Marriage troubles, what? Looks like Beyoncé and Jay Z are in total paradise to us! The music industry power couple spent this weekend on a total jealousy-inducing island getaway with their 4-year-old daughter, Blue Ivy, and, natch, Bey shared photos of the entire oceanside extravaganza on her website. Don’t you have a photographer follow you around on your vacays? Yeah, thought so.

The family of three looked like they were having all kinds of fun in the sun during their Hawaiian vacation, Entertainment Tonight reports, with Blue Ivy playing in the picture-perfect sand, Bey and Jay Z canoodling on the surf-covered rocks, even some cute snaps of Jay Z dancing and playing with his daughter. All the while, Beyoncé looks completely flawless in a one-piece tropical swimsuit and flower crown. These snaps are making us seriously consider a flashy one piece for our honeymoon…

We’ve got to admit these adorable family snaps (see more below) come as a breath of fresh air since the singer dropped her visual album Lemonade on us in April. Rumors swirled that Jay Z had been having extra-marital affairs with fashion designer Rachel Roy (who some fans actually ended up confusing with Rachael Ray, the famous Food Network chef, funny story). Such infidelity speculation led many to believe that one of our favorite celebrity couples were headed straight for divorce. But the rumors began to die down a little bit after Beyoncé started her world tour and thanked her “beautiful husband” onstage in front of her fans. If a couple was about to split, that’d probably be the last thing from their mouths, right? And these tropical vacay pics of this too-cute family basically put the nail in the coffin on those rumors. Bam!

While Lemonade’s genius gave us a heart attack that these two were splitting up, we can’t be too mad at the visual album. Besides being, well, brilliant, the hour-long visual album featured never-before-seen videos of their wedding. Eeek!!

The footage of Beyoncé and Jay Z’s 2008 nuptials have been kept totally under wraps, so obviously we were jumping for joy when we spotted the power couple, with Bey in her wedding dress and veil, cutting their wedding cake, feeding it to each other and sharing a sweet wedding-day kiss — icing and all. These two just couldn’t be sweeter — just look at their sweet vacation pics below.

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There’s a lot of good relationship advice going around. But some pieces of advice, even from well-meaning sources, should simply be ignored. Here are six of them.

1. You should stop seeing him.
Before you blindly take this advice, consider this: “What your friends think you need and want and what you’re actually looking for may be very different,” says Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. “Before listening to their opinions and being swayed by them, ask them about their concerns and then reflect on them for yourself. Make a decision based on whether these concerns bother you or not.”

2. If you argue with your partner, the relationship is unhealthy.
Rachel Needle, Psy.D, clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist based in West Palm Beach, Florida, says there’s nothing wrong with arguing in a relationship. “In fact, it’s normal,” she says. “When we disagree it allows us to communicate with our partner and hopefully means we feel safe enough to be honest and express our feelings.” However, if your fights end in more frustration than resolution, it could be time to revaluate your argument style. “When we argue, we want to listen to our partners and keep the conversation to one specific topic,” she says, “as well as not name calling and being otherwise respectful.”

3. Don’t discuss your sex-life problems. It’ll make things worse.
If you’re headed for or already in a sex slump, now’s not the time to stick your head under the covers and hope your sex life heals itself. “It’s important to discuss this with your partner even more so than with your friends,” says Greer. “Don’t focus so much on hurting your partner’s feelings — just be honest and authentic. Figure out how to make your sexual experience more exciting.”

See More: What You’re Doing Wrong When It Comes To Sex

4. Love is enough.
Love is obviously a very important ingredient for any successful relationship. But, “while love is extremely important, it is not the only important factor,” says Needle. “Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should be in a relationship with them. Other factors such as mutual respect, trust, communication, and similar values among some are incredibly important and relationships need them to survive.”

5. Buy whatever you want as long as he doesn’t find out.
Any advice that encourages you to hide something from your partner, rather than face an issue head-on, is probably no good. “While your friend might have your best interests at heart, it’s important you take a direct stand with your husband and discuss your financial needs so you don’t need to sneak around,” says Greer. “Let your husband know you have real needs that must be built in.”

6. If it is not easy, it’s not meant to be.
“No, no, no, no,” says Needle. “Relationships take work.” Just like you put effort into your killer career or even your exercise routine, you have to focus time and energy into growing your relationship. And that won’t always be easy. “You have to continue to get to know your partner and make a conscious effort to connect with and maintain intimacy with your partner,” says Needle.

Ugh, it’s like, don’t your friends realize you have a life too!? Obviously, you’re super excited for them and you’d never in a million years miss the opportunity to stand by their side as a bridesmaid on their wedding day, but seriously, if you have to buy another bridesmaid dress you’ll never actually wear again (despite what the bride says), you might scream! Well that, and the fact that your bank account is taking a major hit too. Besides saving up and grinning and bearing the whole dress thing though, here are seven other ways to survive wedding season when you feel like you’re the perpetual bridesmaid, courtesy of the professional bridesmaid herself, Jessica Janik, Founder of The Invisible Bridesmaid.

1. Be honest with the bride from the get-go.
Have a lot on your personal plate already? Then let the bride know, recommends Janik. “Don’t take on too much, and know your limits.” Speak up if you’re constantly being asked to help out and are feeling overwhelmed. “This way, the bride can pass the duty on to someone else rather than stressing you out.” Besides, the last thing you want to do is be that bitter bridesmaid, right?

2. Don’t procrastinate.
If there’s one way to avoid unnecessary stress (and stay on the bride’s good side!) it’s to not wait until the last minute to get the job done. “Order your dress right away, prepare and practice your speech and try to get your jewels and appointments all in order ahead of time,” advises Janik. This way nothing piles up and nobody gets upset.

3. Keep your cool.
Managing daily life can be tough as it is but to deal with planning someone else’s wedding on top of everything else only adds more stress to your plate, points out Janik. “So if the bride has a bridezilla moment, just remember this is temporary and remind yourself that she’s overwhelmed too and might not mean what she just said. If you keep this in mind you can try to have more patience with her, and she’ll probably apologize at some point afterwards anyway.” Maybe now’s a good time to take up yoga classes or meditation together!

4. Eat, drink water and go easy on the booze.
You know yourself and you know your limits. If you’re that person who doesn’t like to eat at a party, Janik urges you to get some food in your stomach beforehand and always stay hydrated, especially if you’ll be sipping on champagne with the girls while getting ready. Speaking of alcohol, remember that when you’re a bridesmaid, weddings are a marathon, not a sprint. So don’t get too tipsy early on in the day or you’ll totes regret all that bubbly by the time the reception rolls around.

See More: Pay Up! 4 Things You’ll Be Asked to Contribute to as a Bridesmaid

5. If it’s a destination wedding, turn it in to a vacation.
If there’s one way to get through wedding season, it’s to make it one big vacation! Instead of dreading paying so much money for someone else’s event, look on the bright side and use it as an excuse to take a trip, suggests Janik. “Go earlier or stay longer after the wedding. This will not only allow you to have some free time to do your own thing but will also most likely allow you to get in some great quality moments with the bride and groom.”

6. Save the drama.
Literally check it at the door! Weddings can bring up a lot of feelings that you might be dealing with in your own personal life, notes Janik, particularly if you’re constantly asked to be a bridesmaid in your friends’ weddings. Your feelings have nothing to do with anyone else there so her best advice? “Keep them locked up for now, and I promise this will allow you to say, ‘Wow I had a really great time’ at the end of the night.”

7. Get to choose your own bridesmaid dress? Then keep it tasteful. Oh, and wear comfy shoes too.
Definitely make sure the dress isn’t too tight or skimpy, warns Janik. “The worst sight at a wedding is seeing a bridesmaid’s outfit that screams look at me, and the last thing you want to get at a wedding, of course, is dirty looks, eek!” While we’re on the subject, she says comfy shoes are key too. If you’re a seasoned bridesmaid, chances are you already know this by now or have learned your lesson. “Sore feet can last more than a week, which can really drag you down during wedding season.”

The courting bells are ringing for one member of the famous Duggar clan. And you know what comes soon after that… Jinger Duggar just announced her courtship with professional soccer player Jeremy Vuolo. Now please excuse us while we begin dreaming up bridesmaid dresses for her nine sisters!

22-year-old Jinger is the latest Duggar sister to engage in her 19 Kids and Counting‘s family approved form of dating — which, in case you forgot, consists of no sex, no kissing, chaperoned dates, and side-hugs only. (Sounds super fun, right?) The lucky man is none other than pro athlete 28-year-old Jeremy Vuolo, whom she met last May and later had the opportunity to join for a mission trip. “It was there that I really saw his heart and really admired his character,” Jinger explained to to People magazine.

“I was initially friends with Ben Seewald and Jessa [Duggar Seewald],” Jinger’s new sweetheart piped in. “And it was through them that I got to meet Jinger. We are very excited to begin this journey together.”

Sounds like this soccer hunk already has that Duggar family stamp of approval! And we’re guessing that’s no easy task when it comes to the uber-conservative (and ultra-controversial…) fam. But from the sound of it, Vuolo is their kind of guy. After graduating from Syracuse University and playing for the New York Red Bulls, he took a break from sports to pursue work in ministry, before signing with the San Antonio Scorpions in 2013. Those Christian values have got to please mom and dad, right? (And you thought your future in-laws were tough…)

Vuolo and his romantic (light on the romance) relationship with Jinger is set to take center stage on the Duggar’s TLC show, Counting On later this summer, so we’ll get to sneak a peek into their lives together — and hopefully, down the line, wedding plans! First comes courting, then comes marriage, right? Remember big sister Jessa’s beautiful blush wedding dress? Say what you want about this family, but you can’t deny they know how to seriously rock wedding day wear!

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When it comes to buying presents, there are lot of different people that you must remember — the most important being your groom. Surprise him on the big day (or just before) by giving him a gift that was (literally) made for him. For our Chicago brides, here are seven of our favorite places in Chicago to find a custom-made present for your groom.

Sarah Drake
If he’s bound to shed a few tears once he spots you walking down the aisle, a personalized handkerchief from Sarah Drake gives him an elegant way to wipe them away. You can choose the thread color–perhaps your wedding colors?–and what you’d like embroidered. You can include anything from your and his initials to your wedding date. Read real brides reviews here!

Nordstrom
The personalization options at Nordstrom are endless. We especially love the Magnificent Mile department store’s gift options from Cathy Concepts, a brand that specializes in monogrammed goods. Choose a pocket watch with his first initial on it if he’s an old soul or travel accessories if he’s a world traveler. Monogrammed men’s dopp kits and luggage tags ensure your new husband is ready to hit your honeymoon in style.

Trunk Club
To truly set the bar high and wow him in advance of the big day, visit the custom experts at Trunk Club. You’ll need to plan a few months in advance, but a custom tux, suit, or shirt is one he’ll cherish on your wedding day and forever after that. The process of having the item made is a gift in and of itself: Visit the River North “clubhouse” to meet with a stylist who’ll set him up with a drink from the in-house bar, walk him through the fabric options, and take 26 of his measurements. About eight weeks later, he’ll return for his final fitting and be set for the big day. Read real brides reviews here!

See More: Thinking About Your Wedding Favors? Check Out These Chicago Favor Vendors!

EngraveTech
The engraving specialists at the Loop shop can customize just about anything you bring in, from a watch you’d like personalized with his name on back to a flask he can pull out on the way to the ceremony to calm any pre-wedding jitters.

Shinola
American made is the name of the game at Shinola’s Bucktown brick-and-mortar shop. The leather on their handsome wallets and passport covers comes from Chicago’s Horween tannery and will only get better with age as he carries it on endless dates and overseas adventures.

Tiffany & Co.
The little blue box is already the epitome of luxury, but receiving one is even more special when what’s inside has been tailored for you. Visit the Michigan Avenue location and pick out a pair of sophisticated cufflinks in sterling silver for your groom. Then, go the extra step and have Tiffany & Co. engrave them with his initials. They’ll become an instant keepsake that he just might pass onto your future son one day.

Barneys New York
If your hubs to be is known for his hip personal style, find a piece of jewelry to complement it. That way, you know he’ll wear it—and love it—for years to come. Barneys New York, located in the Gold Coast, carries the brand Giles and Brother, which is known for creating hammered bracelets that Justin Theroux might wear. Have one engraved with your nickname for him or your wedding date. You can choose up to eight letters and symbols.

Visit our Local Vendors page to find more places to buy gifts for your groom!

Between ages 20 and 29, you can get away with a lot. It’s common to be figuring out your life plan, to be adventuring, exploring, experimenting. Changing jobs is to be expected. Dating different people is common. Not cooking for yourself or planning for retirement and going out several nights a week is a-okay, because everyone you know is doing it.

Everyone older than you gives a wry smile when they find out your age and calls you “just a kid.” On one hand, kind of insulting — after all, you’re working really hard to figure things out! On the other hand, it’s a little release on the pressure valve. After all, expectations aren’t through the roof for “kids.”

And then–boom.

You round the corner on 30 and no one thinks you’re a kid anymore. There’s pressure to have everything figured out, be solid in your career and relationships, to have kids and a financial plan, to clarify a sense of direction in your life.

And the pressure begins.

Thankfully, just because you turn 30 doesn’t mean you suddenly have to have all the answers and become super serious with no sense of fun (please, keep your youthfulness as long as you can!). Regardless of what lies ahead in your fourth decade, there a few things everyone could stand to take stock of–you know, those things that seem totally okay in your twenties–that will probably not serve you moving forward, at least not in excess.

Ready? You’re a big kid. You can handle it.

Binge drinking
Sorry, friend. Those all-nighters at the club are wreaking havoc on your body, sleep schedule and mental acuity. While the standard recommended maximum of drinks for adults is five to seven per week (women on the low end, men on the higher end), it’s absolute chaos for your system to have your weekly allotment all in one night. As your organs age along with you, they become more and more sensitive to the effects of alcohol and less and less able to regenerate quickly.

Benders set you up for chronic health problems, including kidney and liver disease and disordered sleep, and often lead to other potentially harmful behavior… like texting your ex in the middle of the night or being passed over for a promotion because you fall asleep at your desk. Stick to a few drinks a week, you classy grown up, you.

Staying in unhealthy relationships
That guy you started dating because everyone you showed his Tinder photo to thought he was hot? The one who stands you up all the time and whom you’re pretty sure is dating someone else? That friend who consistently puts you down or leaves you out of plans with her “better” friends?

Ditch ’em.

These folks are draining your emotional resources and taking up too much of your precious time, energy and life force. Putting up with being mistreated–for popularity, image, status, whatever the reason — will continue to deplete you. You deserve better. Get in touch with your future self and ask her what she wants in her relationships. She probably wants to be valued and treated well. Maybe she wants to laugh. Do her a favor and cut ties with anyone taking advantage of your beautiful self and save your best for the people who deserve it.

Relying on Seamless for all your meals
Takeout, while convenient and delicious, stops being cool for every meal somewhere around 30. (Sorry.) Not only is it often overloaded with sugar (think Thai food) and salt (think everything else), many restaurants don’t rely on the best quality of produce. So even if you’re eating veggies, you’re likely lacking the variety of nutrients your mature body needs, especially if you eat the same Chipotle bowl seven times a week. Plus, ordering in every meal is more than three times as expensive for the average single person than it would be to cook at home. Unless you have no other financial goals in your life, this isn’t going to do you any favors.

Start thinking about budgeting time and money each week to prepare your own food–even just a few meals to start will make a difference! It doesn’t have to be anything fancy: a couple of roasted sweet potatoes, a homemade salad and a pot of quinoa can go a long way for your body, your wallet and in making you feel like a legitimate grown up.

Not wearing sunscreen…or flossing
These simple personal care tasks are key to long-term health, and ignoring the consequences of not doing them isn’t sexy. Cut your skin cancer risk by using an SPF of 15-45 on your face and any exposed skin every day, and protect your oral health by flossing daily. Just do it. The alternative might be dentures in your 40s.

Arguing with your parents over nothing
Sure, they make you crazy, but now that you’re an adult, cut them some slack. They’re human, and they’re probably not trying to make you miserable. Try to reconnect with them as adults and find things you have in common. It’s probably more than you think! Call them every once in a while, too; they’ll appreciate it.

Being late
As comedian Mike Birbiglia says, “It’s easy to be on time: Just be early. On time lasts one minute… and then you’re late. Forever.” Being perpetually late is kind of okay when you’re a teenager or early twentysomething and don’t have control over your transportation or adequate frontal cortex development to effectively plan your time. By 30, it’s time to demonstrate some professionalism and consideration. Leave yourself extra time, plan for obstacles and set yourself up to arrive on time (read: early).

Creating barriers for yourself, in love, career or adventure
By the start of your fourth decade, you have ample life experience behind you. Acknowledge and take advantage of opportunities that present themselves. You have everything you need to take on big challenges that might lead to big rewards — the only thing in your way is your belief that you’re still too young/ too untrained/ too unstable to go after what you want. Recognize that you’ve spent the last 30 years proving yourself and acquiring the qualities required to achieve big things. Now is the time to get out of your own way and seize your 30s courageously!

See More: How Wedding Planning Differs in Your 20’s vs. Your 30’s

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Every bride wants to look her best on her wedding day, which is why they turn to makeup pros to transform them into the best versions of themselves. But one thing even the very best makeup artist can’t avoid? The need for touch-ups! That is, of course, unless you turn to some of the most popular semi-permanent makeup options available. They’re natural, they’re relatively pain-free, and they last — which means you can stay on the dance floor instead of heading into the bathroom to powder your nose! Here are some of our favorite choices for makeup that will definitely last from your first kiss to the last dance, and then some.

Peel-Off Lip Stain
All the rage on social media, these stains advertise a 10-hour wear that won’t smudge onto your new hubby’s shirt or rub off on your champagne glass. A number of brands are advertising the product, but one stands out: Cocoon Lip Stain by Cailyn. In four eye-catching shades, the premise is simple. Apply the thick stain with a brush and let it set for 10 minutes, then gently peel it off, leaving behind rich color that’s going nowhere. Add a swipe of gloss for moisture and shine, and you’re good to go! In fact, you might have a hint of color left for your morning-after brunch.

Eyebrow Tinting
If you’re blessed with brows, just not with brow color (or don’t love the pencils and powders), consider tinting, instead. The semi-permanent color will darken your brows, as well as add color to those blonde baby hairs you didn’t even know you had. The color will last for a few weeks, fading only as your brows naturally fall out and new brows grow in.

Eyelash Extensions
Wimpy eyelashes? Have no fear! Eyelash extensions will give you the look of falsies (or something a little more natural if you so desire), but with a much longer life. Once you pick a length, lashes are individually glued at the base of your natural eyelashes to add length and fullness. Be sure to visit a professional who will be able to use the smallest amount of glue for a lighter look (as well as high-quality products that will be less irritating and longer-lasting), and get ready to bat your eyes!

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Micro-Bladed Brows
The most permanent of our semi-permanent makeup favorites, having your brows micro-bladed is essentially a series of tiny, incredibly precise tattoos on your brow that mimic the look of natural hairs, creating the appearance of fullness and darker color. Technically considered permanent makeup, micro-blading is a fantastic way to fill in sparse spots and pretty much eliminates the need to fill in your eyebrows for up to a year (or longer with regular touch-ups). It’s not completely pain-free — what tattoo is? — but beauty is pain, right? Before you head to the salon, do your research. Tattoos are regulated state-by-state, as are aestheticians, so find someone with great credentials and high-quality tools and products. Amazing before-and-after pictures help, too!

Getting married someplace tropical is delightful literally any time of year, but if you’re going to go tropical in the summertime, you have to expect a little extra heat.

Your wedding guests will understand what they’re getting themselves into (maybe) and won’t accept your wedding invitation if they find extreme heat and humidity unbearable, but for all of those loved ones who do travel close to the equator for your big day, you should do everything possible to make sure their experience is as comfortable as possible.

Many tropical wedding venues are outside on a beach, or along the water, because it’s not that common to have large, air-conditioned spaces in those destinations, unless you’re in the ballroom at a chain hotel or resort. While you’re certainly hoping for just the right breeze outside, you have to plan ahead.

You don’t have to mist your guests like veggies in a grocery store, but you do need to keep their comfort (and your own) in mind when making decisions about the following three things:

1. Accommodations: Make sure you offer air-conditioned lodging options to your guests when you provide the travel information for your destination wedding. Don’t obligate yourself to fill 15 rooms at a trendy eco-resort in August if you don’t have 30 friends who like to sweat and don’t mind sleeping under bug nets. If that’s your pleasure, by all means, go green! But don’t ask everybody who is joining you in the tropics for your wedding to sleep without cool air. No matter how hot it gets in the daytime, your guests will have fun as long as they can sleep comfortably.

2. Timing: I wouldn’t recommend having your wedding ceremony in the morning or the middle of the day. It just keeps getting hotter until about 3:30 in the afternoon, and even with tents, your guests will have a tough time enjoying themselves. A lot of guests might not feel like dancing, and everybody will likely be sweaty messes in pictures.

3) Self-Serve Beverages: Wedding guests have a tendency to over-drink at tropical wedding receptions because they’re hot and they’re thirsty. To combat guests overindulging on cocktails, offer a self-serve dispenser of ice water (float fruit slices in it for color and a bit of flavor) beside the bar so that guests may help themselves to as many cold cups of water as they like and need. People will usually order a cocktail when they have to get their drink at the bar, figuring they don’t want to have a whole bottle of water. If there’s a cold water dispenser on the bar, they’ll likely drink a cup or two while waiting in line at the bar, and standing in that area. Some brides and grooms offer self-serve lemonade and iced tea to their guests as well — it’s all about location and availability. You can make the display look really cute, and in doing so, attract more people to help themselves so that you keep your guests hydrated and a little less intoxicated.

See More: The Ultimate Summer-Wedding Survival Guide for Brides

Sandy Malone is the owner of Sandy Malone Weddings & Events and author of How to Plan Your Own Destination Wedding: Do-It-Yourself Tips from an Experienced Professional. Sandy is the star of TLC’s reality show Wedding Island, about her destination wedding planning company, Weddings in Vieques.