Your engagement ring—you know, that stunning piece of hardware that’ll sit on your left ring finger—can represent not only your number one love, but also your personality and style. If you gravitate towards classic and elegant, you’ve no doubt had your eye on Tiffany & Co.’s signature Tiffany Setting. This year marks the 130th anniversary of the historic six-prong setting that makes a round diamond look like it’s floating on the finger. In honor of the anniversary, we sat down with Melvyn Kirtley, who’s been Tiffany & Co.’s chief gemologist for over 30 years, to talk about the iconic engagement ring setting and what brides-to-be should keep in mind when searching for their ring.

What is it about the Tiffany Setting that’s helped it stand the test of time?
When it was designed in 1886, it was a brilliant way of taking the diamond—a beautiful, round, brilliant-cut diamond—and setting it above the finger to really allow the light to get to it. Prior to that, diamonds were set much lower. It’s the pureness of it and the simplicity that make it so special. The hardest things to design are the simplest things because there’s no place to hide.

Simple generally is timeless. But how can brides-to-be exude a little more personality with such a classic ring?
You can stack different bands —a wedding band, an anniversary band, and make a wonderful stack with it. Some customers prefer something a little more designed in a sense. They may want to have diamonds around, or they may want to have a more elaborate setting.

What should brides-to-be note when shopping for an engagement ring?
You have to fall in love with it. You have to love the shape. You have to have an immediate magnetism toward that shape. You have to look at a lot and narrow it down to a few and settle on the one that you fall in love with. It’s a process that takes time, and it’s a journey. And you have to go on the journey. Over the period of the visits, you’re going to find the shape that you love, the shape that works for you, that’s going to work for you in your lifestyle. You’re going to be wearing it every day, and it has to be one that you fall in love with, not that everyone else falls in love with.

And is that journey something you recommend a couple does together?
I think the journey has to be somewhat together. The ultimate purchase is done separately, but the journey and the narrowing down of which one it is has to be done collaboratively.

What are some of the latest trends you’ve seen with engagement rings?
With an engagement ring, you’re not really talking about a fashion statement. You’re talking about something you’ll have forever. It’s one of the biggest investments outside of a house or a car that you’ll ever make. It has to be classic. Something that will work forever.

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Surprise! R&B sensation Jill Scott married her boyfriend Mike Dobson in a top-secret wedding ceremony and reception this past weekend. The two tied the knot June 25, 2016 at an all-white wedding which that some special wedding surprises.

The 44-year-old actress and singer looked absolutely exquisite in her scoop-neck, long-sleeved wedding dress. Her hair was pulled off her face in a bun updo, complete with tear-drop diamond earrings to accentuate her look. The groom wore a simple black tux, accessorized with a black bowtie and white rose boutonniere, according to Page Six. The hush-hush ceremony was filled with candles and gorgeous lighting, and the reception was tented, keeping with the couple’s request for an intimate, party vibe.

Although the wedding was a big secret to the rest of the world (upheld by the bride and groom and their guests), there were no shortage of surprises for the bride herself — including a live performance by Grammy-winning rapper Big Daddy Kane that her new hubby for orchestrated. Major brownie points for your first week of marriage, Dobson! In true newlywed fashion, the two are seen smiling throughout the night in photos and videos — dancing, feeding each other cake, and laughing (major props on being gentle with each other while taking their first bites of cake). As it should be, lovebirds.

This was the Grammy-award winner’s second marriage — previously she was married to Lyzel Williams until 2007 and engaged in 2009 to Lil’ John Roberts. She and Roberts have a 7-year-old son, Jett Roberts, who was in attendance at the wedding (and seen enjoying an adorable dance with his mama — this little guy has moves!). DJ Mars, a good friend of the groom for over 20 years, was the MC of the night, according to People. He posted videos and photos of the ceremony but then later deleted them, sharing that he knew about the wedding last year but not who Dobson was marrying (they are just full of surprises, huh?). Mars had written on his IG, “He came to my house and gave me the deposit early but didn’t say he was marrying Jill Scott!!!!”

After such a beautiful night filled with happy surprises for the couple and their guests, it’s safe to say that their married life together is off to a good start. Congrats you two! See below for more photos and videos of their big day.

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Congrats to newlyweds #JillScott and #MikeDobson! Jill's reaction to a surprise performance from hip-hop legend #BigDaddyKane is priceless****** [**@djmars404]

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Congrats to Jill Scott on tying the knot this weekend. She is pictured with Big Daddy Kane's wife. Jill is so beautiful. She was a gorgeous bride. Rp @industryonblast_ #Mediaoutrage #Melanin #jillscott

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Congrats to the beautiful soulful singer #JillScott who is now a married woman!! Wishing Mr. and Mrs.Dobson a wonderful lifetime together. ** #radbridal #bridal #bridalinspirations #weddings #weddingplanning #Newlyweds

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#PressPlay: Guess who just tied the knot…. My girl #JillyFromPhilly and #MikeDobson. Congrats to the happy couple! #JillScott

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Congrats to Miss Jill Scott as she married Mr. Mike Dobson. Blessings! #JillScott #MikeDobson #NameDropped #Love ** #JillyFromPhilly #Blessings #JustMarried #BlackLove

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I love surprises & weddings. Congrats to the beautiful @missjillscott & her beau. This just warms my heart on this Beautiful Sunday y'all. Repost by @djmars404 *** So,Mike Dobson called me and said I'm going to surprise my wife during the reception and have Big Daddy Kane perform. He then says,"Mars you call Kane to work it out". So im gassed because I'm on the phone strategizing with arguably one of the best rappers period(top 5 of anyone's list)! Me and Big Daddy Kane on the phone,im geeked! No one knew but me and the husband knew he was about to perform. Dude walks in and they didn't even recognize him until he starts rapping. Her face is soooo priceless! #jillscott #mikedobson #bigdaddykane #djmarsapproved

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CONGRADULATIONS TO 1 OF MY FAVORITE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD!!!!! Mrs. Jill Scott-Dobson On Her Marriage To Mr. Mike Dobson ****************************************************** The New Mr & Mrs Dobson!!!! God Bless Y'all ************************************ @missjillscott #MikeDobson #JillScott #JillScottDobson #JillDobson #Marriage #Married #HappilyMarried #Hitched #JumpedTheBroom #HolyMatrimony

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We’ve been socialized to swoon over flowers, chocolates, and other romantic gestures. “But romance only takes a relationship so far,” says Toni Coleman, psychotherapist and relationship coach. “Successful relationships happen when we choose with our heads as well as our hearts. In fact, what we might consider unromantic initially can become a major turn on and provide much of the glue that holds a relationship together through time and the many challenges that couples face.”

With that in mind, here are seven signs you’re in the right relationship — no flowers and chocolate necessary!

1. Your partner does things you enjoy (and he or she doesn’t).
If your partner does things you and you alone dig, happily and without protest, you’ve struck relationship gold. Why? Because, “while going to a play or watching every episode of Scandal might not be their cup of tea, they do it anyway because being with you and seeing your enjoyment matters more than the specific activity,” says Lesli Doares, marriage coach and author of Blueprint For A Lasting Marriage. “It’s also a sign that they don’t expect the relationship to be all about them.”

2. Your partner shares your work ethic.
According Coleman, having a partner with a very different attitude towards the value of and importance of work can leave you as the only responsible person in your partnership. And that’s not a situation you’ll want to be in forever. “Imagine carrying all the weight for chores, child care, household management, and the handling of finances,” she encourages. “Not only does this lead to burn-out, it also causes contributes to feelings of resentment and a loss of affection and respect.”

3. Your partner pitches in to do whatever needs to be done.
And there’s no back-talk about how you haven’t tied up and taken out the trash yourself in two months. “It may be your turn to do something, but they do it because they can and want to,” says Doares. “This shows a generosity of spirit and a willingness to be part of the team. It also shows maturity in not holding to strict interpretations of rules or expectations.”

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4. Your partner follows-through — in a timely manner.
There’s nothing worse than nagging your partner to fulfill a promise he or she made weeks ago. “This leaves you with the belief that your needs are a low priority for your partner,” Coleman warns. “Your relationship with be one of two independent people taking care of their own needs and bean counting — which is an intimacy killer.” On the flip side, being with someone who follows through, quickly and without reminders, is a sign you’ve found a reliable life partner.

5. They stand up for you to their family.
You want to get along with the family who could become your future in-laws. But sometimes that just doesn’t happen. In this situation, a guy or gal who stands up for you is a keeper. “Being married means putting each other first before anyone else,” explains Doares. “One of the biggest challenges to a marriage is the inability of one partner to develop appropriate boundaries with other important people in their life. They take up differences with you in private but to the outside world, they have your back.”

6. Your partner challenges you intellectually.
Says Coleman, “On the surface, choosing someone who turns you on intellectually may sound very unromantic.” But dig a little deeper, and you may find that “over time, this is the person who will keep it interesting and ensure that your relationship never gets boring,” she says.

7. They openly and consistently communicate with you, even when it’s tough.
Says Doares, “Being in a committed relationship requires the ability to work together, which requires the ability to share thoughts, feelings, expectations, and concerns.” That kind of quality communication goes far beyond saying “I love you,” she says. “Being able to talk about hard stuff — finances, sex, running a household, hurt feelings — is they key to having a happy, healthy relationship that will last,” Doares says.

Yes, every relationship needs a little romance. But remember: “Romantic gestures can steal the focus away from the qualities that are necessary to sustain a loving relationship for the long term,” says Doares. “Romance is important, but it needs to be seen as the icing on a cake that you want to eat anyway.”

Calvin Harris who? Taylor Swift had us totally convinced that she was on her way down that aisle with DJ Calvin Harris. However after a blissful 15 months together, the couple called it quits — supposedly because Harris wasn’t ready to get married yet. But cue up the “We Are Never Ever Getting Back to Together,” because the superstar songstress has a new beau in her life — British actor Tom Hiddleston. And they’ve already hit a MAJOR relationship milestone: Meeting the parents! (That’s the first step in tying the knot right?)

Romance rumors first started swirling between Swift and Hiddleston when a video surfaced of the pair adorably dancing around at a Selena Gomez concert (a.k.a. Swift’s future maid of honor, obviously).

Earlier this month, the pair officially went public with their romance. They were spotted kissing and canoodling on a beach in Rhode Island (swoon…) a couple of weeks back. And now, they were just seen strolling on another beach across the pond — with Hiddleston’s mother in tow!

According to People, the new couple jetted off to England on Friday so Swift could meet her maybe-future-mother-in-law, Diane Hiddleston, in her hometown of Suffolk. You remember meeting the parents, right? Sweaty palms, a heavily beating heart, praying that your future in-laws don’t completely hate you… But by the looks of it, this threesome got along splendidly! The happy couple and Hiddleston’s too-cute mother were all smiles in the snapshots the paparazzi snapped of the outing (see below). At one point, Hiddleston’s mom was even happily sandwiched between the pair as they walked along the English countryside!

It may be a little early in this relationship, but we’re definitely seeing future mother/daughter in-law potential here! If there ever was anyone to win over a sweetheart’s mom, it would without-a-doubt be T. Swift. Come on, who could ever be a momzilla to this face?!

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For as much envying as we do of other couples, the truth is — even the most wonderful, ‘perfect’ couple can end up divorced.

We’ve all seen it: Two genuinely great people start off head-over-heels in love, but then somewhere along the way (despite everything looking rosy on the surface) they shock their family and friends and announce their marriage is over. This unleashes a bloodbath of upset and unhappiness on everyone who loves them who now feel forced to take sides.

What happened? They seemed so happy together!

Despite how happy they started off as a couple, the pair was likely hiding an unending cycle of unhappiness within their relationship. And after keeping that all below the surface for too long, they felt like separating was their only option.

This isn’t unusual at all. Many couples struggle to maintain a ‘happy relationship,’ but their marriage still falls apart. Here are 11 bad habits they likely left un-addressed that slowly but surely eroded love and connection between them:

1. Not being on the same page with each other. Often couples lack alignment on the things that matter most, and feel like their own personal goals/feelings are the most important ones to focus on.

2. Not meeting each other’s needs. Every person has unique needs they hope their partner will fulfill. But often couples fail to speak up about those needs or presume their partner’s needs are the same as their own.

3. Letting disconnect become the norm. This is when couples start to say things like “I love you, but I am no longer ‘in love’ with you.”

4. Allowing intimacy to dwindle. The affection, connection and tenderness you once shared dries up from lack of effort, leaving you merely roommates.

5. Neglecting each other. Blowing each other off, forgetting to follow through on things promised, failing to pay attention. Neither of you necessarily meant to make other things more important than your spouse, but you did.

6. Harboring resentment for each other. Unspoken or unresolved resentment festers and severely poisons a once healthy relationship. One partner (or even both) can think: You did this thing to me, and I can’t get over it.

7. Not dealing with things head on. You know things are off, but it’s easier to do nothing about it. You avoid facing the truth or handling the real issues in your marriage.

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8. Criticizing each other. When you nitpick each other in your minds and out loud, soon you only see your partner’s faults. After awhile, complaining and criticizing become a comfortable habit which compromises your willingness to communicate and interact in a compassionate, supportive way.

9. Turning your attention (and affection) elsewhere. Whether by having an affair or pouring all of your attention into the kids, one or both of you checked out and sought attention and affection elsewhere. After that, it’s easy to completely give up.

10. Letting stress control your lives. Life is hectic and many couples accidently let stress (big and small) come between them. But once stress takes over and shared togetherness fractures, it can feel incredibly difficult (if not impossible) to get it back.

11. Fighting to win. When you’re more focused on ‘being right’ than truly connecting, attempts to ‘talk about it’ usually make things worse.

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The longer the above issues remain unresolved in ANY marriage, the more these habits intertwine, intensify and steadily reduce the flow of love and connection in your life. Each day, love dwindles and stress builds until even formerly happy couples reach their breaking point.

And the single BIGGEST mistake most couples make in this situation is thinking — We can fix this if we just communicate better!

Unfortunately, it’s hard to want to talk about anything if you don’t feel valued and appreciated by your partner. And if you go through the typical couples counseling process issue by issue (combing through your version and your partner’s), you’ll frequently feel more separate afterwards than pulled back towards each other.

So what can you do when your happy marriage feels miserable (and seems hopelessly lost)?

– Find a little perspective: Focus on why you fell in love with your partner and what you want your life to become like together. Even better, tell your partner this without any expectations of them doing the same.

– Start to repair the damage: Apologize for your part in any misunderstanding. Don’t defend why you did or didn’t do this or that. Offer a simple, heartfelt apology without expecting one from them. This seriously can work wonders.

– Be brave enough to go first: Be willing to give to your partner first instead of waiting for them to make the first move. This isn’t rarely easy if you think they owe you, but you can do it because it’s helpful to your marriage.

– Stop waging war: Stop doing anything that’s causing harm to your partner or injures your feeling of connection. This might simply mean showing a little more patience, compassion and kindness.

– Read The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle: It’s full of helpful ideas that you can begin to use right away to repair the real issues in your marriage.

The happiness and success of any marriage is reflected in ‘the little things’ you do (and fail to do) for each other. Don’t let your marriage fall apart like so many couples do. Today, make a fresh start. Chose to do something that moves you out of the past and imagines a brighter future together.

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Jeff Forte CSIC, CME , Author of The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle has helped hundreds of couples bring love and passion back into their marriages. Contact him today to get his direct input on your situation.

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

You’re this close to booking your wedding venue. But then, another location you’d looked at a few weeks back pops into your head, bringing loads of indecision with it. Heed this insider tip: Many venues offer an extra perk that just might help you seal the deal. Here are six of our favorite unexpected benefits to booking the city’s top venues.

Ovation (Above)
Sparkler exits send the couple off in style. But for the ultimate send off, look no further than Ovation. Since hitting the event-space scene last year on the western stretch of Fulton Street, Ovation’s easily risen to the top of the city’s options for hip, contemporary venues. Once the last song plays and the guests start stepping off the dance floor, the just-married couple get to end their night on a high note — being chauffeured to their bridal suite from the back of a 1959 white Rolls Royce. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Spiaggia
Spiaggia is hot-off-the-heels of a grand reopening of their private event space. And the highly regarded Italian restaurant proves it’s one of the top spots in the city for a wedding with fewer than 180 guests. Each wedding reception package option offers passed hors d’oeuvres, dinner courses, and an open bar. But if you splurge on the most extravagant package — the platinum — Spiaggia will welcome you back one year later with a complimentary dinner for your first anniversary. Saluti! Read real brides’ reviews here!

The Ritz-Carlton, Chicago
The glamorous hotel just off Michigan Avenue has no shortage of unique spots to host your big day. The Grand Ballroom stuns with a 400,000-crystal chandelier and a skyline view sparkling from the windows, while brides looking for something smaller (but still chic) can head up to the rooftop. Simply put: There are dozens of reasons to choose the Ritz-Carlton to host your wedding. Consider the fact that you can apply Ritz-Carlton Reward points to your honeymoon stay a cherry on top. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Intercontinental
A stone’s throw from the Chicago River and situated right on Michigan Avenue, this quintessential Chicago venue has to be on the list. What really sets it apart, however, is one special perk that’ll show your appreciation for your parents. The hotel offers complimentary room upgrades to your parents and brand-new in-laws, so they can recover from the party in a roomy suite. Read real brides’ reviews here!

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Sepia
What was once a 19th century print shop is now a Michelin-starred restaurant — and easily the venue of your dreams. Spectacular food aside, you’ll find a space that beautifully mixes the old and the new, with exposed brick walls next to stunning crystal chandeliers. Sepia is ideal for a small wedding of about 60 people, and if you host it in the months between January and April, they’ll throw in a Champagne toast on the house. Read real brides’ reviews here!

MileNorth Hotel
The Streeterville hotel combines many style genres — from a funky lobby to contemporary event spaces. And the wedding-planning staff is ready to help at every turn. They offer a complimentary bridal suite for your first night as husband and wife. Plus, they’ll deliver welcome bags to your guests at check in — one less thing to worry about as you’re getting ready!

Not your cup of tea? Don’t fret! There are dozens more Chi-Town locales for your big day on our Chicago Venues page!

Behind every great studio is often a great story. From fitness professionals who wanted to create something new in the market to those who found strength and change by working out and wanted to pass their message to others, there are so many ways the studios you frequent and love found their start.

For some studios, their great beginnings started when they fell in love with their partner.

Get inspired by these powerful stories from couple-owned studios across the globe. Not only do they share their sweet how-they-met stories, but how fitness has made their relationship stronger and closer.

Yoga Studios

Sarah and Mason Levey
Owners of Y7 Studio in New York

How they met: They went to different high schools but were introduced by a mutual friend at a house party. They didn’t start dating until after college.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “The idea for Y7 was a combination of both of our needs and what we wanted out of a yoga experience. It was a very natural process to do this together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Before we opened the studio, working out together was definitely not the norm. Since becoming a part of the boutique studio community, we have been trying countless numbers of different studios, and it’s been really fun getting to try new things together. For the last two months, we have been living in different states to get the Los Angeles location up and running, while ensuring New York stays on track. Because of our relationship, we are able to work through any disagreements, and at the end of the day we always support each other and are on the same team.”

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Nova and Dustin Brown
Owners of Warrior One Yoga in Melbourne

How they met: They met 10 years ago, when Dustin was traveling in Melbourne, Australia. It truly was a whirlwind: They fell in love within weeks and were married within seven months.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We were simply driven to create something spiritual, rewarding and positive. After completing a yoga teacher training together in Thailand, the idea of opening our own yoga studio became evident and we’re certain this was right path. We came back from our teacher training feeling connected and completely enlightened and motivated to share our passion. Together, Dustin and I have created a space we love to be in every day and are continuing to build a beautiful community of like-minded people.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Practicing yoga together completely changed our relationship! We had already been together for nearly five years before we found yoga, but this brought a new perspective, a new love, and a new understanding of one another and ourselves. We practiced every morning together, always ending in Savasana holding hands. I owe my thanks to yoga, as I believe it’s a huge contributor to why we are so in love after 10 years of marriage.”

Matt Shechtman and Becky Nickerson
Owners of Infinity Yoga in Atlanta

How they met: On a blind date!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Becky opened the studio first, while I was still working a corporate legal job for a large international law firm. When she decided to expand to a second location, it was time for me to step into the operations role so that Becky could focus more on teaching, managing the instructors and directing the Teacher Training program.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We spend a lot more time together now that we work together, and unlike before, we know the intimate details of everything the other person is doing because it is all interrelated. Before Matt joined the studios full-time, we ran very separate lives and each did our own thing and didn’t know as much about what the other was doing. Sharing the studios has allowed us the opportunity to grow together while building the business. It really is the best of both worlds to intertwine our marriage and business!” — Becky

Lindsey Duggan and Jay Sirois
Owners of AIR: Aerial Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: At a bar, where Lindsey was working and Jay was drinking.

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s made us communicate a lot more. It’s great having someone on your side, especially when times get tough. It’s nice to have someone there to bounce ideas off as well. It also makes us closer because the studio is our first child. We both want the studio to be amazing and enjoyable for everyone who steps through our doors.” — Lindsey

Chris Koch and Jackie Alexander
Owners of Humming Puppy in Melbourne

How they met: They met via Jackie’s former boss and knew one another for seven years before they started dating.

Why they decided to open a studio together: Jackie wanted to leave her corporate job to open a studio that she believed in. Chris joined in to help spread the message of Humming Puppy, a room that hums with great frequency and vibration.

How fitness has brought them closer: “For me, yoga has changed my life and continues to do so on so many levels. It allows me to live mindfully and keeps me grounded when things get a little crazy. Without yoga, poor Chris would suffer! Working alongside a partner who shares the same vision as you is an incredible experience. It has strengthened our bond and solidified our relationship in many ways. It gets busy and it gets hectic, but we love what we do and love that we are doing it together.” — Jackie

Flannery Foster and Raymond Gonzales
Owners of goodyoga in New York

How they met: They met on New Years Eve 2008 when a mutual friend had two tickets to a My Morning Jacket concert at Madison Square Garden.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Both of us were in a transition period of our lives. Flannery was teaching yoga full-time and I was closing my graphic design studio. We met and instantly began collaborating on ways to work for ourselves and incorporate the important things in life: art, travel and yoga. Opening a studio in an underserved area of Greenpoint, Brooklyn seemed like a good idea.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “My wife is my greatest motivator and my best asset! In many ways it is the core of out relationship. Neither of us were or are health nuts or fitness freaks. We try not to put garbage into our bodies and we are very active travelers. Our bodies feel great when we train them with a yoga practice and then use them on our life adventures.” — Raymond

Indoor Cycling

Michael and Demetre
Owners of The Monster Cycle in New York

How they met: In an indoor cycling class!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We love health, fitness, friends and art. We just wanted to create a space to call home.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness has helped us grow as a team partnership. We help each other with playlists and take each other’s classes for feedback. Nothing is better than taking a class with your partner.” — Michael

Robert Rowland and Hilary Gilbert
Owners of BOOM Cycle in London

How they met: At a gig in London and then had a whirlwind week of dates in Los Angeles and Las Vegas.

Why they decided to open a studio together: We were both looking to open a business and realized how much work it would take, and we wanted to make sure we got to spend time together. We always moved quickly: I went to LA for our first date, we became a couple a few days later, then a few days after that Hilary moved from LA to London and we moved in together. We are a team!”

How fitness has brought them closer: I wouldn’t say that it has. We’re the same people we’ve always been, if perhaps a little more tired and wiser. We still share the same interests, goals and dreams. We’re even engaged now to be married. Having a business together accelerates how well you know your partner, but it makes us stronger and even more intertwined so we couldn’t imagine not spending every day together. We’re sure that working with your partner is not right for everyone, so think long and hard about how it would work. Hilary and I have very different job roles and responsibilities, so we don’t step on each others toes too much.” — Robert

Suhail Maqsood and Carl Morley
Owners of The Wheel House in San Francisco

How they met: Carl and Suhail met on Carl’s first day at Oracle in the UK. They became good friends and after many months, began dating. Twenty years later, we both left our software technology jobs and now live in San Francisco helping people meet their fitness goals.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Carl taught at multiple gyms throughout San Francisco. He spent more hours teaching than his regular full time job! He enjoyed teaching fitness classes more than his regular job and was encouraged by Suhail to follow his passion. We both visited our current location and fell in love with the idea of putting all our eggs in one basket to commit to our first studio.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s tough without a doubt when you spend 24hrs a day together with the same person at work and at home. But, we make it work since we are each others true love. My only question is when Carl is going to propose.” — Suhail

Pilates

Chris and Shannon Catalano
Owners of Pilates Vita of Denver

How they met: Chris and Shannon met at work. While on active duty, Chris got stationed at Tinker Air Force Base and was assigned to the organization where Shannon was working.

Why they decided to open a studio together: Chris and Shannon decided to combine their passion for fitness and nutrition, desire to change lives, and love of business. A family-run studio that focuses on strength, flexibility, cardio and nutrition was the perfect marriage.

How fitness has brought them closer: Because of their love of fitness, Chris and Shannon work together daily growing their business and connecting with their community. They take great pride in working with their neighbors. In helping others live healthy, active lives, they are fulfilling their life dream together.

Strength Training

Carlos and Marilenny Lopez
Owners of Westsmere Fitness in Houston

How they met: They’re high school sweethearts.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We always wanted to open a business in the health and fitness industry. We took the leap of faith.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “It has changed for sure. Our lives are busier now, with juggling regular jobs, the studio, and three young kids, ages 10, 5, and 2. We have become stronger together. She is my partner in crime.” — Carlos

Julie and Steven DiLeo
Owners of Women’s Fitness of Boston

How they met: They met after he moved in with Julie’s brother.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Fitness has always been part of our lives. As a personal trainer and fitness instructor with a background in business, this was a dream come true. My husband played semi-pro football for 16 years and is an all-around athlete and a carpenter, so we knew he had the skills to do any repairs and updates the club might need. We figured we could put our skills together to make a successful family business.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness keeps us both young and active. Our club is women-only, so my husband has been supportive in all the club updates, repairs and marketing efforts/ideas, and final decision making. I remain active in the day-to-day club duties, management, personal training and group fitness. Together we make a successful team. Outside of our business, my husband is always coaching our son in hockey or football and even basketball. You will find us at a rink, field or gym watching our son compete. Fitness has been a healthy influence on our son’s life, and many of my clients have watched him grow into a young, talented athlete.” — Julie

Natalie Joseph and Seth Daniel
Owners of Body Unlimited Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: Natalie decided to take a basic training course and was attracted to her instructor, Seth. They moved in together a month later, dated for three years and are engaged to be married.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We both believe that we need to build the future we seek. We opened this business together in an effort to educate people about true health and fitness, as we are bombarded by new fads and gimmicks every day. We want to help guide people in a direction that’s healthy for the mind and heart as well as the body. Balance is key, but most people in today’s world have no idea what that means or how to achieve it. We want to change that.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We have found that running a business together reveals our strengths in ways that allow us to harmonize in our actions. For example, I am great at leading the social interactions and making financial decisions within our gym, and Seth is a fantastic handyman and artist. We bounce ideas off of each other, and it’s like a magnified window into each other’s mind and heart, which is just plain cool. I think there is something to be said about opening a business out of love and running it with love. Every day I feel like I am a productive human being contributing something positive to this world.” — Natalie

John and Kelly King
Owners of South Coast CrossFit in Los Angeles

How they met: Before opening their studio, they both worked in real estate. Kelly was a marketing director and John was a Realtor.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We decided to open a studio while on our honeymoon June 2011. We opened February 2012. It is our dream to inspire change in others to leave this world better than we found it. We are succeeding at this dream through helping others find a love and appreciation for health and fitness. If you feel good, chances are you will also do some good. This year, our community provided 500 meals for orphaned children with HIV, and we donated holiday gifts to to six families. We also started a non-profit, Uplifting Lives, to provide fitness to less fortunate young adults and teens, to empower them with the choice to be involved in something productive.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We are the healthiest version of ourselves we can be. We are also surrounded by strong friendships from our community with people who prioritize fitness like we do to improve their quality of life. My husband and I are strongly connected and close. We sweat together and work together daily. What a blessing!” — Kelly

Miguel Novo and Stephanie Luciano
Owners of Novo Body Fitness in Los Angeles

How they met: They met at 24 Hour Fitness — it was love at first sight!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Miguel had been a personal trainer for a couple years as well as group instructor at other studios in Los Angeles, and it got to a point that his schedule was packed and he couldn’t take on more clients. The likely next step was to open his own studio. I had been a talent agent for 15 years and was ready for a change in lifestyle. I have been a fitness enthusiast my entire life. Everything just made sense for us.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We got married on May 3, 2014, opened Novo Body in February of 2015 and are expecting a baby end of March 2016. The last couple of years have been such a blessing. We love running the studio together. Miguel’s lead role is with the trainers, the training method and the clients. I handle the marketing and business side of things. We each have our own lane that we stay in, and it works so good for us. We are both crazy passionate about fitness and being healthy, and it’s a main focus in our lives. We are closer than ever being married and running the studio together.” — Stephanie

Crystal Greene-El Amin and Rashad El Amin
Owners of Foxy and Fierce Women’s Kickboxing Bootcamp in Los Angeles

How they met: They met nine years ago working at BB King Nightclub at Universal City Walk.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “I had been studying martial arts my whole life. I grew up in a dojo, my father and mother are both sixth degree black belts. I myself am a third degree black belt. Fourteen years ago, I discovered Muay Thai while trying to increase my skill and strength for a tournament. I fell in love with putting on boxing gloves and going hard on Thai pads, kicking and punching. When Rashad and I started dating, we would work out together, and we had a pair of pads we would train with. People would always tell me how they would love to do this type of workout. We felt like, you can! So we started a small bootcamp, and it has evolved into what it is now.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness has always been a part of our lives. Rashad and I both come from athletic backgrounds. He, a football player and track star. Me, a well-rounded basketball player and track athlete. Like most people in their early twenties, we would go out and have our share of cocktails and then try to get up in the morning fighting the usual hangover. But since opening the studio, instead of late night parties, we’re planning hikes and outdoor training sessions first thing in the morning. We are not just a couple but are equals and business partners. I feel that are relationship has only been strengthened by our commitment to a healthy lifestyle.” — Crystal

David and Dylan Schenk
Owners of Cross Train LA

How they met: David got on the treadmill next to Dylan and wouldn’t leave her alone.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “At first it was a move of desperation. I was newly pregnant and not able to work a ton of hours because of my extreme morning sickness. We needed passive income, and we needed to act quickly! Our original cross-training concept was conceptualized and executed in only three months and with less than — 20,000. It was really stressful at the time, but there’s no ‘perfect time’ to start a new business.”

How fitness brought them closer: “We have always worked together; that’s how we met. Owning our own studio was a natural progression for us. We are both equally passionate about exercise, health and fitness — and we got sick of working for other people. I’m stronger on the admin/sales/social media side of the business, where as Dave, a Division I college athlete, excels in program design, so it really works for us. We’ve got our whole family involved. Every day, our kids (ages 2 and 4) do their exercises, regardless of what sporting activities they had that day. We’ve got them practicing their counting while they count jumpsquats, hold handstands on the wall for 30 seconds, and rep out 10 pushups each. They love it, and it’s fun to do as a family!” — Dylan

Ray and Tara Wallace
Owners of FIT RxN in New York

How they met: At New York Sports Club.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We decided building 10 years together was better than building 10 years apart.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We have an incredible healthy and well-balanced relationship, both in and out of work. Fitness has provided a platform for us to grow together. Owning a business together and spending every day building toward our life goals is something we take great pride in as an example for our children.” — Tara

Earl and DeShay Williams
Owners of DEFINITIONS Personal Gym in Washington, D.C.

How they met: Earl opened Definitions in 1994 and shortly after started the first indoor cycling classes (now known as Cycle, Ride, Rev etc) in D.C. DeShay managed another gym and called to ask if she could try a class. She loved his class and thought both he and the class were fabulous. He felt the same about her. They hit it off personally and professionally, got married and have been running Definitions ever since.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We both love sports and fitness. It’s who we are, what we do and what we love. It makes us stronger individuals and it makes our relationship stronger. We work out together, collaborate on training programs together and can’t stop analyzing the posture of passers by while dining out. We’ve been through a lot. Earl said to me once, ‘I’m sure we can handle anything.’ I tear up every time I think about him saying that to me.” — DeShay

Alex and Nedra Mastosov
Owners of The P.E. Club in New York

How they met: Alex and Nedra met at Equinox seven years ago. They were both trainers and at first, didn’t like each other. He thought Nedra was ‘too nice’ and she thought Alex was a ‘know-it-all.’ That all changed when they fell in love.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “No matter how much we loved training with our clients in the park, their homes or other gyms, there seemed to be something missing. We decided to start a “club” where members were serious about their physical health, and take it a step further. Though P.E. stands for Physical Education, we wanted to be more, which is what gave way to our tagline: “It’s not Physical — It’s Personal.”

How fitness has brought them closer: Fitness has been an extremely important part of our lives. Not only is it our livelihood, but has kept us strong as a couple. It is not easy working alongside your spouse, especially when you own a fitness business together. I wouldn’t say it has changed our relationship, especially since it is how we met, but has helped us to overcome many obstacles together.” — Nedra

Jen and Jeff Crompton
Owners of Fuel Cycle Fitness in Philadelphia

How they met: They met through a mutual friend when they were both recently out of relationships. While Jen thought Jeff looked familiar, she couldn’t place it until they realized they both went to the same college and had the same friends, but never met. Until one night at a bar, that is.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Simply put, we wanted to make peoples’ lives better. We wanted to do something that made a difference and empower people to live happier and healthier lives. I was a cycle instructor since my days of unemployment and loved it ever since I got on the instructor bike, turned on my first microphone, and blasted my first playlist. When Jeff and I were preparing for our wedding, I came across a boxing studio and thought he could try it out with me. When we had the idea of doing something to make a difference, we knew that a fitness studio would be amazing — but we had to find the right offering in the right place. Since preparation for our wedding included a boxing, cycling, yoga regimen, I knew it was a great combination. We also had the idea that by combining these two exercises, we could coerce couples to get fit together — whether they both boxed or came to the studio and one boxed and one cycled — they could motivate and build accountability together. So, we did our research, built out the idea, and after finding the perfect space, launched our studio with three days of free classes on December 28, 2015!

How fitness has brought them closer: “It’s always been something deep-rooted in both of us since we were athletes our entire lives. But, taking on fitness together, that has helped us become a stronger couple in all senses. We are physically stronger and our relationship is stronger. Every day we work toward doing something amazing for ourselves and for others — and that’s what life is all about.” — Jen

Paul Rahn and Matheu Martell
Owners of SWEAT Chicago

How they met: They met when Matheu came to one of Paul’s classes. Though they had a mutual friend, Paul was so busy at the time that he hardly noticed Matheu. It wasn’t until his third class that he started to take note of the guy always asking questions. They finally figured out their mutual friend was trying to set them up, and the magic happened from there.

How fitness has brought them closer: “Doing this together has strengthened our relationship, as we both grow our own capabilities. We use each other for the ultimate form of support, we can be 100 percent raw with our weaknesses with each other, and most importantly help each other balance ourselves and our life. We are competitive, so while at times we are a lot to handle (literally I think sometimes people might be like ‘I can’t with you guys!’) we push each other because we want to look and feel our bests. We feel good when we know we are in sync with our bodies and this translates in how we handle ourselves daily!We love to laugh, and love to be stupid! This has become our ‘brand’ per say, making people smile and laugh while we are kicking their asses in our classes. I feel like everyday something happens where we just bust out laughing over what’s probably something not that funny! We take everything so light, and when times get heavy, all we have to do is give a big hug and everything seems much lighter! ” — Paul

Brian and Alyssa Delmonico
Owners of Circuit of Change in New York

How they met: Alyssa took Brian’s outdoor MindBody Bootcamp class the week before the Circuit of Change studio opened. She thanked him for class, gave him a hug and — in his words — that was it! They got married three months ago.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Brian created the method behind MindBody Bootcamp and opened the COC studio Fall 2011. I came in soon after and created our wellness and detox programs. After years of taking his class, loving everything about the unique style of movement, Brian trained me to teach. Our love, life and work has blended so magically together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Following our passion for health and fitness is what brought us together. It’s brought an amazing community of students and friends into our lives. We are so grateful that every single day we do what we love, and we get to share it with each other and the world. We have the opportunity to live and grow in an incredibly positive environment, and do our best to provide the same loving space for others. It’s been a beautiful journey and we’re beyond excited for what’s to come!” — Alyssa

Mike and Melanie
MPowered Bootcamp in San Francisco

How they met: They met at a high school football game 14 years ago. They started dating four years later and are now happily married.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We are both passionate about sports, fitness and helping people. Our favorite mantra is, If you can dream it, you can do it. It has been amazing making our dream come true together.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness brings us closer together. Our favorite activity is to work out together, and I fell even deeper in love with Mike once I started taking his bootcamp classes. Being active makes us both feel so good, and when we do it together it is even better. Our company name has special meaning to us. Both of our names start with the letter M, and we both want to empower our members to live happier and healthier lives!” — Melanie

Elissa El Hadj and Jeremy Abadom
Owners of FORM Studios in London

How they met: At the gym!

Why they decided to open a studio together: “We wholly believe in each other, complement each other and know that two heads are better than one. We enjoy each other’s company, and because health, fitness and well being is a great passion for both of us, what better way to spend your day — doing what you love, with the one you love!”

How has fitness brought them closer: “In a relationship, it’s vitally important that the couple enjoy hobbies together, as that is what builds and deepens the connection. As we both love fitness, in our free time, we can enjoy the same pursuits together, such as playing tennis, running, cycling, boxing or simply, training together at FORM or when we’re travelling, at the gym. Fitness has most definitely strengthened our relationship ,as it enables us to spend time and feel good together. That’s the beauty of fitness!” — Elissa

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Brittany and Michael Freeman
Owners of Tone Barre in Los Angeles

How they met: At Chapman University

Why they decided to open a studio together: “Because we were married. Kidding! Because the idea was something we were both passionate about, and we weren’t going to jump full force into something like opening a studio without one another. Working with your spouse definitely isn’t for everyone, but we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and we complement each other pretty well (we think!), which makes us such a great team. It can’t get much better than loving what you do and loving the people you do it with.”

How fitness brought them closer: “It has most definitely made our relationship stronger. Not only is it a common passion we share with respect to our studios, but it’s also something we can enjoy together outside the studio as well. From biking to running to long walks with our two furry dogs, much of our time off together is spent being active. When people ask what we do for fun, that’s pretty much it in a nutshell. We celebrate 10 years together in March!” — Brittany

Alessandro Moruzzi and Vehllia Tranne
Owners of The City Waves in San Francisco

How they met: Dancing.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “It’s a natural progression in our relationship. We love dancing and teaching together, and now we are creating community of like-minded people. We love it!”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We are active, have great energy throughout the day and support each other in improving our health. We both teach our classes alternately and together, with different style of teaching. We have different skills and focus in managing our studio.” — Vehllia

Brandon and Leah Castle
Owners of Jazzercise College Area in San Diego

How they met: On a blind date in college.

Why they decided to open a studio together: “I knew this could be a fun adventure for us. Brandon was not on board at first. It took him a few months to say yes. I am a stay at home mom and Navy wife, and knew I could be doing more with my life. I love teaching Jazzercise, and owning a studio was the next step for me. Brandon eventually said yes, because he knew I wanted to do this. He is a huge supporter of my dreams and came around.”

How fitness has brought them closer: “We enjoy every aspect of owning a fitness studio. We are closer and hope to do this as a full-time job once he retires. We have figured out how to run a business, to watch it struggle, watch it grow, and blossom into something our clients love coming to every day. He comes to classes and participates. I couldn’t imagine not doing it without him. Jazzercise is a women-dominated fitness industry, and he is helping other men see that this is a great way to work the body. Running a business takes a team, and I am beyond thankful that my husband is my business partner. I teach, pay bills and manage social media outlets, he does more behind the scenes stuff with advertising, plumbing, building new things or hanging banners. We are a great team!”
— Leah

Kate and Matt Gallagher
Owners of The Barre Code Evanston in Chicago

How they met: At a bar in Chicago.

How fitness has brought them closer: “Fitness and our studio has become our ‘baby.’ Every tiny aspect of the studio and our classes is so personal to us. Now that we are expecting our first child together, it makes it even more special that our studio, employees and clients are like family to us.” — Kate

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The hours you’ll spend getting ready on your wedding day will be epic, memorable, and very intimate. Getting your hair and makeup done, and finally putting on your wedding dress will be fun and lighthearted, intense, and emotional.

Now, who do you want to share this moment with? The most important thing to consider is the type of vibe you want. If you want a calming, Zen experience before you walk down the aisle, it’s OK to do this solo, or with just one or two friends or family members. Your hotel suite needn’t be Grand Central Station. But if quiet is not your thing, there’s no reason you shouldn’t party it up! Have your suite be like a sorority house getting ready for a Saturday night out, all of you sharing mascara and mirrors.

Who you invite into your suite will make a world of difference in your experience and the emotional tone of the room. So pick wisely.

What every bride does need is someone to run interference. A best friend — not a family member — who can really read your emotional state, who knows your history, and all the wacky and difficult members of your family. (Come on, we all have ’em…especially under the stress of a wedding.)

A few weeks before your wedding, ask this bridesmaid or BFF if she’s willing to play this role. Her job: to keep an eye on your emotional state and to act as buffer from all the crazy that will be coming your way that day. For example, is your stepmom on the critical side? Invite her to pop her head into your suite, then have your “buffer friend” politely show her the door after five minutes. Is the wedding planner pestering you with inane questions? Give your “buffer friend” a signal that you need some space and quiet. Is your hyperactive, anxious sister expelling her stress all over the bridal suite? Ask your “buffer friend” to deal with her, so her prickliness doesn’t really affect you on your wedding day.

There are no “shoulds” for whom you include in your getting-dressed experience. But a BFF acting as a buffer between you and all the wedding crazy will help you have the getting-ready experience you want.

See More: 10 Things You Can’t Forget to Do the Morning of Your Wedding

Allison Moir-Smith is a bridal counselor, expert in cold feet and engagement anxiety.

Is one of your BFFs a guy? That’s no reason to leave him out of your wedding party and all the pre-wedding festivities that go along with it! Instead, select him as a bridesMAN and add him to your bridal party gang. Of course, with a co-ed bridal party, there are a few things you should definitely keep in mind. Here are three things our experts want you to remember if you’ve chosen a bridesman.

You may need to change up the game plan.
Is your maid of honor so ready to throw you the lingerie shower of your dreams? Chances are your bridesman may not be comfortable in a room full of ladies while they shower you with lacey undies and bralettes. Instead, consider something a little more guy-friendly. That doesn’t mean it can’t be girly, but save that silky underwear party for another time.

His wardrobe should be a mix of the bridesmaids’ and the groomsmen’s.
If your ladies are wearing coral, and the groomsmen are wearing light gray, put your bridesman in a coordinating suit with a tie or pocket square to match your bridesmaids’ dresses. That way he’ll blend seamlessly into the wedding party photos while still matching the group in your bridal party pics.

He won’t need quite so much time to get ready.
Even if you’ve planned for you and your bridal party to spend the morning of your wedding being pampered and sipping champagne (and your bridesman wants to be part of the fun!), he may not have the patience for four hours of hair and makeup styling when all he needs is a quick shave and some hair gel. Schedule your morning a little more intentionally, with mimosas and breakfast before the primping begins so he can join you and then head out for a few hours before it’s time for pictures. You could also ask him to pick up lunch on his way over, then spend an hour or so with you all before it’s time to put on your wedding dress.

See more: Bridesman Duties: Everything Your Man of Honor Needs to Know