The holidays are called the most wonderful time of the year for a reason: lots of great parties, yummy food, glitter everywhere, and quality time spent with your friends and family. Plus it’s engagement season — our favorite time of the year! Engagement parties and winter weddings galore will have you searching for that perfect guest outfit.

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And though we’re brimming with excitement each year for engagement parties, holiday parties, and winter weddings, we can never figure out exactly to wear—file it under fashion girl problems. Reformation to the rescue! Reformation has just released its holiday collection, full of dresses, separates, and jumpsuits that are chic enough for all of our upcoming parties. It’s why the brand is a go-to for style stars like Ashley Madekwe, Margot Robbie, and Rosie Huntington-Whiteley.

With a jam-packed social calendar and party photos that will be posted all over Instagram, you need looks that will turn heads and drop jaws—but comfort cannot be sacrificed. You get all that and more here with leg-baring slip dresses, sumptuous velvet, and wrap silhouettes that work for all shapes and sizes. The palette and textures are rich and flavorful: gilded metallics, feathers, silk satin, and vibrant Fall-perfect florals.

We suggest pairing a cutout, off-the-shoulder jumpsuit with a white cape blazer and statement-making crystal earrings for some bridal flair for your engagement party. And you can complement a gold lamé maxi dress with simple patent pumps and a sleek chignon for your BFF’s winter wonderland wedding.

Reformation’s Holiday collection is available today on the brand’s website — with prices ranging from $98 for sultry slip dresses to $248 for more intricate velvet maxi styles, so you won’t have to worry about shattering the bank this season.

Last week we reported that Mariah Carey and her fiancé James Packer have sadly called it quits. But the plot thickens: the pop star is apparently demanding $50 million from her billionaire ex-beau because it was stated on their unsigned prenup — even though they’re, er, not getting married!

According to TMZ, MiMi is asking for a $50 million check which she would have received upon Packer signing off on the prenup. Talk about a pretty sweet wedding gift from your now ex-hubs! This is where it gets sticky: In the prenup, it was noted that any jewelry Packer gave the singer would be returned to him — but that she was entitled to $50 million if she and her beau were to break up. Well, here we are at the end result, and songbird is looking for some cold hard cash.

Word on the street was that the Australian billionaire actually wanted to lock down the prenup asap, as he wanted to marry Ms. Carey in Bora Bora this past spring in a commitment ceremony — even though she is still legally married to Nick Cannon. Being that the doc was so complicated, it took a little longer than expected for their lawyers to peruse, and then the trouble in paradise (not literally, unfortunately for the duo) began.

The two reportedly broke up when Carey had some sort of secret “meeting” with a backup dancer at her Vegas show (which was to be exposed on her upcoming reality show). As you know, the Australian billionaire wanted nothing to do with his fianceé’s reality show, and it spawned their breakup. “It’s all over,” a close family friend told Woman’s Day. “James had huge reservations about Mariah’s new reality TV show and the fact that she was willing to expose their lives to the world.”

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With all of this legal back and forth, it will be interesting to see if the hitmaker gets her $50 mil. With a closet full of Grammys and a reality show in the works, you never know when you might need some new shoes. Pouring one out for this power couple (and perhaps Packer’s bank account). Although when you’re a billionaire, what’s a measly $50 mil check? Ahh, must be the life.

Most couples know that there are items from their wedding that they’d like to save, but are unsure of what to do next. If you are a lover of traditions and looking forward to passing your wedding heirlooms on through the generations on your family, it will take a bit of advance planning. From your shoes, to your garter, to your wedding day signage, there are so many great wedding memories that you can preserve. Wedding keepsakes take time to gather and advance planning to save, so while it doesn’t seem necessary now, it’s important to think about in advance. Here is a list of possible items to save and some advice for planning ahead to preserve those wedding day moments most precious to you.

Plan Ahead
Before your wedding, spend a few minutes thinking about the things that you’d like to save. Many (but not all) wedding heirlooms require a bit of planning. Do some research in advance and think the wedding heirlooms that you’d like to hold onto.

Make It Special
What you save from your wedding must be special to you. Only you know what those special, savable items are. When thinking about your wedding keepsakes, think about items that are easy to store and that you will want to pass down to future generations.

Let It Be Known
Let the important people in your wedding know the things that you’d like to save from your wedding. How will your friends know that you want to save a cocktail napkin, if they don’t set one aside for you? Often the little wedding day paper goods — like ceremony programs, signs, and extra wedding favors — get tossed into the trash in the rush to stick to the wedding timeline. Make sure the important people know what is on your to-save list.

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Better Yet, Tell Your Planner
On the day of your wedding, you can designate a friend or family member to be in charge of saving those special keepsakes from your wedding. (Be sure to alert them in advance of their task!) Better than a friend is your wedding planner. If he or she knows about the things that you’d like to save from your wedding, they can help you plan ahead and ensure that your keepsake box is fully stocked after your wedding.

Be Specific
There are several specific wedding items that require a bit of advance planning if you know you’d like to save them. For example, it is possible to have your bridal bouquet preserved after your wedding, but it is much easier for your florist to make this possible if he or she knows in advance that you’d like to save your bouquet.

Clean It Now
Be sure to properly clean wearable items like your garter, dress and veil before packing it away to prevent fabric aging. When your wedding dress drags on the ground and gets dirty, it is easier to clean now than 30 years from now.

Usable Keepsakes
Saving items from your wedding doesn’t always mean you stuff them in the box and never look at them again. There are many items that are usable after your wedding and are considered wedding keepsakes. Your bridal shoes are a great example of something that is perfectly useable after your wedding, if you choose the right pair of shoes that you love. Additionally, there are many guest book options, such as furniture, or live paintings and signs that can be used day-to-day in your married life.

Julianne Smith is The Garter Girl, a stylish wedding garter company hand making modern heirlooms for today’s brides. She is on a mission to modernize the oldest wedding tradition and provide women something sophisticated to wear on their big day. She is a reformed political junkie with a love of tradition, an eye for style, and a passion for beautiful things. You can find more at www.thegartergirl.com, on social @gartergirl, or at the park in our nation’s capital with her three little kids.

There is nothing more painful than watching your marriage disintegrate before your eyes. It hurts. In fact, it may be amongst the most painful experiences you will have in your lifetime.

During our many radio and television interviews over the years, we are often asked this simple question, “How will I know if my marriage is in trouble?“

Our research with couples around the world has identified the 7 warning signs that your spell trouble for your marriage:

1. One or both of you show increasing disrespect for each other.

In failing marriages, there are growing signs of disrespect. Resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love. You go out of your way to avoid being together.

And sadly, you are happier away from your spouse than when you are with them. Having fun with your mate seems to be a thing of the past. When mutual respect and understanding fail, your marriage is well on the way to its end. Make no mistake about that.

2. You fight and argue much more often than before and do so unfairly.

Fact is, you have nothing nice to say to or about each other anymore. You love to nitpick at each other. Your teasing isn’t fun, it is now painful and hurtful. You use each other as personal pincushions!

Sadly, your arguments are repeatedly about the same subjects. You are increasingly critical of each other, you fight constantly, and you no longer fight fair. As we have said many times before, it’s okay to argue — all successfully married couples do.

But the truth is this, successfully married couples have learned how to fight fair. Their arguments do not become personal and attack oriented.

3. You and your spouse are no longer capable of communicating with each other in meaningful and productive ways.

Communication between a husband and a wife is of paramount importance to the health of a successful marital relationship. Failing marriages communicate less and less. There are fewer and fewer meaningful exchanges between the two people who occupy the marriage bond.

Worse yet, they don’t talk with each other about their mutual problems anymore. Frankly, failing marriages lose the ability and the willingness to resolve their marital problems. They just don’t care anymore.

When communication between a husband and wife shuts down, there is little hope for the marriage. Always remember this, no problem was ever resolved, no divide ever bridged, and no disagreement ever broached when people refused to communicate.

When communication falters, a marriage is in trouble.

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4. Sexual intimacy in your marriage is low and increasingly non-existent.

In a failing marriage, sexual intimacy is low. Sexual intimacy becomes more and more infrequent. Marriage partners turn into roommates, they live together in the same home, but do not share the intimacies of a marriage. Unfortunately, intimacy becomes a thing of the past.

It is clear from our more than 30 years of research that sexual intimacy is overrated when it comes to the best marriages. There are many other elements that are equally or more important to a successful marriage than sex. But make no mistake about it — intimacy is about more than good sex.

Intimacy is holding hands on a walk, snuggling in the morning, hugging a lot, touching each other, and, in general, feeling emotion for each other.

5. Your conversations and discussions are dominated by financial arguments

It is clear, when you argue increasingly and incessantly about financial issues, your marriage is in trouble. We have written extensively about this subject over the past two years, and if the truth were known, most arguments in a marriage center on financial issues.

Worse yet, you discover your spouse is lying about money and other financial related issues. They lie about the bills, the balances, the payoffs, and the commitments. A very bad sign, indeed.

It’s clear that we live in trying times when it comes to the economy and finances. But the truth is that the best marriages survive and thrive during trying economic times. The best marriages find a way to deal with the economic uncertainties.

Failing marriages have not learned to cope with economic uncertainty because they have not learned how to communicate with each other. If all you talk about is your financial plight, you marriage is in trouble.

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6. Your spouse cannot be trusted anymore.

Trust is the centerpiece of a great marriage! In fact, there is nothing more central to a successful marriage than the ability to trust. If you can’t trust your spouse, whom can you trust?

When you or your spouse start to have thoughts of being unfaithful and think more and more about divorce, your marriage is in trouble. Let’s face it, when the trust level between you and your spouse nears zero, there is little hope for your marriage.

7. Family members increasingly choose up sides instead of striving for common ground and common understandings.

Your immediate family find it more and more difficult to find common ground in debates, discussions, and conversations. Family members start to choose up sides. Winning and losing becomes the order of the day. Compromise is out the window.

Moreover, you and your spouse try to isolate each other from family and friends. Divide and conquer becomes the order of the day.

It’s sad but true, those marriages that become dysfunctional display symptoms of division and lack of common understandings among family members. Family unity begins to disintegrate. Feuding families are not good for a healthy marriage.

To summarize, try to recognize the telltale signs of a failing marriage. Pay close attention. When you witness the signs, take action. Save your relationship if you can. Having a healthy and happy marriage is one of the great success stories of life. It is not too late to save your marriage.

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Creating a successful marriage is not always the easiest thing to do. Your visiting our blog suggests you are highly interested in making your marriage work! And truthfully, we have learned over 30 years of marriage research that there are proven effective ways to ensure a happy and healthy marriage. In fact, we took hundreds of tips from the thousands of happy couples we interviewed and put them into our award-winning and bestselling book, Building a Love that Lasts. —By Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz, America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts

This article originally appeared on YourTango.

Sweating for the wedding or shedding for the wedding — whatever you call it, we’re sure you’ve contemplated upping your gym workouts before the big day. After all, who doesn’t want to rock toned arms and a kickass booty down the aisle? Adrienne Bailon definitely does! And she has the amazing weight loss results to prove it.

Bailon, who is engaged to fiancé Israel Houghton, recently took to Instagram to document her weight loss journey — AND to reveal her secret on how she’s been slimming down so fast. The singer-songwriter revealed she’s lost a total of 15 pounds so far, and TBH we’re a little jealous of her speedy results. On the Instagram video Bailon wrote, “Well folks, I’ve lost 15 lbs & counting! Can’t stop. Won’t stop. Focused! It’s always tea time in my dress room! Loving my detox with @fittea! Have you joined me?! Um, it’s November 1st! The perfect time to start!”

Wait, are you telling us TEA is her weight loss secret? K, we’ll guzzle tea for days if it means dropping 15 pounds!

Sadly, Bailon has been subjected to heightened public scrutiny about her weight this year, which she felt the need to address on her talk show, The Real. “I just want to make an announcement,” the Cheetah Girl actress told her audience. “I am not pregnant, people. I’m happy! I’m wearing slightly larger clothing.”

We’d be happy too with a sparkler like that! Bailon recently gave us a clearer picture of her cushion-cut bling when she traveled to Paris for her 33rd birthday and posted a stunning Insta of herself on a balcony overlooking the Eiffel Tower. She wrote, “Looking into this new year of life with so much gratitude & excitement for the future! Thank you for all of your beautiful birthday wishes. My heart is so full. Thank you Lord for another year!”

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So, the moral to the story? Stay happy and drink more tea!

H EL L O N O V E M B E R ??? #Ad Well folks, I've lost 15lbs & counting! Can't stop. Won't stop. Focused! Ha. It's always tea time in my dressing room! Loving my detox with @fittea! Have you joined me?! Um, it's November 1st! The perfect time to start! Stay classy lol. XO #TeaTime #FitTea #Detox

A video posted by Adrienne Bailon (@adriennebailon) on Nov 1, 2016 at 10:05am PDT

33 ??? Looking into this new year of life with so much gratitude & excitement for the future! Thank you for all of your beautiful birthday wishes. My heart is so full. Thank you Lord for another year! #October24 #BornDay #Scorpio

A photo posted by Adrienne Bailon (@adriennebailon) on Oct 24, 2016 at 9:21pm PDT

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A photo posted by Adrienne Bailon (@adriennebailon) on Oct 17, 2016 at 1:38pm PDT

It all started when I realized I was feeling compelled to look at my phone. Not cued to, by some Pavlovian ding signaling me to check for texts or reminders, but physically drawn to looking at my phone.

Open Instagram. Check comments. Close.
Open Facebook. Scroll through Home Feed for 10 seconds. Close.
Open Twitter. Check follower count.
Check email.
Check shopping list.
Take photo. Delete photo. Take new photo.
Repeat.

On and on, all day, without reason or warning, I would find myself pulling my phone from my bag or pocket and mindlessly drifting out of the present to dwell on something happening someplace else to someone else.

I needed an intervention. I needed a tech detox. I challenged myself to do the unheard of: not turn on my iPhone for an entire weekend.

I chose a weekend without travel or plans taking me too far from home, a weekend when my husband was out of town and my schedule was quite open. If I was going to break this habit, I needed space and time for distraction and outdoorsy-ness, and I aimed to make that as simple as possible. Friday night through Sunday night, no phone. I could do this. Right?

I let my family and closest, most-often texted friends know what I intended to do, so that no one would worry, and gave them the name and number of a neighbor to call just in case anything urgent happened.

I set a screen-off time of 7 p.m. Friday, then powered down. I tucked the phone into a drawer so I wouldn’t be tempted to check it. I looked at the dog. He looked at me. I guess now we walk? We always walk. I always bring my phone. Not this time.

As we hiked — truly, the only word to describe dog walking in any part of even the most urban places in San Francisco — the urge to reach for my pocket surfaced every couple of minutes. (Was I hearing phantom dings?!) I consciously, and sometimes audibly, reminded myself of what I intended to do, and decided to pay more attention to what was unfolding around me: the dog so happy to be out for an adventure, the fanny-pack clad tourists climbing the stairs, the color of the sky heading into dusk. I live in a beautiful place. There are fascinating people here. I love that dog. Oh, hey, awareness. Good to see you. It turned out to be one of the best walks in recent memory, which I would have missed had I been constantly refreshing my Instagram.

First thing the next morning — thankfully, I awoke at my usual time, sans iPhone alarm (really? I have no back-up plan for an alarm?), I headed off to class, about 1.5 miles away. I usually run there to a high-energy, get-you-up-the-hill playlist. This morning, no music, which, like my alarm, lives comfortably in my iPhone.

I heard my breathing more clearly as I ran, noticed when it regulated (at that sweet spot about five minutes in) and felt more like I was running in nature. There was no distraction of the rectangle tucked into my bra, the soundtrack in my ears and the occasional ding of the early morning texts from family on the opposite coast.

It was a good run. Different. Tougher. But good. Maybe I don’t need the phone for this portion of my morning as much as I thought?

In the minutes leading up to class (usually prime phone-checking time), I found myself a little lost for things to do. Read chalkboard. Look at merchandise. Oh, hang on, there are a whole bunch of people here I can speak to. Never a shy person, just sometimes distracted by that really important work e-mail I have to deal with right now, I locked eyes with another student a few feet away and launched into a conversation (obviously, about ClassPass).

Turns out, we go to many of the same studios, like many of the same kinds of classes and live nearby. Maybe we’ll meet for a run or drinks sometime? I had to ask her to text me her info and told her I’d be in touch after the following evening, when I was off my phone sabbatical. Strike one against being phone-free: Having that device handy right then would have saved some awkwardness, but all things told, it was fine. I knew that text would be waiting when I checked tomorrow.

Later that day, I ventured out with the dog to check out the farmers’ market, something we love to do on the weekends when my husband travels. It’s prime people-watching territory and prime photo-taking terrain: gorgeous views of the piers and bridges, palm-tree lined thoroughfares, and the seemingly endless bay. When we got out to the water — after a podcast-free walk (how would I know what happened in the news without NPR? I wondered) but a new appreciation for the traffic patterns of the human species — I had to choke back a sad little realization that I couldn’t take pictures today. Was it even worth being there?

Whoa. Gross, I thought to myself. Am I coming here to take pictures just to be able to show them off? That was a super informative moment (and earlier into my experiment than I would have expected!). I made a mental note to myself: Your life is lived right now. It’s valid right now, exactly as it is and as it happens. Not because someone later looks at a captured moment and decides that moment was likable.

I shook that off and continued on the adventure to the market. I was going to get every single sensory thing from this, the sounds, the sights, the smells, even if I couldn’t capture it and share it with everyone I know later. It was a wonderfully present, educational trip. I learned about mushrooms, and I didn’t have to Google a single thing.

That evening, I had plans to meet a girlfriend for dinner and drinks across town. I knew the neighborhood and cross-streets I was headed to, but not exactly how to get there. I packed a book in my bag, walked to the corner and waited for the bus. You’d be so proud: I went the whole time without checking an app incessantly to see when the next one would come. Lo and behold, without checking, a bus did eventually show up. Perhaps all that checking, checking, checking isn’t productive at all? I definitely read more pages in my book, sans iPhone disruption. I read on the bus, too, a far more calming transit activity than trying to organize e-mail or calendar events.

When I got off the bus, I didn’t know which direction to go, so I asked a couple standing nearby. Just like that! Just asked them. And they told me. And they recommended the sweet potato fries. Ah yes, the value add of a real human!

I found my way there, no maps app required, and spent a lovely evening out with a great friend, not worrying about taking photos or Instagramming our time or worrying that I was missing texts. I probably was missing texts, but at some point, it dawned on me that it was probably okay. There probably wasn’t anything urgent unfolding (and if there was, my neighbor would let me know when I got home). It was so beautiful to get to just focus on being exactly where I was, not fretting about what was happening someplace else.

When it came time to head home, I automatically reached into my bag for my phone to call an Uber. Oops. I guess that wouldn’t be an option tonight. I felt truly vintage fabulous as I stepped off the curb to hail a cab. How old school, I thought, having not hailed a cab since my induction into the Cult of the Uber Obsessed 18 months prior. Instead of burying myself in my phone for the trip, I rolled down the window and took in this part of town I didn’t know well and appreciated its twinkly streets. There is something to be said for paying attention to what’s going on around you.

The next day — Sunday — was my last nearly full day without a phone. I decided to go full-force low-tech and drove out to the beach with the dog. I printed a set of directions from the computer (willing myself not to look at Facebook or email while I was on there — I figured I should keep up this behavior on any device if I could help it) and packed it in my bag with a guide book to the hiking trails of the Bay Area a friend had loaned me weeks earlier. If I needed to look something up, I’d be using this well-loved paperback, not the Google machine.

I managed to get us to the coast without Siri’s guidance, only getting turned around and kind of frustrated once. I even discovered a new station on the radio. Again, how vintage. Maybe I would revisit that on my next drive instead of going back to the same playlists I always listened to. Navigation! Problem-solving! Newness! Intrigue! Being without a phone was affording me so much growth, I laughed to myself as I unloaded the dog and headed off down the cliffs for a photo-free, music-free, text-free outdoor adventure.

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Turns out, the ocean is even more beautiful when you’re actually looking at it. Turns out, too, that without constantly looking at the time or for an iMessage update from someone, the minutes take on an entirely different quality. We were on that beach for four hours; it felt like not more than a few seconds. I was more aware of the subtle qualities of the space around me: the birds, the water, the other hundreds of dogs, and more willing to engage with the other humans in that same space. Turns out, they’re also really intriguing, more intriguing than Facebook, when you take half a second to find out. I left the beach feeling alive and like I had really experienced a cool part of the city. It wouldn’t have been the same without the phone.

Using my newfound direction-finding skills, I got us home without getting lost, picked up groceries (without using an electronic shopping list or grocery-delivery app) and wrote three letters to friends, something I do regularly, but this time, I chose friends I tend only to email. It felt connected, it felt real. I was happier to drop those in the mailbox than I usually felt when I hit “send.”

What had this weekend become? I did a little body scan to see if I noticed anything different in my person.

I felt solid but light. (Perhaps because I hadn’t been looking at my phone during meals. Did I actually manage to stop eating when I was full all weekend?!) I felt clear in my head, like I knew where I was and was appreciating what was unfolding around me. My hands, usually a bit twingy, especially around my super texting tendons, didn’t hurt. Had they had a real break? Was I maybe reducing my risk of developing talon-like claws from my constant phone-holding?

More than anything, I felt calm. Things didn’t feel urgent. I wasn’t being constantly reminded by push notifications or dinged or pinged or flashed at. Everything had assumed a quietness that felt manageable. I didn’t feel behind or under-accomplished in my day, something I usually felt while the emails piled up or the excitement of others’ Facebook posts filled my subconscious with doubts about how I was spending my time. What’s that about?, I asked aloud as the realization surfaced. I felt totally content with my weekend because I’d been in it. I’d paid attention to all its little moments. I wasn’t doing anything with the intention of snapping a photo of it to share while it was still happening.

It had just… been. And I was so happy.

When 7 p.m. rolled around, I somewhat begrudgingly took the phone from its hiding spot and powered it on. I texted my husband to let him know I was still alive and back on the little black box. Then I turned off the ringer, set it on the counter and went back outside with the dog. I wanted another of those beautifully present dusk walks. Sans phone.

This post was originally published on ClassPass’s blog, The Warm Up by Danielle Page. ClassPass is a monthly membership that connects you to more than 8,500 of the best fitness studios worldwide. Learn more here.

From rolling vineyards to crafting some of the world’s finest wines, this list of New York vineyards holds the title for some of the East Coast’s most stunning outdoor wedding sites. Here are our favorite romantic vineyard wedding venues near New York City.

Martha Clara Vineyards (Above)
What was once a flourishing potato farm (bought by the Entenmann Family back in 1978) has steadily turned into one of New York’s most sought-after wedding venues. Growing from 18 acres to over 100 acres of vinifera grapes, owner Robert Entenmann has turned the rustic charm of North Fork into a vineyard getaway for his extensive list of clients (and up-to 200 of their closest friends and family). Located in a Long Island region — home to some of the best grape growing conditions in the world, this high-quality atmosphere utilizes its one-of-a-kind conditions to cultivate some of the best wines in the world. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Brooklyn Winery
Best known as one of two full-service winemaking facilities in New York City, this robust Brooklyn vineyard offers couples an extensive list of house-made wines to accompany some of New York’s lavishly hosted events. A unique vineyard backdrop offering accents of reclaimed wood and custom vintage décor fill the atmosphere of this sophisticated and urban chic Brooklyn winery. A meticulously calculated and designed interior space full of warm and romantic elements compliments the outdoor Atrium — which flaunts a glass roof and botanical hanging wall garden. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Wolffer Estate Vineyards
With its creation tackled over the span of three decades, Wolffer Estate Vineyards’ owner Christian Wolffer dedicated meticulous time and creative vision into transforming this former potato farm into one of New York’s most celebrated outdoor settings. Continuously adding more acres, paddocks, and stables, this 55-acre vineyard quickly became partners to a 175-acre estate and boarding stables. With a seamless combination of rustic vineyard vibes and elegance, this open-air getaway is the perfect destination for every nature-seeking New York couple.

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Bedell Cellars
Pioneering the art of wine making in the New York region of Long Island, it’s no surprise that this family-owned vineyard has continued to balance creativity with quality dedication when it comes to crafting some of New York’s finest wines. For 35-years, this Long Island legend has transformed the art of wine making with the use of artistically blended grapes grown in unique maritime terroir. With an experienced onsite team set to create an event of a lifetime, weddings held at this renowned vineyard incorporate the elegant backdrop of the land’s rolling vineyards and a unique open venue layout. Read real brides’ reviews here!

Channing Daughters Winery
Grown in a climate adaptable to creating a wide variety of eccentric grape varieties, this Bridgehampton winery continues to be the only winery on the East End that grows and produces wines from many of their 28-acres of vines. Sourcing about fifty percent of grapes from North Fork locals, Channing Daughters’ commitment to producing quality wines stems from their passion to create wine from their own New York region. An added sculpture garden and tasting room enhances the surrounding features of this unique wedding hotspot.

Browse even more New York “I do” locales on our Local Venues page!

While heading to a bridal salon is an exciting adventure (The choices! The accessories! The excitement of finding The Dress!), wouldn’t it be amazing if you could try on wedding dresses in the comfort of your home? Just imagine: Your appointment would be as long as you want, you could bring as many friends as you can fit in your living room, and you could sip champagne and nibble on snacks between dresses — not to mention avoiding stripping down to your skivvies in front of a stranger! Well, your dreams are about to come true, and then some.

Meet Floravere, the first custom wedding gown company delivering dresses straight to your door. The company is the brainchild of Molly Kang, a former consultant and corporate strategist who, frustrated by the antiquated process of shopping for her own bridal gown, set out to redefine the wedding dress shopping experience. Says Kang, “A wedding dress is one of the most special purchases a woman will make, yet the process of shopping for one hasn’t been updated to reflect the needs of modern brides.” She envisioned a way to purchase a luxury gown the same way she shops for the rest of her clothes: online, directly from the producer, and with no appointment necessary.

The result is an opportunity to shop for a custom — and customized — wedding gown in the comfort of your home. Gowns are designed and crafted by former artisans from Monique Lhuillier, Dior, Zac Posen, and Reem Acra, so you know you’re getting a stunning and high-quality product. You’re also getting amazing perks. Because the dresses are crafted exclusively for Floravere (and there’s no storefront involved), all gowns cost under $4,000. Every gown is made to order, so you can tailor the gown to your own style, from changing the sleeve or train to adding monogramming and special details. And it gets even better! Instead of the typical turnaround time of six to nine months, your bespoke Floravere gown will be delivered within 10-15 weeks. Thats four months or less!

Here’s how it works: Select up to three styles from the collection (named after fabulous women of literature to boot!) to be shipped to your door in their signature Bride Box (a service that’s complimentary with any purchase). Then, invite your friends, pop the champagne, and throw a try-on party to choose the gown that’s right for you. Then, return the samples and head to the site to order your gown. They use standard dress sizing instead of bridal sizing, and provide handy tips for measuring to make sure your fit is as close to perfect as possible.

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Now on to the good stuff! Here’s a peek at Floravere’s collection of seven gowns, sure to fit almost any bridal style and available now!

J. Capulet
This flowing silk chiffon gown is all about star-crossed romance. The hand-draped drop sleeves are removable, so you can dance your heart out once the ceremony is over. The option to add a thigh-high slit makes it totally modern, or stick with the classic A-line skirt and let the sheer bodice serve as your dose of sexy.

A. Hall
90s minimalism at its best, this slinky silk number is tailored and draped to perfection. A high neck, paired with a plunging sheer back, is both sleek and sexy. If you want a little more modesty, you can raise the back for slightly more coverage.

F. Daza
Individually embroidered blossoms and swirling vines over Chantilly lace harken back to this gown’s Spanish inspiration. The slim skirt is endlessly flattering and the sheer illusion neckline (with either a sleeveless or long sleeve design) and creamy hue tie it all together.

R. Gilmore
The sweetheart neckline is totally classic, while the huge hand-embroidered flowers add a dose of modern drama that Rory would love. Instead of lay-flat lace, the flowers are 3D for eye-catching texture.

H. Golightly
Floravere’s take on a ball gown, this dress is sleek and structured, with seaming that’s a couture bride’s dream. Silk Mikado gives the dress some shape, while optional pockets(!) are perfect for stashing your lip gloss and a few tissues for the ceremony.

E. Bennet
It looks classic, but this lace-and-tulle dress is hiding a sweet surprise: The tulle skirt is removable, revealing a lace mini dress for a night on the dance floor. Speaking of lace, it’s from the same mill that made the lace on both Kate Middleton and Grace Kelly’s gowns.

S. Ohara
This gown is perfect for a bride who wants some shimmer. Delicate illusion sleeves and a fitted sweetheart bodice are covered with hand-sewn crystals and beads, while airy layers keep it light and flowing instead of bedazzled and heavy.

Let’s be honest: Holiday gatherings can sometimes be more stressful than fun. And that’s if your family gets along. But a recent survey shows there’s something you should worry about beyond whether your mother will pass the gravy to the sister she hasn’t spoken to in years, and that’s political talk.

Propeller Insights polled 1,000 U.S. adults and found that 49 percent of millennials believe Thanksgiving is the tensest social event of the year, while 54 percent rank Hanukah and Christmas as the gatherings most-likely to cause serious stress. But no matter what holiday millennials think will be the worst, they all had one thing in common: They’ve got the potential to be bad, millennials said, because of political differences.

Why do political differences divide us? “Political discussions are the gateway talks for more sensitive issues like money, abortion and lifestyle values,” explains April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert. “It’s not that politics are all that sensitive, but it’s the underlying conversations that hit home. The way policies and politicians control and govern our lives hits our pocketbooks, our military, our safety and our education. And these are all areas where people tend to agree, and disagree.”

When people disagree, “they tend to either politely do so, back off and change the subject, or come out swinging and not let go,” Masini says. “The latter is what creates family fights at holidays.” And to avoid that outcome, it can be best to avoid the discussion all together. Here’s how.

1. Prepare other topics of conversation.
Long before you sit down at the dinner table, have a list of things you’d actually like to talk about prepared in your head, plus tactics to diffuse any conversation that could divide your family. “Preparation and discussion prior to a family event can be a great solution to avoiding fighting,” says Masini. Seek other’s advice, too. “You can discuss these issues with a partner, your family, or friends,” she says.

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2. Bring a plus-one (or two).
“If your family has better manners with company than it does without, [ask if you can] bring friends,” Masini suggests. “Some people behave better when they’re with new people than because old patterns that they tend to fall into are broken and avoided.” Plus, welcoming friends who don’t have their own celebrations to attend into your family gathering is always a good move, regardless of politics.

3. Be clear and move on.
When your uncle brings up the election results, say, “Listen, we’re here to celebrate, give thanks, and be together with family,” suggests Jane Greer, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. Then, she says, add, “let’s put the politics on the shelf for this occasion. We all have varying and differing points of view. We want to enjoy the day and not end up in potential conflict with each other.”

4. Be persistent.
Of course, you can’t always convince a stubborn relative to move on. So if your uncle persists in bashing Hillary Clinton, “say you respect his opinion but would rather discuss this topic at a different time,” Greer suggests. “Acknowledge his strong feelings, but explain you’re not comfortable discussing politics in this setting.”

With bachelorette parties evolving from one fun night on the local town to long weekend destination celebrations, one of the hotspots to head to is Chicago. With tons to do, see and eat (and places to party at every turn) grab your besties and head on over to Chi-town for a weekend to remember.

Where to Stay
Being the great, sprawling city it is, there are countless places to stay that will enhance your bachelorette weekend. If you want to stay in close proximity to The Loop but want a little distance from the most crowded sites, the Hotel Palomar is a great option. It has a salt water pool on the roof (weather permitting!), and a wine hour from 5-6 PM for all guests — what better way to kick off your evenings?

Where to Eat
There’s no question about it: Chicago is one of the country’s best cities for eating and drinking. Regardless of where you’re staying or what area you’re in at the time of each meal, there will be a bevy of amazing options for your group.

Breakfast and Brunch: Checking out Millennium Park is a great way to kick off a beautiful Chicago day, and if so, Wildberry Pancakes and Café might be your best bet for a convenient yet yummy breakfast. Don’t let the name fool you; they’ve got a number of amazing egg and skillet dishes that are among the best in the area. For a more adventurous breakfast, Little Goat Diner in West Loop will do the trick. Try something different, like Crumpets with Chorizo Maple Syrup, or the aptly-named Kimchee & Bacon & Eggs & Pancakes Asian Style Breakfast Tasty Thingy.

Lunch: If you’re not grabbing a hot dog, pretzel and beer at Wrigley Field for a Cubs game (which you should definitely do!), try The Purple Pig — perhaps the best restaurant on The Magnificent Mile. It’s worth getting a reservation far in advance and grabbing a seat on the patio. The small-plate style means you won’t have to worry about filling up too much during the day. The many cheeses and cured meats are perfect for group sharing, and go great with with anything off the deep menu of wines.

Dinner: If you have two or three nights in town, you’ll want to mix up what types of restaurants you go to each night. Chicago is known for its great steakhouses: try and snag a reservation for Gibson’s Bar and Steakhouse. Keep your eyes peeled — you may catch a celeb or two while enjoying a top-flight dinner. If you’re looking for Italian, Piccolo Sogno has you covered with great homemade pastas on one of the city’s best outdoor patios if the season is right. And what’s a trip to Chicago without deep dish pizza? For those of you used to New York-style thin crust, Chicago-style might feel like an entirely different food altogether. But that doesn’t mean it’s not amazing! Try Lou Malnati’s, Giordano’s, Gino’s North, or Pequod’s.

What to Do
What not to do? An extended weekend in Chicago isn’t nearly enough to do and see everything, so you’ll have to schedule some time to go back — with your new spouse, perhaps? But here are a few key suggestions:

Take a Boat Tour: There are a number of companies that run boat tours on the Chicago River (a booze cruise may suit your group well as a pregame for the night ahead). It’s a cant-miss and worth the cost. Chicago has one of the great skylines of the world, and you’ll get to see many of the amazing structures up close while cruising through the heart of the city. It’s a must.

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Catch a Cubs Game: Even if you’re not a big baseball fan, Wrigley Field is the 2nd oldest baseball stadium in the country, and is located right in the heart of the wild and fun Wrigleyville neighborhood. It’s a party before, during, and after every Cubs home game, one you want to partake in if you can.

Get Some Sun on the Beach: If the weather permits, head over to the shores of Lake Michigan. Chicago has a number of beautiful beaches to catch some rays on, especially North Ave. Beach and Oak Street Beach. (Bonus points for cute bridal party bikinis and tumblers, obviously!)