Creating a registry is all about personal style. And if yours is of the Southern variety, it’s easy to find great items that embrace charm over trend. From mason jars to sweet tea pitchers, each of these items from Belk are registry must-haves for a couple who loves to entertain Southern style.

Nothing says Southern entertaining like mason jars. Give the glassware a twist and register for a multipurpose mason jar caddy instead of glasses. You can use this set as a centerpiece filled with flowers, to hold utensils for an outdoor party, or as a condiment holder for a barbeque. Home Essentials Country Chic Mason Jars Caddy Set, $19.99

A crystal pitcher is a must-have on any registry, and the green glass handle on this one brings it up to date. But what any Southern bride and groom will love most about this gift is the extra-long stirring spoon, perfect for sweet tea or home squeezed lemonade. Kate Spade New York All in Good Taste Pretty Pantry, $30

If long Southern dinners are more your speed, consider this dinnerware set a must-have for your registry. Combining wood and porcelain gives this casual dinnerware pattern a farm to table look. Villeroy & Boch Artesano Dinnerware 4 pc. Place setting, $62.40

Even if you don’t live on the water, incorporating coastal elements into your home is always a southern entertaining staple. Your guests are sure to sigh at the cuteness of this fish serving bowl. Lenox British Colonial Carved Fish Serving Bowl, $59.99

Nothing like a copper beverage tub to keep the party rustic and cool all night long. Inspired by Biltmore Estate, a southern landmark, this pieces is just what every hostess needs to add a dash of Southern charm to their festivities. Biltmore Hammered Copper Beverage Tub, $51.60

Want to inject a breath of fresh air into your wedding? Then swap the freshly picked flowers for potted plants that, like your marriage, are destined to last a lifetime (well, you know, that is if taken care of properly)! The growing greenery trend has caught the attention of eco-friendly couples, modern minimalists and bohemian brides alike. From teeny tiny succulents used as reception place cards to towering trees that beautifully break up a ceremony space, here’s how to put down some roots and channel the potted plant trend at your own wedding.

Line your ceremony aisle.
Instead of candles or flowers, wedding and event planners Natasha Burton and Jennifer Arreguin, co-founders of Swoon California, suggest lining your ceremony aisle with low trees or potted plants of your preference. Dramatic planters placed at the beginning of the aisle are always a good call too. “Urns are great vessels for live trees and plants that can decorate an aisle or even create an organic background for the ceremony altar,” adds event planner Kristine Cholakian Cooke, owner of Simply Charming Socials.

Use them to break up a space or hide unsightly features.
Believe it or not, trees work great to help shape an event space and create pretty borders and barriers for your venue, particularly if there are columns or any other unpleasant features you’d like to hide or distract attention from, point out Burton and Arreguin. Larger potted plants can also be used in lieu of pipe and drape for screening purposes, says wedding planner Leah Weinberg, owner of Color Pop Events.

Bring the outdoors in.
If a bride is looking for a more botanical look but the venue doesn’t accomplish this due to location or season, potted plants can work really well to bring the outdoors in, notes Cooke. “For example, live trees add a grand and lively touch to any reception area. Potted citrus trees or olive trees are a favorite for their true green leaves, fantastic aroma and narrow trunks, plus they add height and interest in the corners of the room or in a lounge.”

Use them as place cards and favors.
Why not go ahead and kill two birds with one stone (or uh, plant)! According to Cooke, small potted plants make the perfect place cards for seating that can then double as favors for guests to take home and enjoy. “Succulents and fresh herbs are always a popular choice.” For a fun pop of color, consider itsy bitsy bright cacti.

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Decorate your dinner tables.
Feel free to go big or small with this idea! For a more simple, chic yet utterly romantic vibe, Burton and Arreguin recommend succulents of all different types (think spiky ones, ones that droop over the pot, etc.) nestled in with tea lights and lanterns. Potted hydrangeas, pretty azaleas and kalanchoes, which all come in striking colors of corals, pinks and whites, look stunning on tables, too as long as they’re low enough to avoid obstructing the view across the table, tells Lucy Diaz-Flores, Creative Director of Bella Flora in Dallas. For the more daring bride that wants to make a big statement, Cooke says to try potted trees as centerpieces on long estate tables. “Be sure to trim the lower branches so that guests can see each other during dinner though,” she warns.

Create a focal point.
Want to dress up the entrance to your reception space or give guests a pretty welcome into the church? Potted plants make for a beautiful grand focal area, according to Diaz-Flores. “Use a mixture of both blooming and greenery plants, such as large overflowing ferns, a variety of potted hydrangeas, pretty English ivy or other trailing foliages for a nice cascade feel,” she says. “For focal areas in the ballroom, place combinations of potted plants in mass on pedestals or tables.” Smaller potted plants also look great on food stations and bars.

Not sure where to get your potted plants? Here’s how to decide whether to buy or rent.
If you have space to plant the plants after use or are giving them away as favors, then definitely purchase them from your local gardening center, advises Holly Chapple of Holly Heider Chapple Flowers LTD. However, if you don’t really have “green fingers” or a space to plant, then she suggests renting. Some florists offer this option, she says, so call around to find the right fit.

A lot of brides and grooms will plan summertime weddings if they’ve got a bunch of children on their guest list, as it tends to be the easiest way to avoid most school and athletic conflicts, and make sure as many children as possible can attend. Some couples aren’t thrilled about having little ones attend their wedding, but the brides and grooms who are excited to include children keep the kids in mind when they do their wedding planning.

The key, in my professional opinion, to having every guest enjoy the wedding festivities is to have one or more babysitters on hand (depending on how many children attend, and the ages) to keep a general eye out, and help facilitate special planned activities. In addition, here are five fun and easy ways to make sure that your littlest guests have as much fun as the big ones:

1. Have a “Kids-Only” table at the reception, and cover the entire thing with brown butcher paper and boxes of crayons, markers, and stickers. You can put seats at the regular tables for them during the actual dinner if they need assistance from their parents, but having an activities table available gives them a quiet spot to entertain themselves when they lose interest during long toasts.

2. Offer a special kids’ meal to your younger guests. Most of them won’t appreciate the regular dinner menu, especially if you have fancy foodie tendencies. If you’re having a buffet, ask the caterer if they can provide a children’s buffet as well, on a lower table the kids can reach to make their own selections. It makes the children feel special, and guarantees they’ll actually eat.

3. Consider offering an interactive dessert display. Let the kids decorate pre-frosted mini cupcakes with sprinkles, sparkles and other edible décor. Set up a table with all the fun stuff and let them have at it. It gives the children something to keep them busy for awhile after dinner so they’re not running around when their parents take to the dance floor. And if you’re having a dessert buffet, you can offer the kids’ creative designs as well. It will make your guests smile.

4. Every child loves a lemonade stand. For a daytime wedding, build a little booth using your wedding colors, and assign the children the task of serving drinks in little cups decorated with fun straws and umbrellas. True, most of the adults will be cocktailing, but nobody will be able to resist the little ones and their pop up business. No payment required, of course!

5. Set up a “Fun Room” in another part of the venue with a Disney movie and some other quiet activities. The goal isn’t to keep the children corralled for the duration of your party, but rather to have a cool, quiet place for them to go (or be taken) if all the activity is a little too much. It’s great to do it in a bedroom, if one is available, because the little ones can simply crash whenever they get tired.

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Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC’s reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.

Beach towns, off-the-grid escapes, wine country — the Golden State has no shortage of honeymoon-worthy destinations. The grande dame of them all, however, is not so much a destination as it is a journey: California’s Pacific Coast Highway offers a taste of all of the above, along with some of the state’s finest panoramas.

Departing from Los Angeles, the PCH winds north at a leisurely pace, hugging California’s coastal curves for roughly 500 miles before arriving in San Francisco, passing through Malibu, Santa Barbara, Big Sur and looping around Monterey Bay along the way. Already California dreaming? Use this itinerary as a starting point for planning what is sure to be a honeymoon road trip to remember.

Day 1: Arrive in Los Angeles
Collect your rental car and head straight for the coast: There’s nothing like toes in the sand to mark the start of any vacation, let alone your honeymoon! Settle in for the evening at the beachfront Hotel Casa del Mar in Santa Monica, where suites offer 180-degree views of the Pacific Ocean. Walk out onto the Santa Monica Pier to catch your first — of many — West Coast sunsets.

Pro tip: Look into one-way car rentals between Los Angeles and Bay Area airports (San Francisco, Oakland and San Jose). There is an additional fee but it’s worth it.

Day 2: Santa Monica to Santa Barbara (85 miles)
It’s time to hit the road! With sights set on arriving in Santa Barbara by late afternoon, plan for at least one beach stop and a lunch break somewhere along Malibu’s 18-mile stretch — from Nobu to Neptune’s Net, there are plenty of options. Where to stay: With in-room yoga mats, record players, and a fleet of beach cruisers, The Goodland is SoCal cool at its finest. Also: the Canary Santa Barbara, with its rooftop deck in the heart of downtown, or Bacara Resort & Spa for a dose of luxury.

Day 3: Santa Barbara to San Louis Obispo (100 miles)
Today’s agenda: wine country and California nostalgia. Stop for lunch at Pea Soup Andersen’s in Buelton, founded 1924, before detouring through Solvang, a historic Danish village that feels untouched by time. Sample local wines at one of the town’s tasting rooms or head to the source itself: The Santa Ynez Valley is home to more than 100 vineyards and wineries. Post up for the evening at the iconic Madonna Inn, a fabulous throwback to another era.

Day 4: San Louis Obispo to Big Sur (120 miles)
Along this stretch of Highway 1 you’ll want to stop for scenic Morro Bay, Hearst Castle and to see the elephant seals of San Simeon. The road gets quite curvy; take it easy and enjoy the views. Aim to arrive in Big Sur well before sunset to get settled in the Ventana Big Sur, a luxe zen retreat set amid meadows and redwoods, or the Post Ranch Inn, which is perched on 1,200 foot high cliffs overlooking the Pacific.

Day 5: Big Sur to Carmel-by-the-Sea (50 miles)
Big Sur is a magical place, stick around for a while today to explore — hiking trails are plentiful and reward with incredible views. Alternatively, take time for a little R&R; the Ventana offers yoga, Tai Chi, and pilates classes and has an incredible spa. Idyllic Carmel-by-the-Sea is the perfect stop for the evening; boutique stays include the new Hotel Carmel, a cozy, cottage-style hotel, or Tradewinds Carmel, a tranquil, East-meets-West oasis.

Day 6: Monterey to San Francisco (120 miles)
If time allows, take the 17-Mile Drive, a scenic loop through Pacific Grove and Pebble Beach that finishes not far from the Monterey Bay Aquarium. After an aquarium visit and lunch at Fisherman’s Wharf, it’s time to hit the road. The most direct route to the Bay Area is to take the Santa Cruz highway north through the redwoods into the South Bay. If time allows, stay on Highway 1, which eventually drops into San Francisco before continuing north over the Golden Gate Bridge — a grand finale, if there every was one.

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In May of 2014, two years after Karmin and Adam met at the Del Mar horse races, the pair took a weekend getaway to a winery in Temecula, California. Karmin had no idea she was about to get engaged — never mind find her wedding venue! After a tour of the Ponte Vineyard Inn’s winery, Adam popped the question overlooking the pond and then treated his bride-to-be to dinner at the Inn’s restaurant. Says Karmin, “After an amazing weekend like that, it’s no surprise we returned on April 10, 2015, for our wedding!”

They let the gorgeous venue inspire every detail, planning a romantic garden-themed celebration with a menu that paired perfectly with the vineyard‘s best wines. They kept the guest list small, inviting only 90 people to join them — a decision that made their wedding day all the more intimate and kept costs down. But they didn’t sacrifice an ounce of sunny, soft California style! Take a peek at Adam and Karmin’s vineyard nuptials, photographed by Carmen Santorelli, below!

It all started with the pair’s custom watercolor invitation suite, designed by The Lettered Bride. Hand-written gold calligraphy matched the envelope, with floral elements to tie into the garden theme.

The petite bride took matters into her own hands when it came to her wedding dress, donning towering Charlotte Olympia pumps beneath her perfectly-altered gown. The slim Katie May design, with corded lace over champagne lining, had an open back and a subtle train. “I wanted my gown to fit my body properly, so I made sure not to skimp on the alterations!” Karmin says. She paired the subdued style with a full bouquet of white and peach dahlias, garden roses, peonies, ranunculus, and geranium leaves.

Adam’s classic attire was a Black by Vera Wang tuxedo, which his groomsmen also wore. The bridesmaids stunned in soft chiffon Jenny Yoo gowns in a pecan hue and carried smaller versions of the bride’s blush and peach bouquet.

Extra pops of peach and coral, in the form of lush garden roses and peonies, differentiated the bridesmaids’ blooms.

The ceremony took place overlooking the vineyard’s pond (the same one in the background of Adam’s proposal!), beneath a pergola decorated with soft peach and blush flowers.

The Catholic-inspired ceremony included a reading of “The Key to Love,” as well as traditional vows.

“We fell in love with the vineyard the day we got engaged,” says Karmin. “We even picked out the reception location on our tour before Adam popped the question!”

As guests headed toward the Barrel Room for dinner, they found their watercolor escort cards attached to vintage key bottle openers and suspended by an ornate frame.

Inside the barrel room, round tables were set with white linens, blush napkins, and gold flatware. Centerpieces combined roses and ranunculus in shades of cream and blush, and table numbers were written on octagonal mirrors.

Guests were treated to a wine pairing dinner, with sirloin, mahi mahi, lavender jasmine rice, and potato-mushroom gratin served alongside Ponte Vineyard Inn’s own vintages.

For dessert, the bride and groom cut into a two-tiered cake with layers of French vanilla cake, chocolate buttercream, peanut butter cream cheese, and salted caramel mousse. “We chose a smaller, simple design, then had a sheet cake in the back,” says Karmin. “It saved us money and also let our venue get a head-start on cake-cutting!”

Instead of a guest book, Adam and Karmin asked guests to sign a book of Pablo Neruda’s love poems.

The couple’s DJ played everything from Michael Bublé to country music, including the bride and groom’s first dance to “Mean to Me” by Brett Eldridge. “My father-daughter dance was one of the best moments, and I’ll always smile thinking back on it,” says Karmin. “And Adam and I are so glad we splurged on photography. The amazing pictures we’ll have forever are worth the extra cost!”

Venue & Catering: Ponte Winery and Vineyard Inn || Wedding Planner: Meadowsweet Events || Bride’s Wedding Dress: Katie May || Shoes: Charlotte Olympia || Jewelry: BHLDN || Hair & Makeup: Thorne Artistry || Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Jenny Yoo || Groom & Groomsmen’s Attire: Black by Vera Wang || Wedding Bands: Blue Nile || Floral Design: Plenty of Petals || Invitations & Paper Goods: The Lettered Bride || Ceremony Music: Eric Foster || Reception Music: Elite British DJ || Cake: Cakes to Celebrate || Photo Booth: Linda Moo Photographie || Photographer Carmen Santorelli Studio

Looking for more wedding ideas just like this? Then we bet you’ll love watching another couple exchange winery “I do’s” in the video below.

One of a wedding guest’s favorite things is an open bar. Whether it’s champagne and mixed drinks or signature cocktails and the groom’s favorite beers, being able to grab a drink at will really gets the party going! Another thing that can start the party? Shots. But this remnant of your college days can also go downhill — fast. Should you serve shots at your wedding, or should you nix the straight shooters? Our experts weigh in.

Before you start thinking about whether the two of you would like shots to be served at your wedding, check with your venue and bartending service. Some have a strict no-shots policy, which will make the decision a lot easier for you!

If you do have the option of serving shots, think about the context. You probably don’t want anyone pounding drink after drink (which can make for a very sloppy wedding guest), but you could find a way to serve a shot strategically and then switch back to mixed drinks only. For example, a wedding on the beach in Mexico pretty much calls for a shot of tequila, which you could have passed around for guests to take as the toasts are finished, and then you could request that the bartenders not pour any additional shots for the rest of the evening. You could also only serve shots during a specific time, scheduling a cut-off an hour or so before the reception ends. And be sure to ask your bartenders to keep an eye on guests to make sure no one is over-served.

You’ll also want to think through the cost of serving shots over mixed drinks. Because shots are consumed quickly and aren’t cut with mixers, people tend to have a few shots in the time it would take them to drink one mixed drink. This means your alcohol consumption will skyrocket a lot faster, which will cost you more money — and could lead to you running out of certain liquors before the evening is over.

After one Canadian mom took a timeout during her wedding ceremony to breastfeed her daughter — right in the middle of a Catholic church, no less — the Internet had quite a few things to say about it (as you can imagine). While some were horrified that a bride would even consider lowering her wedding dress in front of a crowd of wedding guests in order to feed their little one, others were a taaad bit more supportive. And by a tad bit we mean immensely so!

The photo of Christina Torino-Benton nestling her baby girl close to her chest has been shared thousands of times on Facebook, spurring a conversation about where (and when) breastfeeding is appropriate. But it turns out, Torino-Benton isn’t the first bride to encounter such a dilemma — other brides around the globe have had to come to the rescue when their little one got too hungry to deal, breastfeeding them right then and there in the middle of their wedding ceremony. Don’t believe us? Just look at the slew of photo-evidence below.

The Facebook page which started the conversation, called Breastfeeding Mama Talk, posted the almost-iconic picture of Torino-Benton on their wall and captioned it saying, “Talk about feeding anytime and anywhere. That moment when you’re getting married and your baby gets hungry…Fighting that good fight!” Feeling inspired, hundreds of proud mommies responded with their OWN breastfeeding pictures on their wedding day. The result? Well, you’ll just have to see for yourself.

But it wasn’t all a positive response. According to BBC, Torino-Benton said that some Facebook users “dismissed her for breastfeeding at church.” Of course, the courageous mom had a witty response to all of the naysayers. “To those people, I say, there is nothing more natural than feeding your infant with what God gave me,” she told BBC.

We can’t argue with that!

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There’s nothing like a destination wedding to get some major bonding time in with your favorite people. It’s not just a wedding, it’s like a mini vacation — and with that comes events and outfit choices, oh no! And in the case of a destination wedding, those outfits no doubt include a swimsuit or two (or three, who’s counting!). If you’re a “wearing all white all weekend” kind of bride, investing in some adorable white swimsuits to lounge in the days leading up to and the day after your wedding might be just right for you. There’s an infinite sea of white bathing suits out there to suit your wedding style, and we’ve narrowed it down to our current top 10. Get ready to hit the beach or pool in these adorable swim picks.

For the Boho Bride:
If your idea of a bikini conjures up images of surfers, cozy beach blankets, and flowing beach waves you’re definitely a bohemian bride! Look for triangle bikini tops or ’70s-inspired bandeaus and hip-hugging bottoms. Crochet details are having a major moment, and there’s a reason every Instagram style star (and model) has been snapped wearing Kiini’s version. Marysia’s Antibes scalloped bikini is another ubiquitous, ultra-flattering style we love!

(Clockwise from top left: Antibes Scallop Bikini and Top, $272, Marysia Swim available at Net-a-porter; Valentine triangle bikini top and bottom, $165 and $120, Kiini available at Barneys; Crochet halter top and bottom, $124 and $110, She Made Me available at Everythingbutwater.com; Catch waves scalloped bikini set, $68, Nasty Gal)

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For the One-Piece Lover:

Whether you’re ahead of the trends, or a sporty bride who doesn’t want to fuss with bikini straps, it’s undeniable that one-pieces are back in a big way! And what’s not to love? They’re flattering (read, Instagram worthy), easy to deal with, and can be a girl’s best friend — aka they provide coverage in all the right places. Best yet, the new versions are super stylish, sexy, and just plain adorable. (Left to right: “Bride” one-piece swimsuit, $99, Private Party available at Nordstrom; The Anne-Marie solid one-piece, $158, Solid and Striped; Indigo Dreams one-piece, $79.95, Billabong available at Swell)

For the just a little Indie Bride:
Look for bikinis with just a hint of trend, like a ruffle here, or a cut-out there. Don’t be scared to bring runway trends into the mix with an off-the-shoulder bikini top. Sporty, flirty, and an easy way to show the world you’re on top of the latest fashions! (Left to right: Flounce crop top and itsy bottom, $31.50 and $15, Victoria’s Secret; Mesh halter top and hipster bottom, $58 and $46, J.Crew; Shyla bikini top and bottom, $74.20 and each, Tori Praver available at Shopbop.com)

While he may not be the best wedding gift giver in the world, Donald Trump definitely makes sure that his wives are sporting large engagement rings during their marriages. The ring he bought for his second ex-wife, Marla Maples, is being sold in an auction on Wednesday — for a whopping $300,000.

The ring, a ginormous 7.45-carat emerald-cut rock (about the size of a postage stamp), is being sold by its owner through Joseph DuMouchelle, the same auctioneer who originally sold it for Maples in 1999 following her divorce from Trump, Yahoo reports. Back then, the ring was purchased for $110,000.

Now the same couple is selling it, and the auction is happening at the New York Palace hotel in New York City — near the site of Trump’s actual wedding to Maples at the Plaza Hotel.

The actress and the presumptive Republican nominee got married in 1993 after a controversial and first-marriage-ending affair (which caused his divorce to Ivanka Trump). Maples is currently known for her spot on Dancing With The Stars, but back in the day it was her tabloid-filled romance with Trump that helped rise her to fame as an Inside Edition correspondent. Recently she shared with People that she wasn’t truly about that life. “Putting on gowns and going out hosting events and having Harry Winston put jewelry on my hands was always uncomfortable for me — that was me playing a role,” the 52-year-old noted.

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Their December 1993 wedding was a lavish ’90s affair attended by over 1000 people, with Maples wearing a white silk long-sleeve Carolina Herrera wedding gown, a $2 million dollar Harry Winston tiara, and grasping a bouquet of pink roses. The nuptials were covered by 17 television crews, 90 paparazzi photographers, and a slew of gossip columnists, according to the New York Times. Among the guests was the infamous O.J. Simpson, who shared with Inside Edition outside the wedding, “I think everybody in the country believes that maybe their relationship could work if this relationship works.” Awkward. The two split in 1999, and they have one daughter, Tiffany, together.

When it comes to relationships, some men and women have a rule book they follow. “We feel protected from being hurt or disappointed by the other person by following these rules,” explains Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. “But we should question them, because … people need individual and different ideas in life. As long as you feel secure in the actions you’re taking and can deal with the outcomes, it’s OK to break the rules.” Here, our experts say, are eight such relationship rules you can and maybe even should break.

Rule 1: Always make the first date for coffee or cocktails.
Many people worry that a big dating investment up front might not pay off, so they give only a minimal time-commitment to the first date. “But I think you should turn this rule on it’s head,” relationship and etiquette expert April Masini says. “If you’re going to accept a date, go all in. After all, when someone invites you to dinner on a Saturday night, they’re showing you they think you’re special and that they’re committed. And you can weed out serial daters and daters who aren’t that serious about you this way.”

Rule 2: You must wait until the third date to have sex.
Think getting down too soon is a deal breaker? It might be time to think again, says Greer. “If you feel good about the person, are really attracted to them, and you feel safe with them, it’s OK to go ahead and sleep with them,” she says. “On the flip side, you can also wait until past the third date.” In other words, wait until you’re ready, whenever that may be.

Rule 3: You should always stick to your type.
“It’s great to know who you are and what you’re looking for,” says Masini. But if sticking to a particular type of person isn’t working for you, it’s time to toss your type out the window and try something new, she says. “Many people don’t even realize that they’re dating a type until they start complaining that nothing is working for them,” Masini explains. “You may come to find sweet surprises when you shake up the path you’re on for a different one that leads you where you always wanted to go.”

Rule 4: You have to wait to introduce him to your friends.
Greer says that many people think they can’t formally introduce their love interests to their friends (and especially their parents) until after they’ve hit a certain number of dates. But, she says, “if you’re feeling comfortable with him and want your friends to meet him, by all means, break this rule. Bring him into your circle and see if he clicks with them.”

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Rule 5: When you’re right, you shouldn’t be the first to apologize.
When you’re right, you’re right. And when you’re right, it can feel like you shouldn’t have to be the first to say you’re sorry. But, says Greer, “it doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong — it matters that you’re trying to understand each other and resolve the issue. Break this rule and try to work things out rather than standing on principle and feeling right.”

Rule 6: I must have a plus-one.
Just because you get an invitation that gives you a plus-one to your BFF’s wedding doesn’t mean you should bring a date, says Masini. In fact, she suggests, it’s good to fly solo if you’re single. Why? “You’ll have a much better chance of meeting someone if you appear single than if you drag along a friend or a default date simply because you don’t want to be alone because it’s uncomfortable,” Masini says.

Rule 7: You shouldn’t go away for the weekend before you’ve had sex.
If you’ve yet to be intimate with your partner, you might worry that going away together is a way of sealing the deal way before you’re ready. Says Greer, “If you feel you’re really into him and want to go away, it’s OK — but don’t feel pressured to be intimate just because you’re going on a vacation. If you feel like he may have expectations, then let him know before you go that you make no promises in that department and don’t know how you’ll be feeling once you get there.”

Rule 8: Never accept a last-minute date.
Masini says this is generally a good rule to follow. “However, there times when it’s perfect to break this rule once,” she says. “If he was taking his mother to the ballet and she wasn’t feeling well and he would like to take you instead, grab your little black dress and enjoy. Or if his roommate just missed a plane and won’t be able to use court side basketball tickets, and he’d love you to go with him in an hour, it’s legit enough to change your tune, break the rule, and go. This isn’t something you want to get into the habit of doing, but if there’s a believable reason for the last minute date, and it’s not ‘hanging out’ or watching Netflix at his place or yours, you should go.”