5 Valuable Marriage Lessons Brides Learned From Their Moms

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Mom always knows best, even when it comes to your marriage. These five brides learned extremely important lessons from their mamas, and are here to share their mother’s most valuable pearls of wisdom.

“My mom taught me that when you fall in love and he is ‘The One’ you will know, and she advised me to wait until I had zero doubts. She didn’t settle, and she didn’t want me to settle either. I was always very picky and had doubts, so I had almost given up on finding love or marriage. But when I met my husband, just like my mom told me, I knew, and I finally understood what she had meant.” — Margo

“My mother taught me that marriage is not about being right all the time. It’s about being the bigger person, even when the other person is wrong. That means you let go of the attitude and the angry stare, even though your partner might deserve it.” — Chantay

“My mother always says, ‘never embarrass your spouse in front of other people.’ She gives great advice, and my friends often tease me because I quote my mom a lot. But this pearl of wisdom in particular has always stuck with me. Your spouse should always feel like you are his or her No. 1 supporter and that you’re on the same team. If you embarrass them in front of others, intentionally or not, it can start to feel like you aren’t on his or her side. So I always try to keep this in mind.” — Rachel

“Every evening, whenever my mother expected my father to return home, she would go comb her hair and put on lipstick and perfume. I know, I know — that sounds incredibly outdated and sexist and all. But the kernel of truth behind those gestures is to present the best you instead of the dregs that are left over at the end of the day. In my own marriage, I try to remember to make a priority of staying connected and even delighted with each other. Simple concepts, hard to apply: Actually making eye contact, actively listening instead of multitasking, carving out alone time without the noise of everyday life.” — Bernice

“My mom always told me, ‘choose your battles.’ In fact, she still says this to me to this day. In a marriage, there are lots of little things that turn into big things, and this little mantra helps me decide which issues are important enough to me to bring up with my spouse, and which things I can let go.” — Hilary

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