Alyssa and Mike Angolia first met in college and fell in love. Apart from traveling, craft beer and other common interests, they also found that working out together was one of their favorite pastimes. Spending time together getting fit not only helped them get in killer shape, but brought them closer, too.

After they graduated, they did a tour of Asia for several months and then settled into jobs — first in North Carolina and then in Los Angeles. It was in L.A. that they discovered they both liked the same type of fitness classes and it was a nice change from the same-ole’ rut of the gym.

They tied the knot and then moved to New York City where they found ClassPass. Now, they go to several classes a week — from hot yoga to boxing — and they both agree it’s made their marriage much stronger. And you know, hot and sweaty.

Here’s how:

ClassPass: How do you decide what classes to take together? What are some of your favorite class types?
Alyssa: Mike is usually open to anything, so deciding on a class to take isn’t terribly difficult. We tend to favor boxing, kickboxing and bootcamps since they are a very comprehensive and competitive workout. But, since Mike has a history with Tae Kwon Do (and with that comes flexibility), he has a surprising enthusiasm for Bikram Yoga.

CP: How do you talk each other into taking new classes?
Mike: Over time we have learned a lot about what the other person likes and try to incorporate a good mix of interests into our workouts. We are always throwing out new ideas for things to try, and having Alyssa push me to step outside my comfort zone, and vice versa, keeps things interesting and motivating.

CP: How has fitness strengthened your relationship? What you have learned about one another and about your relationship?
Alyssa: It’s cliche to say that “a couple that works out together, stays together!” but it is a really great activity to do with your significant other. We both encourage each other throughout the workouts and it feels good to see how strong your partner can be! During the classes, when you just want to give up and really can’t see yourself doing one more push-up, seeing Mike struggling just as much, but knowing that we are struggling together gives me all the strength I need to bang it out. Plus, it doesn’t hurt to know that you will be seeing each other naked in the shower afterwards…

Mike: It’s taught me that there’s nothing Alyssa can’t do if she puts her mind to it, and that she looks amazing in yoga pants!

CP: Has working out together changed your perspective of one another? Is it a turn on for you?
Mike: I think that working out together has given me a deeper appreciation for Alyssa’s toughness and determination. It’s also given me an appreciation for her right hook and the knowledge that that’s something I have to watch out for!

Alyssa: It is certainly is a turn on to see him all hot and sweaty beating up a boxing bag.

CP: What advice would you give to couples who want to try to make fitness a bigger part of their relationship? What are some easy ways to get started?
Alyssa: Every couple should workout together – you’re both getting fit and exercise makes you happier in every part of your life. We started with going with the gym and then talked about different things we wanted to try together. You won’t always agree on the class, but give each other a chance. I didn’t really want to do kickboxing in the beginning, but once I compromised and gave in to one class I was hooked! Now I’m begging Mike to do more boxing classes with me!

Mike: Find what work for both of you and then use each other to keep the other person accountable. Once it’s a routine it becomes much easier to stick with it. And dudes, give yoga a shot. It’s not so bad, it’s actually pretty awesome.

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Chances are, from the time you got engaged you’ve been doodling your new initials, and your new monogram. So when it comes time to register for wedding gifts, embrace the new moniker that will symbolize the joining of you and your soon-to-be husband. From sheets to glasses, check out our favorite monogrammed items to add to your wedding registry.

Bedding
You’re sharing a bed and all that comes with it — pillows, sheets, etc. So, you may as well mark your newly shared territory with your merged monogram. Whether you’re looking for a subtle nod to your intertwined initials or a full on display, there are tons of options when it comes to personalizing your bedding. Restoration Hardware offers personalization services on most of their bedding options for a small fee, as does Pottery Barn and tons of other retailers. Consider personalizing the corners of pillowcases, fold-down area of top sheets, or make the design the focal point of your comforter / duvet cover. (Italian Hotel Satin Stitch Ivory Sheet Set, $29-135, Restoration Hardware)

Bar & Drinkware
Raise a glass to your new name — literally. Monogramming your favorite glasses is a fun way to add a bit of uniqueness and sentiment to your bar cart, wine rack, or wherever you store your stemware! (You’ll definitely want to display these!) Bed Bath and Beyond‘s Susquehanna Lace glasses can be customized in a variety of fonts and designs to suit your personal style. Target also carries a wide range of pieces to sport your new initials, from personalized mini-mason jar shot glasses, whiskey glasses and pitchers, too. For coffee and tea lovers, Anthropologie‘s initial mugs are a fun way to begin your day. (Homegrown Monogram Mug, $5, Anthropologie)

Towels
While bathroom items may be the last thing you think of when it comes to personalization, embroidering towels with your new moniker is a perfect way to make your towels uniquely yours. (Practical yet indulgent décor? Yes please!) Be reminded of your perfect wedding day with monogrammed towels by designer Avanti, available at Macy’s in a variety of hues to match any scheme. Bed Bath & Beyond also offers the “Personalize This” option for their towels, with color and embroidery options for one to three initials. (Avanti Bath Towel, starting at $9.99, Macy’s)

Tabletop & Décor
Coasters, runners, and candleholders, oh my! There are so many options for fun customization when it comes to your tabletop and décor. Pottery Barn carries a plethora of placemats, napkins and napkin rings partner to form the perfect set up your dining room tablescape and complete the look with a monogrammed hurricane to hold your favorite candles. (Linen Hemstitch Napkin and Placemat, $48 – $60, Pottery Barn)

Just remember this pro tip: While it may be tempting to splash your new monogram over anything and everything you can, try to show some restraint. By selecting just a few monogrammed pieces to add to your housewares and décor, you’ll add a dash of classic personalization to your home together without “labeling” everything you own. Remember, less is more!

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Planning your wedding means paying attention to lots of little details — the flowers, the place cards, the menu, the playlist. The list goes on and on. But what about the wedding ceremony script? Aside from the order of your bridal party, how much control do you have over what gets said on your big day? It all depends on the type of wedding you’re having.

A religious wedding is always a great ceremony option for brides and grooms, not matter how devout the couple might be, but if you’re looking for a lot of leniency in the script, it may not be the way to go. Many religions have a specific order to the ceremony, and traditions or prayers that are followed at every wedding. However, there are still a few ways to tailor your religious wedding ceremony to you. First, schedule a few meetings with your officiant in the months leading up to the wedding. Allowing your officiant to get to know you and your fiancé on a personal level means that they’ll be able to speak about the two of you more in the ceremony. You can also request specific prayers or psalms that are special to you. In fact, adding a reading from a friend or family is a great way to personalize your religious wedding script. Just check with your officiant to make sure there are no parameters you need to follow in your house of worship first.

A non-denominational wedding, depending on your religious beliefs and officiant, may be the way to go if you want maximum control over your wedding day. Interview officiants and ask if you can work together on the script. This way you ask for changes, and specify the ceremony’s order and any traditions — religious, personal, or custom — you’d like to include. If your officiant is open to it, ask to review their script before the wedding. That way, you can make any changes to anything you don’t like and any additions you want to see.

If you’re getting married by a friend or family member, tread lightly. While a friend may be more open to your requests, they also might feel that the honor of marrying you means they can tailor the script to fit their perception of you two as a couple. If control is something you crave, discuss how much you want to be involved when you ask your friend or family member to do the honors. Knowing ahead of time how the dynamic will play out could save your friendship — and your wedding day.

See More: How to Create Your Own Wedding Ceremony From Scratch

Nobody enters into a marriage believing it’ll end in divorce. Yet some marriages end this way. While there’s no surefire way to know which marriages will last and which are headed for divorce, there’s one group of people who have observed some trends: divorce lawyers.

Here are some factors that might predict the length of a marriage, according to the people who have witnessed them fall apart.

1. The price of your engagement and wedding
Weird but true: According to an Emory University study, people who pay more than $20,000 for an engagement ring are three and a half times more likely to get a divorce than those who spend under $10,000. Former divorce lawyer and Wevorce founder Michelle Crosby has observed this with her own clients. “Those brides that blindly focus more on the ring, the dress, and the party instead of the importance of what it takes to have a healthy partnership are more likely to one day sell that ring to pay for their divorce,” she says. Divorce lawyer James J. Sexton agrees. “There’s a joke among divorce lawyers that the expense of the divorce is generally proportionate to the expense of the wedding,” he says.

2. How long you’ve been together
The movie The Seven Year Itch is based on a real phenomenon: Census Bureau data show that couples are most likely to get divorced around seven years of marriage. At this point, Crosby says, “couples are no longer excited by their relationship, and all those idiosyncrasies that were initially endearing become intolerable over time.” Other studies, however, have suggested there’s really more of a four-year itch. Either way, the longer you’ve been together, the more your partnership has proved itself.

See more: Drew Barrymore Opens Up About How She’s Dealing With Her Divorce: “You Put One Foot in Front of the Other”

3. Your age difference
It’s becoming more common for women to marry younger men, but for whatever reason, these marriages seem less likely to last. One study found that women three or more years older than their husbands are 53 percent more likely to get divorced than those who are just one year older or up to three years younger. Crosby can also confirm this one. “We’ve found that if a woman is much older than her husband, they are more likely to get divorced,” she says. Sexton has actually seen this work the other way around, though, with older husbands and younger wives. “When people with an age difference marry, they need to think more about what that difference will look like in 10 or 20 years and less about what that difference looks like during courtship,” he says.

4. Whether you’ve rolled your eyes at each other
One study analyzed couples’ conversations and found that when they showed signs of contempt, like eye-rolling, they were more likely to end up divorced. Crosby recommends a “five-to-one ratio” to undo the effects of contempt: “For every negative interaction, you need to compensate with five positive exchanges with your partner.”

See more: This Chart Will Tell You Your Likelihood of Getting Divorced

5. Your incomes
Several studies have found that money is one of the leading causes of stress and conflict in relationships. Maybe that’s why lower-income couples are more likely to divorce. Sexton says having two very different incomes or socioeconomic backgrounds can also put a strain on a marriage. When you watch marriages fall apart, he says, “you see a trend where one party was raised in a household with resources sufficient to enjoy ‘the finer things’ and the other was raised with less.”

That’s not to say, of course, that you’ll get divorced if any of these things apply to you. But it’s possible that they’ll present challenges that you and your spouse will have to work through, and preparing for them can’t hurt.

See more: Wedding Guests Reveal the Moment They Knew the Bride and Groom Would Get Divorced

Looking for some bachelorette party inspiration? It’s time to reconsider a classic bachelorette party destination — Las Vegas! Vegas is known for its over-the-top everything. The hotels aren’t just places to sleep, they’re pleasure palaces with nightclubs, gaming, shows, and more. And the restaurants aren’t just places to eat, they’re culinary destinations where celebrity chefs produce extravagant creations and dining is a spectacle. In the last decade, Vegas has become one of the top dining destinations in the world, and a one-stop shop for anyone looking to sample from the world’s top chefs. For foodies, Vegas offers plenty to do for a bachelorette weekend or a girls’ trip — even if you don’t want to set foot in a casino.

Where to eat:
Vegas has no shortage of incredible restaurants lining the Strip — and beyond. From classic diner food to refined French gastronomy, there’s something for everyone. Figure out what kind of cuisine appeals to you, or which celebrity chef’s food you want to try, and narrow down your selections from there.

You’ll find most of the big name chefs represented in Sin City: Bobby Flay, Tom Colicchio, Gordon Ramsay, Thomas Keller, Wolfgang Puck, Emeril Lagasse, Giada De Laurentiis, and many, many more. Renowned chef Jose Andres has a number of restaurants scattered up and down the Strip. For a lively girls’ night out, head to Jaleo at the sexy Cosmopolitan hotel for Spanish tapas, paella, and craft cocktails, including the chef’s twist on gin and tonics.

On weekends, don’t miss brunch at Michael Mina’s Parisian-style bistro, Bardot. While the dinner selections are equally decadent and delicious, it’s brunch that’s the star. Along with temptingly rich dishes like the hunter’s waffle (poached eggs and duck confit on a waffle draped in rich Maltaise sauce), croque madame, and croissant Benedicts with lobster or smoked salmon, diners can opt to add a bottomless glass of rosé wine to the experience for just $20.

When it’s time for dinner, stick around for classic Italian in a sophisticated setting at Carbone, or wander down the strip for traditional French bistro fare at Mon Ami Gabi, or inventive interpretations of Chinese cuisine at Mr Chow.

Tip: Las Vegas restaurants are often huge, seating hundreds of diners, but the best ones do fill up. Be sure to make reservations early for your top choices. If you can’t snag a table at a place you’re dying to try and you’re traveling with smaller crew, consider going earlier in the evening and scoring seats at the bar. And if you’re traveling with ‘maids on a smaller budget, consider dining at the more expensive places for lunch, when prices are lower.

What to do in between meals:
Even with three meals a day, there’ll still be some downtime in the schedule of any food-centric trip to Vegas. If avoiding the casinos is a priority, it’s easy to find other activities that will do more than just kill time.

Check out a bit of Las Vegas history at the Neon Boneyard, an outdoor collection of some of the city’s most iconic old neon signs. One-hour tours are offered every day (and night) and the docents share secrets and insider knowledge of the city’s history, from its heyday to today. Tours often sell out, so be sure to book in advance.

For a bird’s-eye view of the Strip, take a spin on the High Roller, one of the city’s newer attractions. The 28 glass-enclosed pods on the 520-foot ferris wheel take 30 minutes to complete one full revolution, so you have plenty of time to admire the views. Pods hold up to 40 people, and it’s possible to reserve a pod for your group, or book the Happy Half Hour experience; the ticket includes an open bar with unlimited beer and mixed drinks inside the cabin.

To take your own cooking skills to the next level, learn from the best with a private cooking class at Guy Savoy. The classes are available for up to six people and take place in the Guy Savoy kitchen with Executive Chef Julien Asseo, who walks students through the creation of two dishes, such as a carrot-ginger soup with poached egg, and an herb-crusted rack of lamb with stuffed pasta. Along the way, the charming Chef Asseo gives student tips on chopping, poaching the perfect egg, making herb-infused olive oil, and much more—all in a patient, clear, and easy-going way that immediately puts students at ease. If you’ve ever wanted to spend time in one of the world’s best kitchens and get one-on-one instruction from a top chef, the class is a worthy investment. Bonus: at the end, students get to eat their creations, plus dessert, paired with wine.

Where to stay:
The boutique Cromwell is the perfect place for those looking to avoid much of the casino scene. Unlike at some Strip hotels, where reaching your room means a 30-minute walk through the smoky casino, at the Cromwell it’s just a minute or two from the lobby to the hotel elevators. And unlike large hotels, where the check-in area is a mob scene, the small size of the Cromwell—it has just 188 rooms—ensures a more personal experience without a lengthy wait. The rooms are decked out in sexy Parisian décor, with dark wood floors, leather headboards, and vintage touches, like luggage-inspired dressers. Room service is provided by Giada’s and there’s an onsite pool and nightclub, Drai’s. The lobby bar, Bound, serves excellent craft cocktails in a relaxed setting, and guests are treated to a complimentary glass of champagne.

If you’d prefer a bit more action without all the trappings of the biggest casinos, the ARIA is another great option. With a perfect location mid-Strip, dozens of great restaurants (like the aforementioned Bardot), multiple lounges, and commanding views of the Strip from every room, it’s a swanky option perfect for those who want to avoid some of the Sin City fray without sacrificing a luxury experience.

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When it comes to unique proposal ideas, we’ve seen our fair share. But Michael DiMeo’s flash mob proposal to his boyfriend during a dodgeball game may just take the cake — and definitely will have you crying some happy tears.

It started as a normal day in Pittsburgh as any dodgeball tournament would. However, DiMeo had bigger plans for his boyfriend, Angelo. He created a plan to propose during the tourney that would make Vince Vaughn and Ben Stiller jealous, sharing on his YouTube page about the event. “[Angelo] has no idea he’s about to see a group of his friends start dancing to some of his favorite songs. But why wasn’t he invited to dance?!?!” The reason, of course, is because Angelo is about to get engaged.

DiMeo executed the heart-warming proposal to his boyfriend perfectly, having his friends join in the dodgeball game to play the (surprisingly) competitive sport — and then turning into a flash mob, according to New Now Next. The group performed several songs including “I’m Your Baby Tonight” by Whitney Houston and “G.U.Y.” by Lady Gaga (complete with some swing dancing), and then DiMeo, ready to pop the question, entered in a full suit (even though proposing in dodgeball gear would have been just as cute).

Once in the gym, he and the rest of the flash mob danced to “Trumpets” by Jason Derulo before finishing out with the obvious choice, “Marry You,” by Bruno Mars. Cue all the feels!

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And we’re not the only ones crying, that’s for sure. It’s clear that unsuspecting Angelo is totally feeling the love, as he is seen throughout the video covering his mouth and weeping in surprise. At the end of the serenade, DiMeo’s friend hands him flowers as he brings his beau to the center of the gym and asks him the question anyone in love wants to hear, “I love you, you mean the world to me. Will you marry me?” The two lock in an embrace as the crowd cheers, and well, the rest is history. It’s too cute to be true, really.

“He had no idea this was coming and his reaction was everything I had hoped for, priceless! To all the people who helped me put this event together, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you friends, thank you family and thank you Stonewall Sports Pittsburgh! Here’s to a new chapter! I love you all!” DiMeo shared on his YouTube page.

Watch the adorable video below.

Jessica Hendricks, founder of the jewelry company The Brave Collection, and Patrick Yee, Executive Vice President of Marketing and Strategy for Refinery29, have Elton John to thank for their meeting — his music, at least! “We were out at a mutual friend’s birthday party at a karaoke bar and I shamelessly sang ‘Tiny Dancer,'” Jessica says. “Patrick came over afterwards and wanted to meet me!” The pair dated long distance (he was living in Los Angeles while she called New York home) until January 31, 2015, when Patrick popped the question during a weekend getaway in Palm Springs, a locale Jessica had come to love during their years of dating. “I fell madly in love with the wild desert landscape, something I had never seen as a New Yorker!”

While the couple knew they’d return to Palm Springs for their nuptials, it was important to Jessica and Patrick that they find a venue that was special enough for justify asking more than half of their 156-person guest list to fly across the country to celebrate. “We wanted a space that felt lush and otherworldly that was private and would feel almost like an overgrown dinner party at home,” Jessica says. And they found all that and more in the Casa de Monte Vista, located in the heart of Palm Springs. They worked with Beau & Arrow Events to plan a warm, inclusive, and magical event — with a dash of bohemian elegance — and when they tied the knot on February 27, 2016, the final result was nothing short of spectacular. But don’t take our word for it. Read on to see every seriously stunning photo of this couple’s day, as captured by Logan Cole.

The bride spent the morning getting ready with her nine bridesmaids, all of whom donned pink floral robes. “Just before the wedding, I also gave each girl a custom bracelet that I created especially for them with my artisan partners in Cambodia from my jewelry line,” Jessica says. Each bracelet included a compass-shaped pendant and a card that read, “I would be lost without you. No matter which direction our journeys take us, we will be forever connected.”

Then, the ladies (who each had their hair pulled halfway up and adorned with a different arrangement of flowers) changed into their blush Amsale gowns and then helped Jessica slip on her corded lace Katie May wedding dress.

“I always envisioned my wedding dress as sort of a slip,” the bride says. “I wanted something comfortable, slinky, and very fitted on my small frame. I began looking at the more fashionable, anti-cupcake designers but didn’t find anything truly special.” Jessica admits she was both thrilled and relieved when she found a style she didn’t want to take off, saying this look felt like a second skin and incredibly luxurious and chic.

In addition to a lace-trimmed veil, Jessica carried a wild, desert-inspired bouquet of orchids, lotus seeds, jasmine, hellebores, tuberoses, and ferns.

The groom looked charming in his midnight blue suit from Canali, which he paired with a white shirt and silk tie. Just like his bride’s flowers, Patrick’s boutonniere channeled the Palm Springs aesthetic: an air plant, jasmine, and mini succulent were the perfect finishing touches for his attire.

The couple shared a private first look, then met up with their wedding party for pre-ceremony portraits. Patrick’s groomsmen all wore gray pants and a white shirt and silk tie to match the groom. “They looked clean and relaxed,” Jessica says. “We didn’t find it necessary to subject our friends to suit jackets in the desert heat, and we liked the casual look of no dinner jackets.”

Instead of traditional bouquets, bridesmaids carried two styles of arrangements: an orchid with a Strobilanthes leaf, or a pale coral Anthurium with a Philodendron leaf.

As the bride’s attendants walked down the aisle, an acoustic guitarist performed Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon.” Then, as Jessica and her father walked her down the aisle, the musician switched over to Elton John’s “Tiny Dancer,” a nod to the song that first brought the couple together.

Jessica and Patrick chose to keep the ceremony purposefully simple: “We wanted the incredible spiritual symbolism of the chuppah to speak for itself, so we kept the design very simple with wooden poles, an ivory cloth, and base pots filled with simple greens,” the bride says.

The ceremony was incredibly personalized, with lots of intimate and heartfelt additions to the typical structure. “We worked with our officiant several times in the months leading up to the wedding, discussing and realizing what we value most about our relationship, where our strengths and weakness as a couple lie, and what sort of union and family we hoped to build,” Jessica says. For their vows, the bride and groom chose to share a modern take on a passage from the Torah between Ruth and Naomi. They also wrote a “Lover’s Covenant,” or contemporary version of a Ketubah, that outlined their promises to each other. It was signed before the ceremony and then read aloud for guests to hear.

To close out the proceedings, immediately after the couple’s first kiss, Jessica and Patrick’s DJ began playing “Pata Pata” by Miriam Makeba. “It created an impossible joyful feeling,” the bride says.

When it came to their reception décor, the bride was clear about just one thing: absolutely no roses. “I don’t like overly sweet or overly perfect florals, but rather I love a more wild, tropical, asymmetrical, and textural arrangement,” says Jessica. “We used a mix of desert flowers, lusciously fragrant jasmine, exotic anthurium, and hellebore, and vibrant sliced tropical fruit to create a lush oasis.”

Long tables were arranged on a patio, where a mix of low, gold vessels covered white linens. Palms and fresh fruit, along with fruit-covered trees and lots of glowing café lights, lent a tropical vibe to the reception.

Guests enjoyed a family-style dinner of farmer’s market salad, slow-roasted sustainable salmon, seared flank steak with poblano chile butter, marinated baby broccoli, and sautéed farro, along with three signature cocktails — Yeez Squeeze, a caipirinha, Love at First Sigh, a paloma, and Gypsy Jessica, rosé punch.

Dessert included a three-tiered almond wedding cake with vanilla buttercream and a selection of mini sweets. One of the flower girls could barely contain her excitement upon seeing the decadent spread!

The newlyweds shared their first dance to Neil Young’s “Harvest Moon,” but with a surprise twist. “It started with that lovely and sweet tune, until the music began to change unexpectedly,” Jessica says. “We looked around, perplexed and everyone clearly had that uh oh moment until we launched into a highly choreographed and oh-so-rehearsed flash mob dance with six of our friends.” To pull it off, Jessica and Patrick swore the dancers to secrecy, ensuring that their dates, spouses, and families had no idea when they jumped onto the dance floor.

Following their big day, the new Mr. and Mrs. Yee enjoyed a minimoon at the St. Regis in Punta Mita, Mexico, and then took a ten-day trip to Japan a few months later. “If you can, split your budget between two or even three events instead of saving all of our pennies for one perfect night,” Jessica tells future brides. “For us, that meant a Mexican Fiesta on Friday night where we paired each guest up with another person we knew they’d hit it off with. Then we had the wedding, and a Sunday brunch, where everyone could relax and we could take photos with all of those we guests we didn’t have a chance to on Saturday night.”

Ceremony & Reception Catering: Case de Monte Vista || Wedding Planner: Beau & Arrow Events || Bride’s Wedding Dress & Veil: Katie May || Hair: Diana Campos || Makeup: The Heart of Makeup || Bridesmaids’ Dresses: Amsale || Groom’s Attire: Rothman’s || Groomsmen’s Attire: Bonobos || Flowers: Honey & Poppies || Invitations: Nightingale Handmade || Guest Book: Artifact Uprising || Music: Dart DJ || Catering: Little Nelly || Cake: Over the Rainbow Cupcakes and Desserts || Rentals: Signature Rentals || Photographer: Logan Cole

Can’t get enough of this couple’s pretty celebration? Then we bet you’ll love watching another bride and groom tie the knot in a boho wedding, seen below.

Getting engaged and planning a wedding is so exciting, how could you NOT share your enthusiasm on social media? But while some things, like ring selfies and engagement pictures, are great to share on Instagram, there are other moments you should probably keep to yourselves. Our experts rounded up a few things you really shouldn’t share about your wedding planning process.

Being engaged is all sunshine and daisies, right? Wrong. While it’s mostly full of love and excitement, planning a wedding comes with its fair share of stress, too. And it’s those stressful moments that you’ll want to think twice about before you take to Facebook. Fighting with your parents about the budget or having a disagreement with your mother-in-law about who will sit where? Keep the drama to yourself. Wedding planning or not, these moments are too personal and controversial to share with the world, and you could come across as ungrateful if the heat of the moment overwhelms your common sense. That’s not even considering the long-term impact airing this dirty laundry could have on your relationship — since you’re probably friends with half your fiancé’s family on Facebook at this point!

In fact, anything budget-related should really stay private. Sure, that awesome DIY project you completed is a great topic to share, but if the reason you learned calligraphy is because you couldn’t stomach the cost of hiring a pro, save that detail for yourself.

You should also think twice about sharing anything too intimate. Doing a boudoir shoot as a surprise for your groom? You probably don’t want pictures of you in lingerie floating around the web! And while you might be thrilled to wake up next to your brand new husband (as you should be!), skip the suggestive in-bed selfie and instead have a friend snap a pic once you’re both at your morning-after brunch and have had a little coffee — then have fun with those new Snapchat filters!

For anything you do decide to post, restraint is key. Instead of flooding friends’ feeds with a dozen posts from your tasting or your quest to find the perfect wedding shoes, edit your album down to a few select pictures that will hint at what’s to come without giving away every detail before your wedding day arrives.

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If there’s anyone who understands that it’s easy to get a little overwhelmed whilst planning the wedding of your dreams, it’s us at BRIDES. But sometimes, the stress of making every single detail absolutely perfect can make you go a wee bit cuckoo in the head, consequently ruining relationships in the process. So before you scream at your wedding planner about the table linens or your soon-to-be husband about not being involved enough in the decision making, take a look at these squirm-worthy bride/groomzilla horror stories — sourced from Reddit, of course — to bring you down to earth when all of the wedding planning stress becomes too much.

The total knockout:

“Friend is a photographer. Does weddings. Got punched in the face by the groom because the groom decided that the photographer was ‘taking too many photos of the bride.’ Weddings seem to bring out the worst in humanity.” — @BANNEDFROMALAMO

And a too-funny-to-not-share response to the above story: “Was he territorial jealous ‘hey that’s MY WIFE keep your eyes off’ or selfish jealous ‘hey, it’s MY WEDDING TOO why only take pictures of the girl in the multi thousand dollar dress?'”

The irrational bride:

“A bride once called having a meltdown because her friend got engaged as well and was planning to get married in the same year as she was. Apparently it was her special year and not just a day. She threw a huge fit that this girl was only getting married to ‘steal her thunder.’ Yes, because no one else can have a life at the same time as you. Her friend’s date wasn’t even in the same month or season. Hers was in October and her friend’s was in June. Brides sometimes don’t think rationally.”

The big blowup:

“I’m booking a wedding at my store — young couple comes in and is picking stuff out. As usual the guy is pretty ‘I don’t care about things.’ Brides are never happy about this attitude. We go through for a bit, but when it comes to picking vest styles they get into a huge argument right in front of me and my colleague. Eventually, the groom throws up his hands and says ‘If we can’t decide what colors then we just shouldn’t get married!’ And walks out the door and leaves in his car. The girl starts crying in our store while we are just bewildered. My colleague asked if she was ok. She said she was having someone come pick her up and walked out the door crying. Never saw them again. Hands down a famous story in our store.”

The (almost) runaway bride:

“My friend is the wedding planner I’m telling this story about. He is a good looking, straight male that has an amazing eye for design and detail. He can do everything from wedding dress design and execution, flowers, you name it. And his services are not cheap. He had a bride who called him up a few days before her wedding and told him she couldn’t go through with the wedding because she was in love with someone else. The conversation went something like this:
Bride: ‘I can’t marry him, I just don’t love him anymore, I think I’m in love with someone else!’
Him: ‘What do you mean you’re in love with someone else!? Your wedding is in 5 days!’
Bride: ‘Well, I’m in love with you. You just GET me! I’ve never met anyone else like you!’
Him: ‘Do you know how much your parents are paying me to get you?!’
She ended up getting married 5 days later and it was never mentioned again.”

The momzilla:

“I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last summer [and] no matter what the bride (one of my closest friends) and I settled on for various plans, I’d get condescending, cruel emails from her mother about how selfish I was and how I had to realize that the wedding wasn’t all about me. (i.e. The time that I rented a car, drove out early last minute to help set up for the shower her mom was hosting, hosted it basically myself while her mom sat in the other room drinking with her aunt the whole time, cleaned up at 3 p.m. when everyone started to leave, but had to leave at 4:30 to get my car rental back in time, which I’d already cleared with the bride. Apparently, I am the epitome of selfish for this transgression.) Her mom also wore a pale silver sparkly ballgown with a tiara to the wedding. So. That was a sight.”

The baby daddy:

“Wedding DJ here and it wasn’t the bride, this was a groomzilla. For some reason the newlyweds decided to invite the bride’s son’s father. The dance floor cleared early and everyone was in the photo booth or outside smoking and drinking. Except the baby daddy and the groom. They’re sitting at a table alone and appear to be having a raucous, laughing conversation. Only, oh no, their faces are getting angry looking. Groom now has his finger in the daddy’s chest, ‘HE CALLS ME DAD NOW! I’M HIS FATHER!’ Groomsmen come running in to hold them both back. Groom flips the freaking table over. Bride is now in tears. Magical.”

Check out the rest of the cringe-worthy stories here — and promise us you’ll never, EVER be one of these people.

As if choosing an engagement ring style — before you subtly start dropping hints to your boyfriend of course — isn’t daunting enough, the process instantly becomes even more overwhelming if you’re an environmentally conscious bride on the prowl for an earth-friendly and conflict-free ring. So how do you find a ring that stays true to both your style and ethics? With our eco-friendly ring shopping tips, of course!

Do Your Research
Make sure your ring meets the Kimberly Process Certification Scheme, which tries to make tracking your gems possible and ensures you aren’t buying a “blood diamond.” Don’t be shy — ask your jeweler if they take part in this agreement and talk to them about the stone’s origins. Brilliant Earth, Bashford Jewelry, and Erica Courtney are few of many jewelers known to use conflict-free gems.

Look for Recycled
On that note, there’s a host of jewelers dedicated to providing eco-friendly options, including recycled engagement rings. Recycled gold is very popular — once gold is melted and refined, it takes on the quality of a new mineral. Head to NoDirtyGold.org for a list of jewelers who support responsible gold mining.

Pick Vintage
This is the perfect option for the vintage-loving bride-to-be. While it may be difficult to trace a gem’s origins in a used ring or a family heirloom, the odds of a vintage ring coming with ethical baggage aren’t as high — and buying a ring already in existence means you won’t be funding current conflict. Check out local antique stores or Doyle & Doyle, which hand picks vintage, antique, and estate pieces.

Go Synthetic
Despite the stigma of “fake,” there’s nothing wrong with a synthetic substitute. In fact, synthetic stones are becoming an increasingly popular and modern option. Take moissanite for example, which has a much smaller carbon footprint and meets the highest environmental standards. Lab-created, this gem has a brilliance all of its own.

Get Colorful
Another modern option and growing trend is a colored gemstone, which may suit your style even more than a diamond would. However, these aren’t always completely ethically sourced — even though their environmental impact is less harsh, there are still consequences. Again, look at a lab-made creation and use the Kimberly Process Certification Scheme.

Looks like all it takes to finding the perfect eco-friendly stylish ring is a little investigation!

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