking for unreasonable accommodations.
A partner who is close with you and cares for you will never ask you to impossibly alter yourself. For example, an ex of mine ragged on me for being too sensitive. This wasn’t something I could easily change. Could I change other things? Sure, but a person who loves you for you isn’t going to ask you to alter something that is incredibly unreasonable.

8. Gaslighting.
Two people who deeply care and are committed to each other will not gaslight the other partner, making a “loved” partner doubt his or her own sanity or perception. Someone who does this is downright abusive. A loving and solid relationship has no time for this behavior.

9. Criticizing constantly.
Yes, a solid relationship is marked by honesty. However, two independent and loving humans don’t feel the need to share every single thing with each other, especially if these things may be hurtful. A smart and loving partner will know when the keep his or her lips zipped. It’s a sign of love and total devotion.

10. Relying on power dynamics.
Every partner has his or her own role in a relationship, but a solid couple will not rely heavily on power dynamics in which one party is completely and emotionally dependent on the other. A solid relationship requires people who know how to shift gears, take turns, and utilize each person’s individual strengths to keep the relationship going.

See More: If He Really Wanted To Be With You, You Wouldn’t Have To Try So Hard

This article originally appeared on YourTango.