Nicole Kidman Gets Real About Her Marriage to Tom Cruise

Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman

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When thinking of power couples past (R.I.P. Brangelina…), Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise are one of the first that come to mind. The 1990s brought us Beanie Babies, Google, and the marriage between Kidman and Cruise, and the world was never quite the same.

A year after meeting on the set of Days of Thunder, the future Academy Award-winning actress and the infamous Scientologist wed in Colorado on Christmas Eve of 1990 and adopted two children. Eleven years later, the couple had called it quits. In the decade (and some) since, Kidman remarried after falling for country star Keith Urban, while Tom Cruise jumped on a couch and married — and later divorced — Katie Holmes. So how does Kidman feel about her previous starring role as the wife of Cruise? More than two decades after saying “I do,” the star is opening up…

“I was so young when I got married. I look back now and I’m like, ‘What?'” the Australian actress told the U.K.’s Red magazine. “You look at Taylor Swift, I mean how old is she? She’s 26. I had two kids by the time I was 27 and I’d been married for four years. But that’s what I wanted.”

Now older and wiser when it comes to relationships and making them work, all this star wants is hubby Keith Urban, with whom she just celebrated 10 (!) years of marriage. “That’s really big for us,” said Kidman. “It was really up and down for the first three months. We’ve been through a lot for 10 years. And we’re stronger than ever. I say that while touching wood, and no way in a boastful way. I just say it with wonder. Absolute wonder.” Aww! Kidman and Urban really never fail to make us swoon. To celebrate 10 years with his beautiful bride back in June, Urban took to social media to share their very first photo together — a very 2005 snapshot, sparkly, bedazzled top and all.

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So how did these two get from that first meeting in 2005 to their tenth anniversary? “When you’re older, you’ve been through things, you’ve made mistakes. So you come into it [a second marriage], still giddy, but wanting it to last,” explained Kidman. “We always consider the ‘us.’ We say, ‘Is this going to be good for us?’ It’s the simplest phrase, but it works.”